Dsis charging for Christmas dinner.

[MercuryRising]

Hi.
We are going to my dsis for Christmas dinner this year. This is the first year she has hosted.
In previous years my dmum or I have hosted and on these years have footed the bill except if somebody has offered to bring alcohol or puddings with them. I have just had a text from my dsis telling me that she has worked out the bill and it is £16 per head so I need to pay £64 for me, dp and 2dc (5 and 7). Now I do not consider myself to be tight but feel angered about the way this has been done because it really does feel that she is charging her own dniece and dnephew to eat. Aibu to feel rattled by this?

Well doneMercury, she is a complete loon and a shocking example of meanness combined with pride; too proud to back down or admit you might have a point. Have a wonderful time at home and remember to sweep in full of festive joy for playtime. Enjoy what I confidently predict will be a sour-faced reception.

I do wish you had asked her " Are you snorting the fucking sherry?".

Well done OP, that was going to be a pricey dinner! How would anyone even think of setting a price per head for Christmas dinner! Nothing wrong at all with sharing costs, as others have mentioned, but actually sitting down and texting a price per person..words fail me! Sounds like she usually gets away with things, so this might hopefully start to change a bit. Be prepared to point out when you bring the kids over to play, that you have hosted previously without charging her!
Enjoy your dinner at home and happy Christmas!

I can just get my head around charging, but to charge children to subsidise adults is ridiculous. Do you get the kids share of bubbly and wine. Awful.

When you pop over don't forget a flask of tea and a packet of sandwiches incase you or your dc get hungry:)

Go you!

Well done!

Weller, she was going to charge extra for drinks!

Well done! What a shame she had to go spoil family get together. Hope you can sort something out for next year. Current plan sounds like the best model for future!

Hurrah! Brilliant, hope you get hold of everything you need for lunch without too much hassle.

I hope you have a very happy (and less expensive and probably more delicious) Christmas meal (and hope that your father is able to join you too!)

This is rude! I have no problem contributing or bringing a pudding or other food (plus wine/ drinks etc which we wold take to any social gathering at someone's house).

My sister hosted us last year and we did contribute but she didn't demand it - we talked about it weeks before and we made a contribution which I included brunch, lunch and snacks/dinner plus drinks. (£50 for two adults and a 2 year old in case you were wondering) and I made the pudding. But my sister bought lots of expensive food and we were happy to pay extra for that - would have been a lot more if we had hosted it for everyone!

I've never hosted my sister so there is no history of her enjoying my hospitality for free and then charging me - that would really upset me if I were you.

Brilliant news!

You don't invite people for a meal then, just before the meal takes place, inform them that you will be charging them £16 a head.

Who needs a bill like that sprung on them for a family meal?

You have done the right thing. You will still see your sister, your DCs will see their cousins. That is totally reasonable.

Have a lovely Christmas lunch!

Just read the update, so glad you're not going to go and pay her!
Everybody bringing a dish if she was worried about costs would be fine (one bring veg, one bring meat etc) but to charge £64 for going to her house for dinner is disgraceful!
Hope you have a lovely dinner at yours

Well done, Mercury. Is your Dad coming to you or going to your sister's?

btw... I wondered why you took offence at your sister only charging your children to eat lunch? She shouldn't have been charging any of you.

Hope you are having your dad over! What a Scrooge!

Well done OP

I hope you have a great day.

Well done you. I was sitting here thinking that I'd be staying at home for dinner, even if all I could rusti up was cheese on toast. It is not that I am averse to sharing the cost - in the past I have borne the full cost of the day when my dais hosted at her house when it was really my 'turn' (her house is bigger and more easily accommodates us all ), or supplied half the food and drink. But never, absolutely never, would she text and demand a 'per head' fee.
Enjoy your dinner at home.

So glad you are not going, purely for the cheek factor ....

If I'd have gone I'd have been simmering all through the meal, adding up the cost of everything ruining my christmas.

Christmas seems to bring out the loons !

NeartheWindmill Merry Christmas! Lovely to see you, hope all is well and the move wasn't too traumatic.

(I suspect we used to go scrumping not too far from you, but you'll have to check that with baby brother)!

Delighted you've made your point Mercury hope you have a lovely day with your family

I've just read the whole thread.

If that was my sister I would have asked what she was on

good on you for staying at home.

Are you going to show your sister this thread?

Maybe 'glue'?

Gluesister!

I think its a great idea. But I think I'll leave the billing until after dinner when they've finished because I don't want to lose out from cancellations.

wtf??? You can't invite someone round for dinner and then charge them. I read the op out to dh and he was just . And 16 quid for a five year old ?????