To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

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Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

play - I more pictured it as when a teenager says something under their breath and then refuses to repeat and scuttles off so they don't have to endure the wrath of an angry parent

Not that I have witnessed this of course or been that teenager

Then at the risk of being accused of having no sense of humour...... where is the joke? If it is a joke thread....... must try harder c-

I have been wondering if it's a wind-up thread

cod used to do this sort of thing very well

Op when you started this thread was there any part of you that was willing to consider that you may have been at all unreasonable?

I'd like to think this is a wind-up thread but as someone who goes to the cinema twice a month and sees this type of inconsiderate behaviour frequently, I'm not hopeful.

Scuttling off/refusing to engage, call it what you want but still pathetic behaviour for a grown woman.

OP

I don't think you are a bully. If anything are are a bit passive, because you obviously stewed and cogitated throughout the whole film, just because your friend was "told off". If you really had the courage of your convictions you wouldn't have let it affect you so much or would have told the woman what she thought there and then not at the end of the film.

I don't think it's particularly nice to have something selfish you've done pointed out to you, but sometimes it's a sign you need to re-think what is likely to irritate other people.

You don't seem to accept that at all, which is annoying.

sorry that should have read ".. you wouldn't let it affect you so much or would have told the woman what you thought there and then, not at the end of the film"

Although I do agree there's no need for "booming*, but I wouldn't discount the message because of the mode of delivery, which is what you seem to be doing

A light from a phone in the cinema doesn't really bother me. In fact I'm now trying to recall if I've ever done the same as your friend . It obviously did annoy that lady though and whilst I do believe she was fine to voice her opinion she was also distracting to others to shout it out. I probably would have just let it go and not said anything. No win for either party imo. But I hate conflict and being 'told off' publically really humiliates me. I think the general opinion is that your friend shouldn't have done it, and should have apologised for her inadvertent rudeness, whilst ignoring the other womans rudeness in shouting out in the cinema

Is this still going on OP? You seem desperate for affirmation.

Oh, OP, are you some sort of knuckle-dragging neanderthal? Even small children are usually better behaved and have more consideration and self-awareness in the cinema than you and your friend.

If you're going to be such a philistine, why not stay at home and not inflict your charming personality on the wider public? Watch a DVD, have a fucking phone party and wave your lit up phones about with great aplomb and finesse.

Most normal people know that you remain quiet in the cinema, turn off your phone and JUST WATCH THE DAMN FILM. Stepford? Really? If you don't like the film, fuck off to the pub or go and play Tekken in the arcade or something.

I don't believe for one second that that woman 'boomed' or 'bawled' or screamed like the drill sergeant in Full Metal Jacket.

I do so love your comparison with being hung, drawn and quartered. Because people telling you to not be obnoxious in the cinema is exactly the same as being horrifically tortured and eviscerated.

YOU started the thread and are still stewing about it. YOU asked for opinions and you got 'em.

I'll bet that woman no longer gives a shit and hasn't started a thread on the internet about it.

Wasn't there a thread recently asking for people's views on Mn'ing/surfing the web whilst in the cinema watching a kids film? OK, it was the Moshi Monster film I would rather rip off me own arm and I'd rather wait for the heavily discounted DVD, but a film people pay to see nonetheless.

The general consensus was that it was absolutely fine to do so.

And as for just checking the phone for a moment, would your friend do that while driving?

If so, you can explain to the police officer that she was just checking the time while you scoop her brains of the dashboard.

Phones are a distraction.

Hyperbole for all.

Yabu, your friend shouldn't have been messing with her phone, the light is distracting and annoying to other cinema goers and the lady was right to tell her to put it away. You were obnoxious to her, it's not about you or your friend, behave in a manner respectful of other people and you won't need to be told off like silly children.

I really, really hate phones being checked in the cinema. I have also told people to stop it. Phones should be switched off - it does ask that you do.

The glare from the phone beams across and for those of us suffering from light sensitivity (and for many who don't I would imagine) it is incredibly annoying. Cinema is too expensive to just sit and put up with people's selfishness.

Loony that's MN for you!

Hahahahaha! 21 pages!
Unbelievable. People, have you nothing to do?!

I dunno, diddle, not really. What's your excuse?

YABVU.

It might not have bothered you, your friend's phone may have been pointing away from you, and right at this lady.

I went to a film not long ago and a man a few seats away was playing angry birds on his phone probably for a good ten minutes or so. His wife sat next to him wasn't bothered, but the screen was angled away from her and directly at me (and the people behind). Security warned him to put the phone away immediately or prepare to be escorted out of the screen. After they went away, he got it out and carried on. He was removed, along with his wife.

It's really funny when people post on mumsnet to say they have better things to do than post on mumsnet

"Look at you, dull people posting on MN"

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Another poster on MN

hehe!

I'm amazed at how heated some of the posts have been considering the issue. I could understand it if it was a controversial topic of debate.

I posted earlier and then checked in again, and I've wasted many hours on here over Christmas. I'm not mocking posting on mn, just baffled that this particular thread has generated so many posts.

I posted earlier and then checked in again, and I've wasted many hours on here over Christmas. I'm not mocking posting on mn, just baffled that this particular thread has generated so many posts.

See, i'be been sucked in to the extent that I'm posting the same thing twice