To think christmas brings out the worst in MNers

[pixiepotter]

I have been shocked at the ungrateful, ungracious, brattish and sometimes downright rude thoughts and actions of some.
People whining because friends have not handwritten a message in their cards, the cards are not special ones for 'dear sister at christmas' etc.
People complaining the presents others have given their children are too cheap, too expensive, too big , too small, too pink.Relatives treading on toes or not rotating their whole world around the posters baby miracle.Posters moaning at relatives living overseas not visiting long enough or timing their visits round their PFB's naps, posters not being prepared to put themselves out for the comfort of elderly immobile guests,hosts being resentful of stepchildren being there when it isn't their turn, needing collecting and dropping off.Horror at being asked to contribute to christmas food costs.Brattishness about presents from OHs and presents OH has bought on behalf of children.

How pessimistic of you. Are you not reading any of the nice ones? You see what you want to see, I guess.

It's a high stress time and brings out the worst in everyone. Why would MNers be exempt?

..and to cap it all ex p won't spend xmas day with me and PFB baby instead of his dying relative

I agree 100%, some of the threads at this time of year are awful.

Although some of them are justified! (being asked to pay £16 per head after being invited to dinner? pffttt)

Read the thread about the lady whose DD bought her the air hockey... Sniff sniff. It'll make you feel better.

Yanbu- but it isnt just MNers- it's all sorts of people, its just that MN gives them a public platform to whinge. If they didnt have MN they'd whinge to someone in RL.

Agree with euphemia. I have nothing to complain about. Right now. Re Christmas / family.
But when I do, (lack of support from school , for ds1's Aspergers) , then mn is a godsend, allowing me to let off steam.

There's some lovely stuff posted on here. It's just like life - grumps, laughter, love, meanies.

His relative is dying? He will have many more xmas to enjoy with his child

The Carpe house's Chritmas was SAVED by mumsnetters.

Saved!

I am looking at a Chritimas miricle, a grinning ear to ear 13 yo boy, and it wouldn't have happened without mumsnetters.

So I respecfully disagree. And it wasn't a five minute fix either, it was a protracted three day thread of me alternatively being hysterical or falling apart at the seams. The patience, support, cheering up, skills and knowledge were ongoing and ... wonderful.

I love mumsnetters. Especially this Chritmas.

why on earth would anyone spend christmas with their ex instead of a dying relative? Why would they spend it with their ex at all?

It seems to have brought the worst in you.

What do you care? Don't come to MN. Spend time with your family. :)

In some of the threads you mentioned the OP is not that pissed off, but here is a good place to offload and get back to the family with a better disposition.

Have a happy Christmas. :)

Last xmas MIL was dying in hospital. It was pretty shit. We were all a mess. But ... one posters "broken toe problme" still hurts like buggery even if another poster's "broken back problem" is much worse. And reading about other people's various "not going smoothly" Christmases was a much welcome distraction, gave me an opoortunity to get stuck into other people's issues rather than my own and becuase it was so "normal" it took the edge off the "surreal" tone my house had that year,

I would hate to think that people can't post about what is getting on their tits or making them upset for fear that somebody who has it worse is going to think badly of them for it. Cos sometimes posting and getting friednly support does more for gaining perspective and solutions than just stewing and feeling bad for feeling bad when others have much bigger pain to deal with.

Pretty much MN would cease to funtion if only Deeply Serious Shit were considered the only socislly accpetable thread content.

Some posters are just horrible without Christmas being the reason.

I am actually speechless. I am having a shitty Christmas and the thought that people are thinking like you are has just about reduced me to tears.

Merry fucking Christmas.

You're pretty fecking miserable yourself OP, complaining over complaints.

Just go and enjoy your wonderful Christmas.

We're very happy. Got a tree, food, some presents and our family is together. And the roof doesn't leak any more. I get a lot of pleasure from watching the rain not coming in.
But that's not very interesting, is it?

Any time of stress can bring out the worst in people, in others it can bring out the best. Why should we be any different?

If it means a poster can keep on a happy face in RL, let them vent here about whatever is winding them up.

oldbag

Oh lovie.

I know you are hurt, and Intotally understand why, it feels like a hard sharp prod when you are already down, but if it helps, sometimes when people are in pain they can lash out a bit, it isn't always a reflection of what they actually usually think, but more an expression of how much they are hurting.

I promise if you post you will get support. Lots and lots of supoort. I was actually crying when I posted a few days ago. And in the grand scheme of things it was not a huge problem. I have never felt so surrounded by people who give a shit, ready and willing to proivde a wall of human kindness and considerstion that I could lean on until I could stop crying and start resolving the issue. Posting was so much better than feeling alone and shit, worried that people would judge me ridiculous for being so frantic about a "all things in proportion" small sized problem.

I was floored by just how lovely people on here can be when they see a person in distress. Going to hazzard a guess they are the majority.

I agree 100%

People need to get a grip and realise how bloody lucky they are!

pixiepotter, merry Christmas to you too - I hope you find peace and love in the circle of your loved ones

{hugs} to oldbaghere

I'm having a crappy Christmas and I more or less agree with the OP. However I suspect some of the posters who posted unpleasant whinging threads are the same all year round and yes, it has to be remembered that forums give people an outlet to vent.

People need to get a grip and realise how bloody lucky they are!

Yeah! Like getting a grip and realising how lucky they are to have uncensored and affordable internet access plus a device to run it on....... rather than frittering away that spectacular good fortune by whinging about what other people choose to post.