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AIBU to think this girl needs a slap

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 22:30

This girl who use to hang around with us was always around trouble stealing, running away, violence, drinking, smoking, drugs you name it she did it.

I kind of moved on and she moved to a different area we had each other on Facebook but don't speak. She got pregnant and proclaimed it was going to be the making of her Hmm well it wasn't unfortunately she was constantly telling the Facebook world how SS were on to her and were going to "kidnap" her baby. She had and was given a chance and after a few photo's of her changing the child with her feet holding the bottle in it's mouth with the caption "you bitches can't multi-task like me" status of how she had to go through DNA because she'd slept around and drug test because she was taking her child to be around people whom do drugs she got miffed at the world because SS took the child away.

She still see it but lashed out at everyone with a child on Facebook stating she resents them because SS are C**t's and stole her baby Hmm they don't know what they're doing even one remark about how all the SS are is a paedophile gang leader taking and giving children to paedophiles?!?!

She's now telling the world of facebook how at her next contact she's just going to take the child and run because nobody will stop her and despite having no job, money or home she can provide better than these "paedophiles Hmm because it's going to be adopted yet she constantly refuses any help

AIBU to think that maybe if she didn't constantly accuse the SS and fill her Facebook full of shit like this she may have more of a chance I try to hide her post but some just creep on in

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Joules68 · 04/01/2014 23:12

You have spoken to her once you said!!! How is that trying to help?

You've spoken more about her here than you actually have done to her. You've hid her fb feed so you don't have to interact/see her

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:13

LittleDorris

I know they've made the right decision obviously but she must love her DC like I love my DC still. Well I like to hope she does!

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Topaz25 · 04/01/2014 23:13

She has had a hard life but at some point she needs to take responsibility for making changes and if she is calling social services paedophiles rather than accepting there were valid reasons her baby was removed it sounds like she is not ready to do that. You have offered help but if she's not ready to accept it there's not much you can do, it must be frustrating.

I am concerned that she has threatened to abduct the child at the next contact, I really think someone should anonymously report that to social services. Hopefully she is just venting but she does sound unstable and she is probably desperate if the baby is due to be adopted. I think hopefully these meetings are so supervised she would not be able to get away with it but it could be harmful to the child if she tried.

LimitedEditionLady · 04/01/2014 23:14

Unfriend her or whatever it is people do on flipping facefuck.You are making something that has diddly squat to do with you an issue to you.Its none of your business,you dont need to read her posts,you dont need to pass comment on her and shes not a subject for you to have conversation about with anyone.Why you are posting about this is anyones guess.Leave her alone and find somethong else to bother yourself with.

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:16

Topazz Maybe one of her friends will but I thought SS could see Facebook etc, I know the police can.

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LittleDoris · 04/01/2014 23:16

I know they've made the right decision obviously but she must love her DC like I love my DC still. Well I like to hope she does!

She probably does. In some way. Its still no justification for you to judge her.

I can understand how frustrating it is, seriously, I have been there. But you need to move on. You being frustrated isn't helping anyone.

DamnBamboo · 04/01/2014 23:17

You sound horrible and some friend you are.

Nobody ever needs a slap.

Kleptronic · 04/01/2014 23:18

Well I've felt the same about a 'friend' and the only difference between me and the OP is that I've learned enough about the MN code of conduct to know not to start a thread with a title like that. The behaviour of my (now ex) friend did leave me wanting to slap her though.

Just so you know OP, slapping people is wrong, writing someone should be slapped is also wrong, slapping people is wrongy wrong wrong wrong wrong and against the law. Grin And rightly so.

However, the thought police haven't come and got me, yet, and I'm assuming the OP was frustratedly thinking aloud rather than truly advocating face palm time. Possibly AIBU was not the place for it.

Anyway peace and love and sparkly stuff.

musicismylife · 04/01/2014 23:18

You have her on facebook because you like to gloat in the fact that your life is somehow superior to hers.

The tide will turn.

