To be pissed of with DH re NYE or shall I let it go

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DH went to a house party last night. Agreement was I'd stay in with DC and two new pups and he'd go to party but be back home before 7am (DC wake up time) and in bed so they didn't see him drunk. He's still not home and no word from him. Last I heard was a happy new year text at midnight.

He will come rolling in when he feels like it with no word of apology. I'm so pissed off because it wastes the day for me and DC too. Not sure if I'm being unreasonable to be annoyed or whether I should just let it go as it's new year?

Sorry if I missed it but does he have form for this OP?

It's just that at the point of writing the title of this thread he was still missing and yet you wrote 'shall I let it go' as if you expected him to roll up late.

If it my dh I would be worried for his safety, not wondering whether to 'let him off'.

suspect he thought I'd taken the kids and left him. so he knew he was pushing his luck again . Have you made this threat before and perhaps not gone through with it ? Or was he frantic that he may have had to admit to his parents what he had done and the consequences. Do they know about his drinking?

He sort of has form for doing this. He's done it 3 or 4 times before (we've been together 10 years) so not like he does it every month.

Yes he knew fine well he was pushing his luck and that is be annoyed and upset.

His parents would blame me if they knew. He's spoiled and selfish as a result of them thinking the sun shines out of his arse! But he is a grown man and a father himself so should know better

Maybe more like 6 or 7 times when I think of it. But still it's not a regular occurrence but too regular for my liking!

So, the first time he did it, did he apologise and say he wouldn't do it again?

And you seem fairly committed to excusing shabby, disrespectful behaviour Juno.

So he still thinks it is fine to leave his wife, children and puppies alone doing sod all on NYE then piss about with God knows who, doing who knows what, switch his phone off so that his wife cannot bother him. Stay out longer than agreed, not come home and then try and turn it all around to the old chestnut of "I was so worried about you." Hence you thinking he actually gives a shit. Well he may do, as he probably had to cook his own lunch, and face the possibility that he has behaved badly towards his family, and maybe his wife will find the courage to tell him to go out all he likes, as she is leaving the selfish idiot to his life of singledom.

Well, DH and I have both done similar things, probably 10 times in total between us, in the past 6 years.

I wouldn't consider either of us shabby or disrespectful.

But then we have a great, respectful relationship otherwise so maybe I am being unfairly lax to this behaviour. I just for see a blowout once/twice a year or less that big a deal. It's the behaviour afterwards that I judge on.

the clue is in the both. op got left on her own and her dh took advantage to not only have a "good time" with little explanation but not return as agreed or communicate.

I agree with you Juno, it's the behaviour afterwards that's the problem here, not the separate social lives.

I'm glad that he's back in one piece OP. Just don;t let him off too lightly, I'd be making DH pay for a good while

I'd have thought that, once parents, massive nights out on occasions like the one described, were over until the children are a bit older.

Worse things have happened at sea.... Not a LTB offence IMO