to be stressed out about having sons due to being the MIL?

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Honestly, it does worry me.

I have no children yet but am in my 30s so should get a move on. But I am worried about potentially having no daughters and ending up always being the MIL!

I can't imagine having babies, raising them, loving them and then being seen as an annoyance at best. I have read stories about presents for children being binned as the mother didn't like it (on another forum) daughters in law refusing to spend Christmas at the in laws and just general MIL hatred!

My own upbringing meant we rarely saw my dads parents but saw loads of my mothers.

Please, are there ANY positive MIL stories there??!

I'm struggling to see why anyone would take umbrage at the observation that 'some in-laws are horrible', and I quite agree that bad behaviour is not just the preserve of MILs - but then I never said it was.

Horrible in-laws are much less of an issue when your spouse or partner is on side and supports you.

I assumed this statement was more along the line of it's nice when you not told by your DH/DP to take being insulted, undermined or treated like shit to keep the peace.

My own GP had to die for my mother to get from that one and she was very bitter about it all - I refused and stood up for myself and it wasn't easy but we all have a better relationship with respect and boundaries.

Sometime from what I have read on here it actually the DH/DP causing the issue and blaming his parents or allowing them to be blamed.

Similar to that is when any decision parents dislike is blamed on their DC spouse and not acknowledged as a decisions their grown DC has made or been part of. (I had this and it require DH to actually tell them something were his decision or joint decisions and not just me - rather than assuming they knew that or it didn't matter they knew that or it was none of their business - which it wasn't).

Other times they are happy with their partner being upset or putting up with dreadful behavior as long as it doesn't affect them.

Or grown DC are so condition to the poor behavior that they just accept it or don't get how to stand up to it.

Sometime it is the DIL being batshit crazy and from what I have seen people are quick to point it out and in this case the couple should talk not blindly support each other.

I didn't take umbrage- of course some in laws are horrible. It' the assumption that it's always the mil that's in the wrong that pisses me off!

Yes, that's what I meant tinselly.

Fair dos curlew.