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Is this odd or am I over reacting?

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Helie · 01/01/2014 22:13

On Xmas eve I started getting text messages from an unknown number purporting to be from an ex boyfriend of mine ( 15 yrs ago ). I am married with two children for 10 years. It was obviously not from him because or the wording (grammar) but there were references to things we did together.

I thought it was coincidence and one of these text scams where you get charged for the text. My husband denied it was him playing a joke when the messages kept coming on Christmas Day . I got a bit fed up this week as they were still coming and were personal so I rang the mobile phone company to find out if I could block them ( I had never replied) they said just ignore them and I wasn't being charged.

This evening I got one which seemed like someone was watching me so I freaked out and asked my husband again if it was him and was shocked when he said it had all been him winding me up !
I think it's weird why do this to me? He heard me phoning the mobile company to try and block the number and carried on with it. The content of the texts was mainly about memories and I love you still and let's get back together. I was cross with him and he says I am over reacting.
Am I ?

OP posts:
ZillionChocolate · 02/01/2014 10:02

When you were thinking about calling your phone operator it was obvious it wasn't fun. I'd be really upset about this. Him walking out shows that he's more concerned about his feelings than yours.

Blueandwhitelover · 02/01/2014 10:42

It all sounds really odd, have you spoken to him since he walked out ?
So he was never in the room with you when the messages came?

BalloonSlayer · 02/01/2014 10:55

Gosh how horrible!

You need to prepare your words.

"You thought it would be a bit of fun? So your idea of a bit of fun is frightening me, is that what you are trying to tell me?"

If he starts with the: 'I thought you'd think it was funny, for God's sake why have you got no sense of humour' crap then you need to remind him that most people would never think that pretending to be a stalker is funny.

And when he gave you a barefaced lie about something that was concerning you, that was the point when the line was crossed, when the so-called "joke" turned totally nasty. (And if it was me I would add "Grounds-for-divorce nasty.")

themaltesefalcon · 02/01/2014 10:56

Blimey that's weird.

I'd be looking to get rid.

ICanSeeTheSeaFromHere · 02/01/2014 10:56

YANBU, it is not odd, it is weird at best and a bit sinister tbh. If my husband would rather watch me feel uncomfortable and nervous over the holidays than spend time with me and have fun I would rather he left.

He should not be 'testing you', it is wrong.

minouminou · 02/01/2014 13:09

A chum and I played an evil trick on DP over New Year...we gave him a square of Marmite-flavoured chocolate (he's a serious hater).
That's a prank.

I also agree he's setting you up as an excuse.

zizza · 02/01/2014 15:03

I'm with everyone else on this. And also aren't others suspicious of the "other" phone and staying at work?

ParsleyTheLioness · 02/01/2014 16:47

My XH liked gadgets. He bought a few other phones over a few years, in addition to the main one, for 'taking on holiday a cheap one' etc. Sort of made sense. I was too trusting. When I discovered his online dating habit I began to look at these things in a whole new light...

Madmammy83 · 02/01/2014 19:13

Fucking nutter. Be careful, he sounds dangerous if that's how he gets his kicks.

DoYouKnowTheMuffinMan · 02/01/2014 19:39

What a sick joke!

Making you on edge and uncomfortable on Christmas Day, how lovely Angry

cees · 02/01/2014 19:48

What a weirdo, sorry op but he is sick, idiot thinks seeing his wife frightened and scared is funny, dick.

TheNewSchmoo · 02/01/2014 19:55

I once had a boyfriend who was convinced that I was having an affair(I wasn't). He even came with me to the police to report the offensive and petrifying messages I was getting from a payg mobile number. The policeman said straight away that they thought it was him. It was. When the relationship finally ended (badly), I had to take out a restraining order.

This is awful behaviour from him. Nothing about it is funny

LedareAnsley · 02/01/2014 19:59

Fucking hell that is bad.

I know a "couple" who both set up fake Facebook accounts in order to flirt with and try to entrap the other Confused and it went on for years. No trust, none.

Now divorced with restraining orders etc

magesticmallow · 02/01/2014 21:37

He is definitely up to something, more than one phone, staying at work when not necessary, this creepy behaviour, something is definitely up, he is either having an affair or doing something he shouldn't be (besides acting like a creepy, horrible, slimey fucker)

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