to be disconcerted by 12 year old ds's..............er....maleness...?

[curlew]

We are a family that's pretty relaxed about nudity, and ds just wandered out of the shower- and his willy and balls have suddenly turned, practically overnight, into grown up ones.

All perfectly natural and I love that he's growing up, but......waaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

SCARY. My beautiful precious baby boy is now 8! He is so sweet and lovely and such a mummys boy but I really see him growing up. He has got so tall and broad but it's more things he says and jokes he makes. He really couldn't care less whether he has clothes on or not so I have all of this ahead of me!

DOG thank you never thought of that. Just have to say I don't recall it being an issue with DP and me . I only got rid of the black sheets because they were poly cotton and felt horrible (it was a long time ago).

I got black sheets once for me and DH

After a day or two it looked like something from CSI Miami

Never again

My dd proudly dropped her pants to show me her pubes when she got some.

Does she know your posting name Viva :o

I'm loving the po-facedness on this thread. Just because the OP said "willy and balls." Doesn't the phrase have a lovely ring to it?

Willy and balls
Willy and balls
Glad ti-hi-dings of wi-hi-lly and balls.

Your family sounds completely normal to me, OP.

I can't believe the comments about 'why were you looking?'
Eh???? You're not allowed to look at your child's body? How ridiculous! My 12 year old asks me if he thinks his willy is the right size for his age....I'm his mum! My 15 yr old also wanders around naked, and so do I. If they were uncomfortable with it, we would cover up. Nudity is healthy!

at themaltesefalcon

Wahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah.

That's all.

Curlew I am completely with you and would have started this thread myself if I wasn't in so much shock/denial!

Ds1 has just turned 12 and I'm horrified gobsmacked that we now have a MAN living in our house, not a little boy. All that hair..!!

We still all wander in and out of the bathroom naked and of course I should have realised this would happen, but it's still a flipping shock... I feel like it's worse in a way for ds1 with me and dp both being women - I wish he had a man in the house to see that it's all OK etc. So, much to ds1's absolute horror, I've been talking lots to him about puberty and growing up etc...

Poor sod - he doesn't mind the grown up tickle tackle (as I often refer to it) but doesn't want a hairy chest or hairy legs - this I think is down to too many men on TV being all smooth chested and I'm starting to realise that the pressure on boys/young men to look ridiculous attractive based on what they see on telly is just as strong as it is on girls/young women.

So, totally with you and trying to get over the transition so that we're ready for it again in 2 years time with ds2

I have to say that over the past couple of months, when dp and I have mentioned it to close friends, it seems no-one else sees their children of this age with no clothes on... We have friends who have boys who wear pants in the bath/shower and boys who lock the bathroom and are always covered up so that their parents never see them naked, which I can't imagine - but I'm sure will probably happen over the next year or two in our house.

So there's equal horror when we all discuss things like this

Both my boys prefer to shower than bath/e, We dont have a shower in the family bathroom, so my two 15 & 12 use the shower in MY ensuite.
They wander in and out naked, am I supposed to close my eyes whilst they are wandering in and out of MY bedroom?

Wow, some people are very uptight about a bit of nudity. No one knows who Curlew actually is, therefore no one knows who her son is. It's a sad day when it becomes creepy for a mother to comment on her own child's changing body in a perfectly normal, maternal way.

My 13, 11 and 6 year old dses have no fear of nudity +their own) but when they saw me with no trousers on last night their horror was almost comic.
Ds2 unintentionally announced his impending puberty at a family dinner by telling everyone that his willy had an enormous moustache under it.

I think the question is do all these children who feel relaxed and safe enough at home to be nude act appropriately when out of the home?
If they are not stripping off and wandering around friends' and relatives' houses, then what's the problem?

Do some people genuinely think there's something odd about members of a family being naked in front of each other occasionally? Really?

Every day's a school day!

yes you are obviously a huge weirdo curlew.

Though so. I will start imposing swimwear for baths and showers from now on, and a special siren to be set off if anyone needs to leave their room unclothed so the area can be cleared............

I was quite shocked when I barged in on dd in the shower as to how much her body had changed.

My ds is 11 and I'm dreading him suddenly growing up.

Just out of curiosity, would anyone have had a different response to the OP if it had been a father talking about his daughter?

Not at all.

Course not grunt. No different at all. A father is allowed to see his child's body without it meaning he's inappropriately interested in it

I'm with Moreisnnogedag - my almost as tall as me DS is never growing up, never I tell you!

What do you think, gruntfuttock?

The Cub has signed a contract stating he will NEVER grow up.

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