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To think this woman is being very entitled (and it's not 'news')

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pollypocket99 · 29/12/2013 11:39

www.salisburyjournal.co.uk/news/10901364.School_bars_mum_from_daughter_s_first_Christmas_play/?action=success

Saw this in our local rag. I cant believe someone is bleating about this to a newspaper Confused makes me mad!!

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Whistleblower0 · 30/12/2013 11:52

Sorry I know it was was the sister who was performing not little joshua. They'll all be traumtised thenWink
perhaps mummy could teach them all to do the sad face she has perfected for the 'news' article..

Whistleblower0 · 30/12/2013 11:55

Oh, and when my dd was in primary schol, the HT banned siblings from nativity plays and the like. Smile

ExcuseTypos · 30/12/2013 11:56

The Ht should have made an exception as the mother had been in hospital.

And Salisbury is quite nice actually.

Whistleblower0 · 30/12/2013 11:59

A tually i have been to Sailsbury, i just remembered. There's a fantastic WItrose there. Apart from that nothing much else..

Whistleblower0 · 30/12/2013 12:00

The HT should not have made any exceptions. Why on earth would she?
The mother sounds like an attention seeking loon.

ExcuseTypos · 30/12/2013 12:07

whistleblower apart from the Catherdral right in the centre and Stonehenge just being up the roadGrin

OddBoots · 30/12/2013 12:12

My children are 14 and 10 now but when they were in infant school the nursery nurses from the reception class ran a creche for younger siblings if the parents had no childcare during the Christmas shows. I hadn't realised how lucky we were to have that.

AsBrightAsAJewel · 30/12/2013 12:14

Trouble is with exceptions, if you make it for one person everyone finds a good reason it should be made for them too.

IamInvisible · 30/12/2013 12:15

I've had spinal surgery, twice. The last thing on my mind would have been a Nativity play, and then chucking my teddy out of the pram when I couldn't have taken my younger child in to the hall, when I had just come out of hospital. I certainly couldn't have sat on a small chair, or stood long enough to watch.

If her DS really wanted to see it, he could have gone with granny to the dress rehearsal.

DameDoom · 30/12/2013 12:35

Well, what I want to know first is who was her surgeon? To be in hospital for three weeks following spinal surgery, and then able to do a posed, local paper 'sad face' in full make-up, sitting up straight, is nowt short of a major miracle. Took me a year to get proper feeling back in my arms.
I have been a teacher for more years than I care to remember and sadly have seen many productions ruined by parents who cannot be arsed to control their toddlers or much, much worse... parents who sit and chat, argue or even loudly take the piss out of the children performing. If anyone think these performances are no big deal then perhaps they should try consoling the poor children who have had their big moment snatched away from them by totally selfish adults who refuse to conform for a few minutes.
We have a lot of performances throughout the year in our school and always have a dress rehearsal so that toddlers/babies can come; the performers are prepared for disruptions then and most parents are very considerate. There is a whole world of difference between an excited toddler calling out to his superstar sibling and a screaming teething baby. However, there are always a minority who think it is their right to totally spoil the whole event.
Okay, these aren't West End blockbusters as someone cynically pointed out.They are more important than that - it's an opportunity to let every child take part and shine in some small way. If you had seen the little boy who stole the show as a non-speaking Christmas tree in our KS1 nativity this year, you'd agree. He was really swishing his branches loudly in the wintery wind and when Mary stepped on his twig it was comedy gold to hear him swear shout at her crossly. It would have been a real shame if his moment of divadom went unheard. Happily, it didn't and his proud parents will be able to rib him mercilessly about it when he is older.
It does seem that no matter how hard schools try to accommodate everyone, there is always going to be some parents you can't please...ever. IMO that silly woman has embarrassed herself big time.

IamInvisible · 30/12/2013 12:38

True Dame.

When I came out of hospital the only thing that I wore was pyjamas for 6 weeks and I spent most of that time in bed. My surgeon was voted the best spinal surgeon in the country by other spinal surgeons.

WireCatGlitteryBaubles · 30/12/2013 12:42

My children have attended 3 different primary schools.
None have let younger children to watch performances.

IneedAsockamnesty · 30/12/2013 12:50

A tually i have been to Sailsbury, i just remembered. There's a fantastic WItrose there. Apart from that nothing much else

The waitrose here is shite but does have a decent cheese section.

We have great museums,not to bad shopping some very good restaurants,its a very good touristy type area with things to see and do but not really limited to summer like beach places.we have some very good schools.

Its a clean,safe fairly affluent area with low crime rates fairly low rates of unemployment,but does not suffer from some of the funding issues with support services that many other affluent areas seam to have.

Our roughest housing estate is neither rough nor does it pretend to be. (Shameless??? Nothing like it and anybody who thinks bemerton Heath/ the friary or partridge way is anything like it is a bit silly).

However it does have a high proportion of people who are lucky enough to have never been anywhere else have nothing to compare it to so don't realise just how lucky they are to live in such a nice area.

Not saying it does not have its problems (parking is over priced, Southampton road is a nightmare on a Friday for traffic jams amongst a few other things) but on the whole its not a bad place.

IneedAsockamnesty · 30/12/2013 12:55

Oh we also have one of the best spinal units in the country

(And burns and plastics)

DameDoom · 30/12/2013 13:05

Sock clearly you have the best spinal unit in the universe. 21 days to sitting up in full make-up and feeling so bloody chipper you can be arsed to ring up the local scandal rag to moan about nothing. I am moving to Salisbury.
Noticed that she is sitting at a 30 degree angle too. That ain't happening here and my surgery was a good 20 years ago.

Geckos48 · 30/12/2013 13:07

The hospital is amazing, the schools are amazing, no crime at all

DameDoom · 30/12/2013 13:11

I don't care if it's like South Central LA- if you've got the Messiah doing 3 weeks to fighting fit back surgery I am there.

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pollypocket99 · 30/12/2013 13:25

Grin @ Dame

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ExcuseTypos · 30/12/2013 13:27

The hospital is used to treating badly wounded soldiers, so they do have the very best drs there.

jamdonut · 30/12/2013 13:40

Can you imagine the ructions from other parents if the school had let her little one in!!

Doesn't bear thinking about...the poor school secretary would be fighting off the complaints from people who had wanted to bring their little ones - but didn't!

Better one person was put out, rather than dozens.

AmberLeaf · 30/12/2013 14:03

apart from the Catherdral right in the centre and Stonehenge just being up the road

Another vote for Sailsbury here.

Relatives live nearby so have visited a bit, perfectly pleasant place IMO.

Got some lovely pics of the kids by the river with swans [near morrisons?]

Geckos48 · 30/12/2013 14:15

There is no Morrison, you mean in town tesco

DameDoom · 30/12/2013 14:17

Methinks she is acting all innocent 'mum of the year' with her pretend bad back but if you look closely you can just tell she is an absolute foul-mouthed trouble maker. I'll bet she pops another few children out in the next few years despite her crippling scoliosis.
I will personally blame the brilliant back specialists of Salisbury.

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pollypocket99 · 30/12/2013 14:21

OMG I just found her on Facebook! Confused Say no more Grin

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Whistleblower0 · 30/12/2013 15:05

I'm sure Sailsbury is very nice, but a touch on the dull sideGrin