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Is this odd or am I over reacting?

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Helie · 01/01/2014 22:13

On Xmas eve I started getting text messages from an unknown number purporting to be from an ex boyfriend of mine ( 15 yrs ago ). I am married with two children for 10 years. It was obviously not from him because or the wording (grammar) but there were references to things we did together.

I thought it was coincidence and one of these text scams where you get charged for the text. My husband denied it was him playing a joke when the messages kept coming on Christmas Day . I got a bit fed up this week as they were still coming and were personal so I rang the mobile phone company to find out if I could block them ( I had never replied) they said just ignore them and I wasn't being charged.

This evening I got one which seemed like someone was watching me so I freaked out and asked my husband again if it was him and was shocked when he said it had all been him winding me up !
I think it's weird why do this to me? He heard me phoning the mobile company to try and block the number and carried on with it. The content of the texts was mainly about memories and I love you still and let's get back together. I was cross with him and he says I am over reacting.
Am I ?

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Lilacroses · 01/01/2014 22:21

So what was his explanation? That is was a joke/test?

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Helie · 01/01/2014 22:21

I thought he was testing me . I don't know why ! He has been jealous of my past boyfriends but this is beyond an expression of jealousy.
No Problems between us as far as I am aware. He has now walked out because I was upset about it. He thought it would be a bit of fun. I never thought he would do something like this .

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Wuxiapian · 01/01/2014 22:22

Very weird indeed.

ThreeBeeOneGee · 01/01/2014 22:23

You are not over-reacting.

Does he have a history of jealous behaviour or of being controlling?

TurnOffTheTv · 01/01/2014 22:23

Did you ask him what phone he was texting from? Or did he change the SIM card? Beyond awful and creepy. Especially if he bought phone/sim to do it with.

MatryoshkaDoll · 01/01/2014 22:23

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PedlarsSpanner · 01/01/2014 22:23

horrid and creepy behaviour

I am so sorry

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Helie · 01/01/2014 22:23

He said it wasn't a test . Just a bit of fun ( watching me react to the messages)

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ThreeBeeOneGee · 01/01/2014 22:23

Sorry, cross posted with you, OP.

MiniTheMinx · 01/01/2014 22:24

Its not a funny joke. Maybe he was testing you?

ThreeBeeOneGee · 01/01/2014 22:25

Sending someone creepy phone messages isn't funny.

He was either being cruel, or he doesn't trust you.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 01/01/2014 22:25

a bit of fun is when I hide dp's cutlery for a minute or so or maybe not, it's weird to get a kick out of watching your partner getting increasingly anxious. So he's never done anything like it before?

piratecat · 01/01/2014 22:25

it's odd op, i really don't understand him doing this.

what did he say his reasons were to do it, and what was his reaction when you asked?

BeerTricksPotter · 01/01/2014 22:25

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scratchandsniff · 01/01/2014 22:25

That is extremely odd. To keep it up for that long too. Also he must have gone and got another phone especially to do it. I'd be seriously unimpressed. You need to get to the bottom of his thinking behind this.

pianodoodle · 01/01/2014 22:26

Fun?! He knew you weren't having fun that's nonsense - to be sending them on Christmas Day too (as if it wasn't a bad enough thing to do anyway)

You are not over reacting it's just really odd behaviour.

To have such a thing about ex boyfriends that he'd pull a weird stunt like that is not normal.

He can't be stupid enough to wonder why you were upset he must know.

AmberLeaf · 01/01/2014 22:26

What could possibly be fun about that though?

He so was testing you.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 01/01/2014 22:27

He's walked out ????

Sounds like he was testing you which is bad enough, but then to walk out when you are upset?

There is odd and then there is fucking weird.

SinisterSal · 01/01/2014 22:27

How come he's got a number you don't know of?

TurnipCake · 01/01/2014 22:27

Just a bit of fun? Stop. My sides are splitting.

verytellytubby · 01/01/2014 22:28

That is seriously weird.

RevoltInParadise · 01/01/2014 22:28

So, he thought it was fun watching you get annoyed and upset? And you calling the co to block the number wasn't at all an indicator he should stop?

He's a twat.

bebopanddoowop · 01/01/2014 22:28

That's not even a joke it's just really really weird...

NinjaBunny · 01/01/2014 22:29

Fuck.

My freaky, controlling ex did the exact same thing when we were together

I've gone cold thinking about it.

I lost all trust in him. Was one of the reasons I left him.

Was the creepiest thing. Happened about 10 years ago and to this day I'm still cagey about giving out my number.

Tinkertaylor1 · 01/01/2014 22:29

He was testing you .

It's weird and creepy. Abs