To expect a 'sister' card for Xmas from my brother

[mightyducks]

His card arrived today in the post, just a bog standard one out of a box of cards. I always get him and his wife a 'to my brother and his wife' card every year. He used to but the last two years it's been a box one. AIBU?

[DziezkoDisco]

Woozle, I hate any form of snobbery. Don't care who's dishing it out.

[YouStayClassySanDiego]

Dh's mum does like a ' Dear Mum' Christmas/ birthday card especislly with a gushing sentiment inside.

I dont buy that kind of card, I find it false and overly sentimental but if dh is with me and picks that sort, fine.

She doesn't throw a hissy fit if she gets my choice.

Why would she?

[woozlebear]

Oh fgs. Social observations and judgements are a fact of life. Certain types of people tend to send relationship cards. Other people think they're naff. Certain other types of people - as has been observed on here already- tend to have scruffy long haired sons who wear tutus. And I bet there's no shortage of posters who would call them posh and poncy.

For every example of snobbery on here there's at least one of inverse snobbery. As there is in rl. Cuts both ways.

[DziezkoDisco]

What a load of fucking snobs.
I hate cards full stop.
Hate named cards too.
But not as much as a hate low life snobs.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

I thought about this thread when my Christmas card from dsis and dbil arrived. Not only had my sister not written it (dbil had), but it wasn't even addressed to us - just the printed greeting, and their names!

I momentarily considered being horrendously offended, and having a massive fit of the vapours - but didn't! It was a lovely card, and I know that dbil knows my name and dh's name - and probably the dses names too, and I knew who the card was for, so it was not worth getting into even the tiniest tizzy over it.

I saved that for when ds1 wasn't dressed when we had to head off for our appointments at the dentist on Christmas Eve. Why I thought it would be a good idea to take these appointments when the receptionist suggested them, is beyond me! Clearly I thought I would welcome a bit extra stress on Christmas Eve, and utterly deserved the inevitable meltdown - please, all feel free to point and laugh!

[bishbashboosh]

Nope

Don't think my brothers card got off the table

[KeatsiePie]

Caitlin hahahahaha! Love it.

Er, did I catch it that most of you don't do relationship cards on birthdays either?? I don't send Christmas cards at all but I always give the To My Darling/Awesome/Perfect Husband/Mom/MIL/Dad/FIL cards on birthdays. I would be rather startled to get birthday cards back that didn't say Dear Daughter/Dear Wife on them. It would just feel really generic.

[Rachelx92]

Are you actually upset that you didn't get a £3 card with the word 'sister' on it?!

[KatieScarlett2833]

I only buy cards for birthdays.
Thank fuck.

[Jackthebodiless]

Lol at 'card nazis' and 'doggedly specific'!

Although have to confess dsis and I buy DM 'mum' cards. She's not materialistic and couldn't care less if she gets presents or not (she does), but goes all misty-eyed over cards from us and has kept every one we've ever given her (we're in our fifties!).

[MostWicked]

Oh good grief - get a grip!

[NetworkGuy]

Clearly it has upset you a bit. Just curious but how old (20s, 30s, 40s are you?) Only ask because I have sent none of my sisters (3) a card, while each of them did send me a card (not 'brother' but a 'normal' card).

We're all over 50, and they are none of them apparently upset over not having had a card (one sister commented that most of her friends had explained environmental reasons, while for me it's plain economics).

I have loads of clients, one always sends me a desk diary, none have sent cards this year, and I've posted none at all. I did drop a few in to neighbours, and most have responded in the same way.

Obvious from many of the comments that people are generally not as sensitive about this as you. If your family normally select special cards, then just treat it as an oversight, pressure of work, or whatever and don't think badly of him... It's Christmas, after all!

[MalibuAndMilkPleaseLibertine]

Seriously?? that's what's pissing you off enough to start a Fred? Okaaaaay, I don't get cards! From any fucker!

Do I give a rat's wank? Nope! If you have a good relationship, and know He loves you, really, who cares?

(Disclaimer, am half cut)

[Caitlin17]

One of ours peed on the wrapped cat nip parcel. Possibly in frustration at not being able to get the paper off.

Not one of them gave us a card. I suppose there is the possibility of a headless mouse appearing later.

My son gave us a particularly cheesy card marked "to both of you" I'm not sure who it's aimed at. It features 2 teddy bears both wearing blue bow ties exchanging presents but is non specific as to the relationship between the donor, the donee and the teddies. It is possibly meant for a male gay couple for a sender who wants to acknowledge the relationship but not too overtly, in which case son has misjudged it entirely. I hope it is.

[SantasComingEarlyHisSackIsFull]

At least your cats don't pee on the Christmas presents under the tree, for the second Christmas running. We've only had him 15 months, the wee bastard.

[zeeboo]

Bloody hilarious! I'm going to be chuckling about this all day. Thanks OP.

[MyMILisfromHELL]

YABU. Grow up FFS.

[oldgrandmama]

Yes, motherinferior, AND I gave my bloody cat a special Christmas breakfast of Waitrose prawns this morning and last night her supper was cooked giblets from my Duchy Originals bronze aged turkey.

She's also got a lovely laser toy, a new bowl, sachet of pussy treats and several catnip mice all wrapped under the Christmas Tree - but not one sodding present from her to me. Talk about ungrateful. What's more, she won't grace us with her presence when my daughter, her DH and the grandbrats are here for Christmas Dinner, as she hates kids ... OK, I'll be honest, she hates EVERYONE except me and the cleaning lady (she likes Lithuanians, it seems) and everyone hates her - she's Pussy No-Mates.

Still, you'd think she could at least manage a card.

[motherinferior]

Cats are bastards that way. Not one of ours has bothered with a card of any kind. I am v upset, obviously.

[oldgrandmama]

I am very upset because I didn't get a 'You are a lovely owner, Happy Christmas' card from my cat.

[scottishbelle78]

Yabu. Sister cards are yuk. Soppy and sentimental.

[Earlspearl]

Cards with happy Xmas brother/sister/aunt etc are just a commercial ploy to get more money out of shoppers. Surely a special message inside a standard card is nice? Also bit odd you send cards to people you don't know the names of

[BigBirthdayGloom]

Well, I like relations cards. If money were no object I'd buy them. In fact I had one for pretty much each member of our immediate family to give each other in my basket at John Lewis the other day. Had to put them back, with regret.

[HaroldTheGoat]

Trying too hard is really common.

Poor love.