To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

[LessMissAbs]

Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

The rudest phone behaviour I've come across was in church at midnight mass this/last year. Someone's phone started ringing and he flipping answered it after faffing trying to find it forever and then had a brief conversation with whoever was calling. All during a solo, unaccompanied performance of Silent Night.

Although I feel the woman had a valid point to make if the phone was causing a distraction, I think the way she addressed your friend was aprupt.

Gosh, I've just realised I ate a bag of a pick n' mix from the cinema during the film too. I must have disturbed the woman too, as I occasionally made a rustle and perhaps a small chomping noise, which might have been discernible to her from 3 seats away.

I now feel fortunate not to have been told to eat my dinner before I left the house!

Westie, I was in Midnight mass and someone answered their phone had a brief chat and then when it came to having the bread and wine jumped over the pews as if they were jumping into a convertible without opening the door IYSWIM.

That was bloody disgraceful behaviour.

*abrupt

bloody auto correct

Friend also ate popcorn!

There is a huge difference between checking your phone where the light is not exposed to other people e.g. checking it in your bag than to pulling out your phone and the bright light then being visible to anyone nearby.

I am sure lots of people discreetly check their phones by ensuring any light is not visible so at least they are not being rude unlike your friend.

Lilmisssunshine I agree re Gravity, outside of a classical concert I don't think I've come across a better behaved audience.

I once got SCREAMED at in wagamama for absent mindedly tapping my chopstick on the table. Would probably be quite annoying at a normal restaurant but the noise in wagamama is deafening, no?

Her saying something would have been far more distracting to everyone in the cinema, than your friend checking the time on her phone.

There really are people out there who are so uptight and looking for something to be outraged at, that they would notice, while watching a film they paid to see, someones phone light while supposedly watching the giant screen in front of them.

The worst midnight mass behaviour I've seen was about 20 years ago when the priest was completely shitfaced. His talk was a string of awful Christmas cracker jokes broken up with his gales of laughter and him falling off the dais. The entire congregation, including the pub latecomers, was like .

Apart from my little brother who was altar boy and got a bollocking from my dad afterwards for laughing. :o

You and your friend were rude. Good for that woman to speak up.

Caitlin17 - And it wasn't it great- totally immersed in the movie from beginning to end, considering the simplicity of it being two main characters up in space.

I recently saw Desolation of Smaug and the audience was the same and you really could appreciate the movie, the cgi and grow to understand the characters.

"There really are people out there who are so uptight and looking for something to be outraged at, that they would notice, while watching a concert they paid to see, someones phone playing music while supposedly listening to the orchestra in front of them."

Westie, that sounds both and hilarious!

My vicar is far too straight laced to do anything like that

But that's not actually what happened, is it Suelford?

Imagine if everyone in the cinema sarcastically and louded lambasted every single person who marginally distracted them from the film. Thankfully not everyone is that selfish. Which is why I waited to the end of the film to point it out to the rude woman.

Although I am in the camp of finding phone lights as irritating as other cinema faux pas, perhaps LilMissSunshine's tip below could be a happy medium to those folk who see no problem with it:

There is a huge difference between checking your phone where the light is not exposed to other people e.g. checking it in your bag than to pulling out your phone and the bright light then being visible to anyone nearby

Suelford, was there a point in that?

It's like Groundhog Day. Established posters posting things that make them look either delusional, trailer trash or just plain mad.

It was to Amberleaf's post, not yours.

You waited until the end of the film to make your vindictive little dig because the women's reasonable complaint showed you and your friend up, and you couldn't bear to let her think she'd 'won'. Don't try and fool yourself that you were somehow nobly challenging her "controlling behaviour".

It pointed out how ridiculous your point was, by using the same logic in an audio setting, rather than a visual one, Amberleaf. HTH.

Sounds like you're having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that you were in the wrong :/

When you're in the cinema, don't mess about with your phone, the light is annoying to those around you and stfu with the extra rustily bags. A bit of consideration is all that's asked for.

Simple.

At the end of the day OP are clearly told to turn your phones off during the film and infact that lady could of gone and complained to a manager who can rightfully eject your friend from the cinema. Who cares if it was a second or two or three she had been using her phone she still used it.

I have had to complain about a group of teenagers talking during a movie and they were ejected in the end despite several of us telling them to be quiet and trust me everyone clapped as they were taken out.