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Original poster

To expect a 'sister' card for Xmas from my brother

211 replies

mightyducks · 23/12/2013 13:13

His card arrived today in the post, just a bog standard one out of a box of cards. I always get him and his wife a 'to my brother and his wife' card every year. He used to but the last two years it's been a box one. AIBU?

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pianodoodle · 23/12/2013 14:06

It gets worse and worse now you can get things like "to Grandma on Mother's Day" Confused

They're for suckers..

MerryChristmasyoufilthyanimal · 23/12/2013 14:08

I always get mum/grandmad & grandad, brother & SIL, Sister, brother etc cards, but only ever get bog standard out of a box ones back. Don't know why, I just always have - I notice I don't get the same kind back but don't really care, certainly not enough to ever mention it or do an IBU thread!

RescueCack · 23/12/2013 14:09

He's probably about to cut you out of his life for good. Can't you read the signs OP?

Thisisaghostlyeuphemism · 23/12/2013 14:11

I'm glad you said it, piano doodle.

They so are.

HaroldTheGoat · 23/12/2013 14:11

For once a Christmas thread everyone is agreeing on! Grin

ouryve · 23/12/2013 14:11

YABU. It's a piece of cardboard.

BonaDea · 23/12/2013 14:13

I loathe 'mother', 'brother', whatever cards. Just so so tacky if you ask me!

yummymumtobe · 23/12/2013 14:15

We received 4 cards from ILs - to son, to DIL, to GD to GS. Separate envelopes and stamps. Why?! I don't give cards to my parents or sister as I see them all the time. Tend to think of cards as being for people you won't see - a nice way of keeping in touch.

ouryve · 23/12/2013 14:19

I always have a giggle over the cards that simply state "son". It's so bloody formal and i always imagine is say a bit awkwardly, in a deep voice. If the card could give a tentative pat on the shoulder, that's what it would be doing.

Our inlaws do the card thing. The only specific cards we buy are grandparent cards, from the boys. One card between the boys. Everyone else gets one of the boxed cards we fish out of the loft every December. If they all live in the same house, they get a card between them!

MatryoshkaDoll · 23/12/2013 14:19

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NoComet · 23/12/2013 14:21

I was brought up to think they were the hight of naffness.

I do them only if the pictures are really appropriate.

My dyslexic DD got me one that said dear great grandma. I t had butterflies (my favourite) so she hadn't bothered trying to read the swirly text.

PuppyMonkey · 23/12/2013 14:21

I don't send Christmas cards so that makes it all a lot simpler.

Charotte31 · 23/12/2013 14:23

I always send my brother a brother card and don't ever get one back. Doesn't bother me. I like sending family cards. You don't give just to get one back. Well I don't.

MrsOakenshield · 23/12/2013 14:23

I can't bear those cards, and cringe when DMiL sends one 'to her son and daughter-in-law'. I do send them to DD's GPs, as I know they like them, but I certainly don't to my sister (in fact I forgot to send her a card at all this year Blush) and DH doesn't to his siblings. The artwork on most of them is cringeworthy to say the least.

FirstStopCafe · 23/12/2013 14:23

YABU my inlaws all do these named cards. I don't, I buy charity Christmas cards.

FelineExtraStrongMincePie · 23/12/2013 14:27

Why do you send cards to people you don't know the name of, OP?

radiatormesh · 23/12/2013 14:29

Those cards just scream chav to me I'm afraid...

NewtRipley · 23/12/2013 14:29

Was it a Charity card?

MrsDeVere · 23/12/2013 14:31

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fiverabbits · 23/12/2013 14:31

PUPPYMONKEY

I agree with you but my DH who I have known for 43 years has never sent a card in his life has said since the 1st of December when are you going to write out the cards. Funny really considering I always have done them without his input. In the end I did 3 and my DD did the other fifteen, I have got them down to this after sending over 100 for the first 10 years. My DH never looks at the ones we have been sent.

Jackthebodiless · 23/12/2013 14:35

How very dare he!

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mightyducks · 23/12/2013 14:36

FelineExtrastrongmincepie - I send cards to my neighbours but most of the time I can't remember their names, we haven't lived in the house very long.

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teenagetantrums · 23/12/2013 14:37

I have not even sent my sister a card, in fact i have only two to my nan and great aunt, as it makes them very happy. I have told everyone else im not sending them don't think you have to send me one, but they still do. Christmas cards are redundant i think now, we can email text, and even people that are far away we still communicate with. Also the postage is more expensive than the card.

starrystarryknut · 23/12/2013 14:40

Haha starballbunny - me too. When I was a child I bought my father a birthday card with a picture I really liked. It said: "Good bye and good luck!" Grin

onedogandababy · 23/12/2013 14:43

Height of naff-ness in my opinion.

But surely this isn't serious so convinced this isn't real that I can't be bothered to read whole thread