to be disconcerted by 12 year old ds's..............er....maleness...?

[curlew]

We are a family that's pretty relaxed about nudity, and ds just wandered out of the shower- and his willy and balls have suddenly turned, practically overnight, into grown up ones.

All perfectly natural and I love that he's growing up, but......waaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

"As a nation, we are pretty uptight about nudity and associated ishoos.

I can practically hear the swift intake of shocked breath. And breathe, folks. Tis all completely natural.

I applaud you, OP, for your laid-back openness."

Actually- on a serious note- is it really that unusual to see your children naked?

No I don't believe you. It will not happen. My DS will remain small and cute and squidgy forever.

I know exactly what you mean curlew. My DS' are 13 & 16 now & I definitely get a shock when I catch sight of them undressed. I'm more embarassed by it than they are, I think.

My babies

I think it depends. I'm South African and my mom used to still does talk to either me or dsis whilst we had a bath. For a brief period from 14-16 I got all shy. My dad makes filthy jokes in front of me. Shocks DH to the core though

why oh why would you come on here and post that? just why?
It's not something amazing-it happens to all boys.Did you think your DS was Peter Pan.And why on earth did you think we would want to read about your 12 yr olds balls x 1000

I can imagine it is a shock. Confirmation that he is growing up and will actually be a man one day - and one day soon

I remember my little brother wearing shorts one day and me shouting "But........but you've got MAN legs!" If I found that odd I can only imagine how disconcerting it was for my DM.

Jeez pixie et al. Lighten up. It's a reminder your dc are growing up. I'm sure curlew didn't think it weird or magical or owt just that it was an undeniable fact that her son was entering manhood, which is a bit tug at heart strings.

Poor pixie she doesn't understand.

My sons are 34, 15 and 13.

I've always thought we were a fairly relaxed and not at all 'buttoned up' family, but all my sons take very great care to make sure I don't see then even half naked. I think they'd collapse with shock if I entered the bathroom when they were undressed.

pixie, people post on here about their DDs periods, their DHs impotence, their colleagues BO, cancer treatments, dementia, all sorts of deeply personal and TMI things - she wasn't posting picture ffs

this is no different than talking about babies dirty nappies or bed wetting, it is an emotional stage of parenting facing up to your DC growing up, Op just wanted to feel not alone in her "shock" and sadness

I totally get it - my baby boy is 9 and still all soft and cuddly, I have already been through periods, bras and sex talk with DD1 but know I will grieve for my last baby growing up, I just know I will.

Yes, I get that Phantom. There can be a sadness to it for mums.

Wah- ds (13) still asks me to give him a cuddle after the bath but he is very, very concerned to be covered up.

I got him tweezers for Xmas as apparently he has the bushiest eyebrows in the entire school. I think he might be right.

Horrid beardy bloke cheeks....DS1 (18) has those, and a chest full of hair. Where did my baby go? How can he have a full on beard
Dreading DD2 (10) developing boobs, etc, she really is the baby of the family. But she's still really little so hopefully it won't be too soon!

" I think they'd collapse with shock if I entered the bathroom when they were undressed"

In my defence- I didn't enter the bathroom, he exited the bathroom!

My boy is 11 and recently I bought him a book on puberty, for him to read and for us to talk about together if he wanted to. He asked me about wet dreams and I said just put your sheets in the machine and I will wash them, he joked will probably have to snap them in half mum. I was like whhhaattt, my baby

I see my 12 and 14 year old naked often.

It's really no big deal.

It is shocking when they start to change. Mine seem to not know the meaning of TMI and like to keep me up to date with various happenings, although I think I would prefer that to them not talking to me about it at all.

Oh Lordy do NOT agree to black sheets. Did that for the eldest; never again.

My elder twoboys arecovering themselves up more as htye get older, I still get an unexpected glimpse of them from tiem ti tim, they aremt bothered and nor am I.

They have no probkems seeing me naked at all, will come into the bathroom when I am in the shower or bath etc.

I think its fine for them to see me naked and vice versa, but it is disconcertign to realis thry are turnign into men. Yes its normal but it still takes you by suprise soemhow.

My 15 yr old DS has such hairy legs :( just like his dad! Ds2 (7) is amazed by it.. As am I! He is so grown up now.

I'll bite: what's wrong with black sheets?

What's wrong with black sheets? It's too obvious to comment :)

Not to me it isn't........ because I've had black sheets for myself and never had a problem.