To be really angry with the school and be considering not sending my DCs in for the last 2 days?

[littlewhitehamster]

I have 2 DC, DS who is 8 and in year 3 and DD who is 5 and in year 1.

A new boy started the school about 2 weeks after half term and is in my DDs class. 3 weeks ago my DD said that this boy was 'not being nice to her' when I asked what was going on she said that for the last couple of days he had been saying to her she was his girlfriend and she must play with him and not play with any other boys, apparently DD said she told him she didn't want to be his girlfriend and she just played with her friends as normal resulting in this boy pulling on her hair.

I sent a not in the next day via the office for the class teacher (not very easy to grab a word in the morning) expressing my concern and asked if she could possibly keep an eye out for anything and have a word with the boy in question if needed. At the end of the day when I sent the note in the teacher spoke to me and said that she had not seen anything but assured me she would keep an eye out, she also told my DD to speak to her if anything happened.

Everything was quiet until about 10-12 days ago when again DD told me she was starting to have the same sort of problems with this boy, she had told the class teacher and he had stopped bothering her in class but started bothering her at break and lunch times, insisting she was his girlfriend, lifting her skirt up, kissing her on the cheek. I saw the teacher and the head they assured that staff on playground duty would be made aware and that the boy would be spoken to.

A few days pass with no problem and then yesterday the boy tried to kiss my DD again, she ran away from him and told the playground staff, he left her alone until the whistle was blown, while running to line up DD said he caught her and held her in a hug so she couldn't get away so her could kiss her. I didn't find out until this last night so went and saw the head this morning, was assured that closer observation would be made and the boys mum would be spoken to (not that she strikes me as the kind who would give a shit).

Tonight my DD came out of class and looked upset I asked if she was OK and she started to cry and saying something about this boy at lunch but I couldn't understand through the crying. I said we would find her brother and speak to the teacher/head. My DS came out of his class looking equally upset and when I asked what was wrong her cried too saying he has to stay in at lunch tomorrow.

It turns out that at lunch today this boy was again holding on to my DD and kissing her, when she got away she told the playground staff and was told to try and stay away from him, she tried to stay out of his way but he started to chase her and she again told the playground staff who asked her to point him out and they said go and play we will speak to him (not sure if they did of didn't speak to him). He then chased and caught her with his arms around her and kissed her on the check and then still holding her tried to kiss her lips, at this point my DS saw, ran over and pushed the boy- he fell and grazed his hand. DS took DD to play with him for the few remaining minutes of lunch.

The boy must have informed the playground staff as he now has to miss 15 mins of lunch tomorrow, sit in the class room and write a sorry letter to the boy in question. I told his teacher he would most certainly not be writing a sorry letter to this boy and went to the head, who was busy but will see me in the morning.

I am so angry at the schools failure to deal with this situation and punishing my DS for stopping that the staff should have stopped. I don't want to send my DC in for the last 2 days of term, especially if my DS is going to have to write a sorry letter and this other boy gets away with no punishment for distressing my DD over several weeks.

I have spoken with the head about this before and nothing appears to have been done.. who can I go to to make it stop??

[helenthemadex]

well done OP I hope this is resolved quickly after the holidays, and you and your dc have a lovely Christmas break

[ToffeeOwnsTheSausage]

I am so sorry for everyone who has been so badly let down by bloody idiots who have no clue.

The term kiddy fiddler just shows that people have no idea what being assaulted can do to a person for the whole of the rest of their lives.

[hackneybird]

Nadia no I never told anyone else. I can't remember why, perhaps I thought my parents wouldn't believe me either?

Well done OP. I really hope it gets resolved in the New Year.

[Dubjackeen]

OP, well done on your dealings with the HT. No experience to add, but I definitely wouldn't have been half as well able to articulate the points you made. Hopefully the school, and all relevant authorities are forced to sit up, take notice, and take action. Well done to your children, I applaud your little boy for defending his little sister, and am appalled at the school's handling of the situation.
Hope that your little girl, and all of you have a lovely Christmas, and that things are sorted ASAP.

[NadiaWadia]

So sorry hackney what an idiotic and unpleasant man (the teacher - now Head). Hope the incident hasn't affected you too much in your life.

[hackneybird]

No it hasn't affected me negatively, but I suppose it was an unwanted early insight into how unfair sexual politics are in our society. Much worse then than now- this would have been 82/83 I think.

From time to time I just brew at the injustice of it! I hope I can bring up my son to treat women properly.

[Viviennemary]

It sounds as if the school is not in control of this situation and is not dealing with it. Your son is being punished for protecting his sister. It's a difficult one. I'd be seriously thinking about changing schools or making a complaint to the governors or LA about the lack of action by the school.

[lunar1]

I was just wondering how things are going now that they are back?