to get completely pissed off by smug 'know all' parents?

[JRmumma]

It might just be me, but I find it really irritating when people who have children when you don't, or have older children than you, talk to you as if they are the authority on being a parent, and know better than you, just because they did it first. It also has a tone of 'im better than you coz i have kids/ had kids before you did'.

My favorite example is when someone says 'you don't know what tired is until you have a child'. Really boils my piss. There are a plethora of reasons why someone might be tired in their life, not just because your baby wakes in the night or is high needs. Its this sort of attitude, that implies that all life experiences except child rearing are invalid, that i find so desperately infuriating.

Anyone else???

Oh a snow my sil said that re singletons being harder.

We had ours at the same time.Twins boys for me and a girl for her.

When they were 3 months old she mused how easier it was for me as mine amused each other.I'm afraid I wasn't as diplomatic as you and said "you are f**g kidding me,at 2am they don't, they just wake each other up- on a loop"

Funny thing is she changed her view when she had another( a boy)2 years later.

Harry yes to the private face palm

Have told mine to shut up when it's a bickerfest in the back of the car and I'm trying to drive on more than one occasion.

I had three under 20 months, a big bleed and one of my twins has additional needs. I was exhausted and anaemic. I staggered to playgroup having been told that getting out of the house every day was a sure preventative measure for PND. Got there with two babies asleep and one awake but was told the triple pram couldn't come in, they'd have to sleep in the hall as it took up too much space! The organiser relented when I pointed to a single buggy containing a sleeping child.
Then a childminder there told me I should get my then 22 month old to use a scooter, rather than go in the pram. I said that meant I'd be running after him whilst pushing a pram with two other babies in it. And she said "well you're making life harder for yourself"!

I see her around regularly and always internally mutter "fuck you . Fuck you up the bum."

And yes, I tell them to shut up because sometimes they shout louder and louder than each other!

Yes. Re:"shut up" etc. it's very annoying to hear the view that imperfect interactions = child abuse.