To Find this Woman in the Cinema Rude

[LessMissAbs]

Me and my friend were watching a film in the cinema tonight. She doesn't wear a watch and must have been checking her phone for the time - its a habit of hers to do this, or to ask people the time. I was sitting next to her and I didn't notice it.

There was an empty seat to her other side between her and a woman. The woman suddenly boomed out in the middle of the film, "If you want to play your phone, you can go outside and do it instead of in here".

It was mortifying, and she interrupted the film for me. I was really embarrassed for my friend, but we didn't say anything.

At the end of the film, as we were standing up to leave, I said to the woman "I don't really care if you were disturbed by a light during the film or not, I don't want to have to the film interrupted by your booming voice". She then started arguing back (she said something like "Oh you'd like to be a cheeky one, wouldn't you, and some other stuff) but we turned our backs towards her and her husband so that she was talking to ourselves, put on our coats and left.

Kind of ruined the film for both of us. Normally I find going to the cinema relaxing!

I think when an OP has the attitude like this one does it tends to stoke the thread somewhat.

So true binky. It was fascinating and I really enjoyed it tbh, although I am in the anti phone in the cinema camp.

OPs defensiveness and refusal to consider anyone else's point of view was quite breathtaking. I think she totally expected to come on here and have everyone say 'oh no you poor things, what a horrible lady' rather than the reality check she did get (but is refusing to acknowledge).

OPs defensiveness and refusal to consider anyone else's point of view was quite breathtaking.

The thing is, these people walk amongst us. We just have to accept them and move on. No point in getting worked up over them IMO. Life's too short.

True Randy. We all have our faults, and although I feel really strongly about abti social behaviour in the cinema, even I got a bit 'lets move on' by about page 6. It was entertaining to read in it's entirely though, but there are other, more important things to care about.

Like diddlediddledumpling I can't believe how many posts there are on this thread.
Obviously something lots of people feel very strongly about. I didn't realise it was such an issue. I will definitely be more careful in future about where I use my phone. I do think the woman complaining sounded a bit ott though, a quiet word would have been sufficient.

I must admit Binky that when I'm surrounded by a group of crowd pleasers, it tends to stoke me up. I doubt keyboards warriors would be that brave in person, probably too busy texting on their phones in cinemas and getting involved in slanging matches!

Hackneybird do you find yourself constantly short of breath then, if it is so easily taken away?

Rather than feeling suitably chastised for my unforgiveable sin of having a friend who quietly something with their phone in a cinema and pretending I agree with a lot of over excited claptrap to court popularity on an internet forum which is a little sad I fear I feel encouraged that there are actually a few people out there with common sense and a sense of perspective!

I admit I have got rather an odd sense of humour though. Don't take yourselves too seriously out there!

First you say, "I wasn't rude" and then you say, "I meant to be rude to her." Surely both of those statements cannot be true (and I'm betting on the latter as the more accurate).

You're really just having a laugh, aren't you, LessMiss? And it has been entertaining. "Pre-irritated" is my new favourite word.

I used to go to the cinema a lot. I dont so much anymore,because of people like you OP, and your friend.
Good on the women for calling her on it. I would have done exactly the same.

I once saw someone suck a lemon drop in a cinema once Whistleblower.

Honestly, I did.

Nearly choked on my pearls and twinset I did too.

Keyboard warriors ?

No just posters whose opinion you have sought by posting a thread and though barely anyone has agreed with you have stuck to your guns

In your shoes I would ask for this to be deleted before it gets any bigger and hope it will soon be forgotten because I am afraid it has made you look rather foolish

I think we can safely file this one away as goady fuckery.

I'm sure the staff of mumsnet have better things to do than delete posts that have got marginally heated comingintomyown.

Might I suggest the alternative possibly of retaining a sense of perspective?

So even though quite a lot of people have said that, yes, they do find it distracting and annoying, quite a lot of other people have said - well fuck you tight arse, I'll do what I want.

Nice social skills

Not quite sure why most people are being so nasty. If someone shouted at me for having a discreet look at my phone I'd be extremely pissed off! Lots of things annoy me in the cinema- lights, noise, kicking, rustling- but I don't shout at people about them. I put up with them (except seat kicking). I agree with you OP.

"I used to go to the cinema a lot. I don't so much anymore because of people like you OP"

Really? Care to tell us your tale?

It's not a biggy is it.

NOT A BIGGY

and pretending I agree with a lot of over excited claptrap to court popularity on an internet forum which is a little sad I fear - so, everyone who disagrees with you is a sad crowd pleaser only saying it to court popularity and they really secretly agree with you? Now, that is breathtaking! How arrogant, OP. Which tends to support the view that you were possibly arrogant and selfish in the cinema too...

"So everyone who disagrees with you is a sad crowd pleaser only saying it to court popularity"

I think that is definitely true of some of the posts. Not all but one or two.

Good lord is this one still going?

lessmiss I actually can't breath right now from laughing because you're being so entertaining. Keep up the good work.

Unless she planned to leave mid film (another bloody annoying thing to do) it didn't matter what time it was.

I think the question AIBU should be put to the public vote.

It's a yes from me

I've lost all sense of what we are discussing.

I'm broken.

How can you possibly know that, SSS? How do you know what posters are really thinking. ANy idea about the lottery numbers while you are at it?
ANd I'm with Sparkling, put it to a vote. Yes, I think YABU

God! So now we're not allowed to get up and leave either? Heaven forbid I should need the bog. You people need some lessons in tolerance.

I do like to know the time though. And no I haven't got a watch.

It's a good idea, having a watch.