Joules68 · 04/01/2014 23:20

And as she lives in a different area I'm interested to know what help you actually offered her?

morethanpotatoprints · 04/01/2014 23:20

Ah, poor love must be having a real hard time and sounds like she has had little support throughout her life.
You should be ashamed of yourself OP you are not a friend. Is she one of those people you befriended on FB to make it look like you have lots of friends Sad

LimitedEditionLady · 04/01/2014 23:22

This makes me mad,i bet you sit around discussing her with your friends.Makes you look a bit pathetic really if im right,you will say im not but be honest with yourself and you might learn something about yourself as a person.

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:23

Kleptronic

Haha peace, love and Sparkly stuff to you too!

music

Never once said gloat in the fact that your life is somehow superior to hers

Nobody's superior than anyone. She made some stupid decisions via her FB and evidently in life. It's frustrating seeing her treat people like this and others offering to help yet drinking is the answer. However nothing I can do. She's gone off my FB I'll still sleep tonight as every other night.

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VampyreofTimeandMemory · 04/01/2014 23:24

i do think all the 'poor girl' posters may be a bit hypocritical - if someone had posted complaining about ss being 'paedophiles' and whatever else this girl has supposedly said, she'd be getting a hell of a hard time.

LimitedEditionLady · 04/01/2014 23:26

Omg if theres nothing you can do and youll still sleep why you writing a thread about it?

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:26

limited Sorry but nope she's not. Doesn't come up in conversation with the friend I see, I'm not a people person and only have one friend I see with her DC so sorry.

Morethan Once again, if you count under 35 friends as lots of friend then so be it. My FB is pretty shit in comparison to others

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Thants · 04/01/2014 23:26

Don't look at her page.
Obviously she is too messed up right now to realise it is her destructive lifestyle that is causing the issue. She wants someone to blame. If you can then actually try and help, if not defriend.

LedareAnsley · 04/01/2014 23:27

After your friend ran away, did she spend any time in LAC?

Depending on where and when she might have a point.

JumpingJackSprat · 04/01/2014 23:28

You aren't coming across well you know. I mean, it sounds like you are enjoying comparing yourself against her and clearly you feel you are so much of a better mother because her kid has been taken away.well newsflash in real life shit happens to good people and none of us know her so can't possibly comment but you appear to have started this thread hoping you would find someone else to join you in giving her a character assassination.

I hope she isn't one of the many mumsnetters who are in a desperate situation with mental health, social, dependancy, abuse etc issues whatever might have happened to her. Because otherwise she might just see this and there is plenty there to identify her if she did read it.

I won't be sharing peace and love with the op because I think her starting this thread about a vulnerable young woman is disgusting.

Original poster
RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:29

No she was returned to her grandmother and mother. Ledare

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LimitedEditionLady · 04/01/2014 23:30

I have no idea what that meant ralph lauren.Youre not a people person?you show a lot of thought to someone elses life though?

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:30

Jumping Okay peace and love to you :)

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JumpingJackSprat · 04/01/2014 23:31

You aren't coming across well you know. I mean, it sounds like you are enjoying comparing yourself against her and clearly you feel you are so much of a better mother because her kid has been taken away.well newsflash in real life shit happens to good people and none of us know her so can't possibly comment but you appear to have started this thread hoping you would find someone else to join you in giving her a character assassination.

I hope she isn't one of the many mumsnetters who are in a desperate situation with mental health, social, dependancy, abuse etc issues whatever might have happened to her. Because otherwise she might just see this and there is plenty there to identify her if she did read it.

I won't be sharing peace and love with the op because I think her starting this thread about a vulnerable young woman is disgusting.

LedareAnsley · 04/01/2014 23:31

Thanks OP.

Welcome to Mumsnet by the way.

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RalphLaurenLover · 04/01/2014 23:32

Limited I don't have loads of friends that i see is what I meant I literally see one friend whom is my best friend with her DC she's exactly the same. I don't really see the need to see anyone else but her :)

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