to be disconcerted by 12 year old ds's..............er....maleness...?

[curlew]

We are a family that's pretty relaxed about nudity, and ds just wandered out of the shower- and his willy and balls have suddenly turned, practically overnight, into grown up ones.

All perfectly natural and I love that he's growing up, but......waaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Yes Body. I was confused at first-then I realised. And told him to rinse the bath out when he has a shower.

No facial hair as yet. The joy of that is yet to come.....

My 12 year old sister is worse. Everytime I visit I get 'ere SPs, i have hair on legs! Come see, feel it" She now wears bras and keeps telling me hera will be bigger than mine.

I was never like this.

DS1 is 10 and just asked to read a book on puberty - luckily I did have one. I've seen the odd spot on his face and the odd spot of attitude. He's already nearly the same shoe size as me (he's a 5 I'm a 5.5). Its all going to change and I'm not ready for it...

I dont think its odd to pst at suddenly realising how much nearer to adulthood a 'P' DC is. The OP just noticed this in this particular way that's all.

I had a bit 'oh' moment when checking DS had washed himself properly as he had a stint of going in shower and comming out unwashed. Anyway i noticed how many thin but dark pubic downy hairs he had. He is 8 ffs.

There's some right prudes on this thread.

DD is home, the house is covered in wispy underthings and bras with a significant cup size. OH is a bit startled as he does the laundry.

Can totally relate. Remember taking DD to the doctor at age 8 because she thought she'd bumped her chest and was sore still after 2 weeks. Doctor told me it was changes in Brest tissue due to puberty. By age 10 she needed bras and throughout she has delighted in bragging about the changes she notices and her hairs!

As a mum, I'm proud she'd taking everything in her stride and want to stop her growing up into a young lady and keep her as my little girl. waits for the thought police to tell me how dreadful I am as a mum to lament my child growing up

My big brother insisted on telling me he'd started puberty as we were watching cartoons. I swear I'm traumatised because of it.

DS is 3, he's not allowed to become a man they're too hairy and smelly :)

YANBU.

DD gets dirty jokes. Very dirty jokes. Sometimes I don't even get the jokes and then I look them up and am a bit at them. And when DD wanted to go on the pill due to her boyfriend. My PFB is growing up

'Mumsnetter in disgrace after revealing son has a penis scandal' YANBU OP it must have been a shock, he's your baby after all. I know from experience that aome people on here can be sensitive about willy related issues

And he's now curled up on his dad's lap in an Angry Birds onsie. Phew. I can go back to denial- my favourite place.

I am far more shocked by some of the replies than I am by the OP. Are we only allowed to post (on this anonymous forum) about things that our children would be happy about us sharing? That will make for an interesting read! Some of you are properly odd.

Curlew - I know exactly what you mean. Tis very disconcerting. So strange to start adjusting to them becoming teenagers when in your head they are still so little.

My DS and uber-PFB is seven, but suddenly his shoulders have broadened a bit and his facial bones have had a quick coat of testosterone. His tiny short leggies have got really long and I can see the future man......

My little boy.
He also offered to duel the school bully a few weeks ago, as he was fed up with his odious antics.

I was just nibbling my tiny 2yo DS's bottom. It's soft and peachy. I can;t bear the thought that one day I will not want to/be allowed to nibble it and that it will be all hairy and manly. He has the loveliest bottom I've ever encountered

I can totally understand how weird it must be Curlew

There's a moment too when the cuddles turn from soft and squdgy to wiry too.

And don't get me started on what it's like to cuddle a distraught child who has breasts in an under wired bra......!

Agree there are some dodgy replies on here to poor Curlew.
We are a frequently naked household and my dd is 14. She has never been self conscious at home although she is definitely self conscious in shop and swimming pool changing rooms!

We just never started covering up in front of each other and it now seems a bit late to change tack...anyway I see no problem with it tbh

I know exactly what you mean! DS is 12 and now taller than me and has a deeper voice. Hairy legs. That's the bit I don't like! He had lovely soft legs and now they are getting hairy.

I have just been reading a puberty book with DS who is 9. He was disgusted by what sex is, completely disgusted! He told me he will be adopting children. Looking forward to recounting this story when he's older!!

As a nation, we are pretty uptight about nudity and associated ishoos.

I can practically hear the swift intake of shocked breath. And breathe, folks. Tis all completely natural.

I applaud you, OP, for your laid-back openness.

I once had a bit of a shock with DS1 with previous girlfriend when they were 18.

They had been drinking in his bedroom and totally over done things (he's never drunk a drop since, think it gave him quite a scare)

Found him naked and covered in puke in his bedroom and her naked and covered in puke in my bath

It was hard to try and help without seeing bits of them both I wish I'd never had too, and I do remember thinking, that's it, they're all grown up

(although did try and ground him for a month , 18 or not!

Curlew I know what you mean, my DS is only 8 but I'm already a bit nervous about it. I can't get my head round it happening!

I feel your thread is the perfect place to drag . Always makes me ROFL.

I must admit, it was disconcerting to take DD shopping for bras. But there's no way she's going to be in ill-fitting bras, so I'd measured before setting out (the MN way of course) and took her into a changing room. I stood outside while she changed, only going in once the bra was on to check the fit.

That's fine, although a sad reminder she's no longer a baby (at 13.6).

DS is almost 10, and a bit on the small side. I think puberty may be a little later for him, and I KNOW I'll be unprepared in the same way curlew was.

I have twin DSs who will be 12 next month. I noticed a few months ago that they seem to have sprouted hairs over night. Very disconcerting! I had to buy them a deodorant each when they started secondary school as they started getting whiffy.

I must admit I still have not got over the shock of realising that they will actually become MEN , not my little boys any longer. They are both strapping lads but still sit on my lap on occasion .

Mind you I had the same with 17 year old DD when she started sprouting boobs at the same age. It is quite hard to accept them growing up! At least I have 3 year old DS3 to be my baby.

I totally get what you mean .

I can remember bursting into the bathroom and seeing dd in the bath by accident - there was hair. I was horrified.

These days, at 16, she asks me to cover up wandering around the house. It makes me sad, a bit

Jeez, can't believe how nasty some posters are.