To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

[LessMissAbs]

Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

Maybe it's just me but I have never come onto a thread seen a load of angry people castigating the OP and excitedly added my own insult to the masses just because everyone else is.

As for the majority rules thing I do not believe that should apply on MN and generally, apart from AIBU it doesn't, that's why I like being here.

You can be asked to leave the cinema for using a mobile phone, disturbing people with the light (as I have witnessed).

I don't think the same could be said for rustling sweet papers, nor is there a sign or announcement, on screen, asking you to desist from rustling sweet papers, before the film begins .

Just keep on repeating 'Stepford' and 'mob' OP, and that will convince everyone what a lovely, reasonable person you really are.

I'm sure that you could be removed from the cinema for eating noisily playavsnow. Or several other things.

But maybe because theres not a little film about it, it wouldn't make such a good target for those grumpy people who like to think they can exert control over an entire cinema?

Stepford or err...London.

I'm sure you could, technically be removed for noisy eating. Though I'm boggling at just how noisy your eating would have to be to require removal from the cinema

Sorry - did I stray onto the cinema fascist thread in pedants corner?

There's me thinking it was bad form to correct people's bad spelling. Silly me.

Cinemas sell food, so I'd be very surprised if they kicked you out for eating. However, no cinema I've ever been to has sold lighty-up gadgets to play on during the film!

I'm sure they would if it would make them money!

YABU.

I have asked someone to put a phone away before, as they were holding it down below the eyeline of most but it was distracting to keep catching a small light. If I hadn't said anything, the person would have undoubtedly 'checked the time' on multiple occasions.

Yes she could have been quieter with saying something to your friend - but if, as you say, it's such a non-issue (because after all, it wasn't really a 'rant' was it - she said one sentence!) why did you feel you had to make a point of her booming voice?

I can cope with the general noise and rustling that occurs in a cinema but repeated talking and using of phones would bother me and I would say something. By your own admission you didn't see your friends phone so how do you know it was the first time? For that matter, how did the woman? For all she knew, your friend was going to be doing it every five minutes.

Your friend was caught out doing something anti-social, and then you decided to make a massive point with the woman at the end of the film rather than at the time. And scuttling off when you you started a row is really pathetic. And it was you because in your story this woman said one thing to your friend and then didn't bring up anything else or instigate a conversation after the film.

It's the Sniffers who irritate me the most. BRING SOME TISSUES WITH YOU!

You have indeed, Tobiasfunke.

A bit of artistic license there, Snatchoo!

I can assure you that I would have noticed any anti-social activity from my friend sitting right next to me.

And I have never knowingly scuttled. She had to wait while I put on my coat. No scuttling involved. I might be many things, but a scuttle aint one of them.

Why didn't you stay and defend yourselves, then?

I find it anti-social to do something that stops my enjoyment of a film in the cinema. Especially when it is something that allcinemas ask customers not to do.

And I apologise, you refused to engage. Not scuttled.

YANBU by the way for finding her rude, but I expect you and your friend ruined her cinema experience with your behaviour as well.

Very good OP, your repeated argument of semantics is a sure sign that you have a solid basis for your opinions.

"Cinema fascist thread"

I admire the OP for standing her ground, most would have scuttled fled by now

You were totally unreasonable. I am with the woman.

Snatchoo in the words of Gwen Stefani, I aint no scuttleback girl.

Right that's enough time on here, time to go outdoors into the outside world!

I went to see the hobbit yesterday and an elderly lady's phone rang across the aisle from me, it seemed to take am eternity for her to locate it. I am glad you lot weren't there I dread to think what night have happened to the unfortunate miscreant.

www.myvue.com/legal

Guest Admission Policy

includes...

5 Mobile phones and all other mobile devices must be switched off at all times inside the auditorium.

11 Antisocial or disruptive behaviour (including any form of verbal or physical abuse) will result in immediate removal from the premises. In the event of a group disturbance, the group will be treated as one and the whole group may be removed from the cinema without any entitlement to a refund. What constitutes anti social behaviour shall be at the sole discretion of the relevant Duty Manager.

Similar rules for all other cinema chains.

I don't know about scuttling.

I can imagine LessMiss and friend marching off at speed, Ministry of Silly Walks style, full of indignant rage at having their cinema outing ruined by one so lacking in finesse!

It does not matter wether you noticed what your friend was doing. It matters that this lady did & was annoyed by it. Or are you suggesting your friend did nothing at all & the woman falsely accused your friend? You friend was in the wrong, the woman was massively fed up by it & so expressed herself quite clearly - perhaps loudly to ensure any other potential inconsiderates would think twice about following your friends lead. I like that she spoke out. Good on her. You were rude to talk to her the way you did at the end & to then ignore her. You & your friend were in the wrong.

I am becoming convinced that this is a joke thread to be honest.

OP

You really belive that people complaining about the phone are selfish in the cinema in other ways?

Not me. I'm a tight arse about everything politeness-in-the-cinema-related.