To expect a 'sister' card for Xmas from my brother

[mightyducks]

His card arrived today in the post, just a bog standard one out of a box of cards. I always get him and his wife a 'to my brother and his wife' card every year. He used to but the last two years it's been a box one. AIBU?

sister would have been nice, but least you got a card from your bruv !!!

All 'to my step great nan' cards are massively chavvy.

Sorry, YABU, as a previous poster said those cards are v expensive and completely unnecessary.

To me it means nothing - all of DH's family always send those cards to each other, they see each other a handful of times a year and are not at all close, my family don't do those 'special' cards but we are really close and always have been...

mightyducks You work in PR for hallmark or Clinton's I guess? good try, but I think it would've been better in the first week of December, it's too late to guilt trip all the "brothers".

Really you care about this? Do you care for birthdays as well? Sorry can't even believe anyone would care, so actually think this is wind up....

YABU. Do you need reminding you're a sister?

I never/rarely send specific cards to siblings, not even parents tbh. I got my godson a specific one for his first Christmas - dd same for each of my nieces and my nephew.

And dd gets a specific one each year.
Don't usually send dh a Christmas card.

Can I slightly derail?

What's the MN consensus on 'relationship' birthday cards? That's different, right?

Um fraid not young british. They are all wrong, wrong, wrong.

Yabu. My brother and I didn't even send cards. We will spend christmas together at our parents. Cards are pretty pointless to those closest to you imo.

Relative specific cards are just common!

Will get flamed probably but so what, they are

they are SO SO common
for people who cant write

YABU I never buy or send these cards just the ordinary ones and they do the same to me.

With great pride, DM handed DD an A3 envelope containing a 'to a darling granddaughter at Christmas' monstrosity today. It was taller than her.

YABU IMO. My DF and DSM always buy me relationship cards, but I know they get them in their local shop, at 8 for £1 or sthg. My cards are (IMO) better quality, sparklier and glossier, even if they are all the same. And I hate the twee rhymes!
DP and I do have a little joke about the cards sometimes as they are so very specific- we always wonder whether this year we will actually get "to a special daughter and her fiancé from your father and stepmother and stepbrother and half brother and the Labrador"

Don't be mean!

Christmas cards as a concept make me very angry, but my parents got the kids ones with their actual names on and they loved them (well, the one that can read did). Kids happy, GPs happy: fine.

Demanding specific Christmas cards is a wee bit U, though. Why not make a secret donation to charity for the amount you would have spent on their non-boxed card. Then you still have a glow and don't feel bitter...

I was promoted this year MIL gave us a card that said "to my daughter and son in law". DH wasn't too gutted to be reduced to SIL.

YABU and chavvy

I think Yabu. Think of the trees! All that wasted paper. Seriously though at least your brother thought about you and sent you a card. After all it's the thought that counts.

Chavvy? don't be a twat

Wow, can't believe all the insults I've had on here! Happy Xmas to you all too!

I don't buy special cards, everyone gets a charity card. My husband has just got me a lovely to my wife card and I forgot to get him one

god lord a card would be nice from mine, pepole are so demanding!

I'm going to break out my new go-to phrase now (thanks *AmberLeaf):

Anyone who calls anyone or anything else chavvy is a wanker.

I didn't mean to upset you. I didn't understand how much it means to you to receive a personal card.