To want to take a photo or two of my daughters in their nativity?

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Just that really.

Text from school this morning to say photos and videos are banned.

Really annoyed as is dd2s first school nativity, and I've recorded the last 4 with dd1 in, no problem.

You could ask if you could get your dd for a moment to get a photo of just her.

Unfortunately there are a lot of reasons why photo's can't be taken.

If the school has allowed parents to take photos and video in the past, then it's highly likely that there is either a child that needs to be protected in the play, or parents have over shared the pictures on Facebook and it's caused enough of a problem to get back to the head.

Go to the nativity, and enjoy the moment watching it.

If you had to watch it through a screen, worrying about getting a good shot, you wouldn't enjoy it nearly as much!

OP, we were allowed a time at the end of the play when we could take our own child in their costume and take a picture of them away from other children. Could you suggest this to the school as a compromise?

really you were able to take ypur other daughters picture, no videoing and pictures have been in schools for years it is a PITA bUT SCHOOLS REALLY DO NEED TO FOLLOW THEIR PROCEDURES

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I wish they'd ban it at our school. Every year there are so many ignorant fuckers who just stand in the aisles videoing and taking pictures, and now half of them are using iPads too it's even more intrusive. Last week a lady came and stood right in front of us directly blocking any view of dd. Dh tapped her on the shoulder and asked her to sit down, she turned round and sneered at him 'don't touch me, and carried on filming.

It is a shame but I have a friend and her children cannot have their photographs taken at school or posted anywhere. She has moved away from an abusive relationship and cannot take that risk. I understand your frustration but when there are serious risks involved for some of the children we all just have to take it on the chin for their safety. I'd love to have pictures of my kids in plays especially as I couldn't go this year with one of them having chicken pox but I'd rather those children were safe.

As a side note - I bet all the flashes going off are really distracting for the kids too.

I think the school are quite right not to allow parents to take photos/film during the performance. There's nothing more off putting than trying to see the show through lots of parents holding up their mobile phones or clicking away with cameras. There's also the child protection issue. Personally I don't put photos of my children onto Facebook and don't want other people to do that either.

Watch the show and enjoy it whilst it's happening and ask if you can take photos after the performance.

Dh tapped her on the shoulder and asked her to sit down, she turned round and sneered at him 'don't touch me, and carried on filming.

That might have been a convenient time to develop a chesty coughing fit. Noticed the same issue with morons with iPads this year too, sat in the front row watching through a 10 inch screen blocking the view of people behind. Wish they'd just ban these fuckwits and their electronics.

I understand you are upset about it but I would agree with other comments about taking pictures at the end or seeing if you could buy some.

Maybe suggest to the school that a member of staff takes some action shots and then they could vet them and then sell them. Our junior school does this and sells paper copies for 10p

I have a scrapbook for one nativity my then 6 year old was in, I was in the front row...accidentally right in front of him. I do not have one smiling photo, he was so pissed off with me. Infact there is even one of him snarling at me!

YANBU I don't give a crap about children in care or children running away from an abusive someone. I care about my kids and my family being able to have photos to put on the wall and videos to show the grandparents.
I don't want photos of other children I want to zoom in on my childs face.

I went to my son's last week. Was sitting at the back and it was really irritating the sea of parents in front of me watching it through a frigging screen.

Take a couple at the end. I wish our school would ban them.

The photo calls at the end of the play that our school has done for the last few years have worked really well, they even recreated the actual Nativity scene for those who wanted it. We have to work it like that because of the very serious situation of some children there, the few of us who know the family involved tend to shut everybody else up when they whinge.
Random you personally just want pics of your children, not anybody else's and presumably wouldn't show anybody outside family, that's fine but not every parent in the school will be like that, it's a few parents who can't do the online equivalent of keeping their mouths shut that spoil it for everybody else.

I personally know a set of siblings who can't have their names or photos published anywhere. Rules like this protect children like them.

YANBU but randomquicknamechange is. Random, you "don't give a crap about children in care or children running away from an abusive someone."? Really?! Is it worth risking a child's life for a few photos? You might zoom in on your child's face or not share the photos on Facebook but if you were allowed to take photos then everyone else would be able to as well and they might not be as careful. If the school allows photography, they can't control who is photographed or how the photos are shared, especially nowadays when people can instantly upload photos to Facebook from their phone or iPad. This could put children at serious risk. If you only want photos of your children, why not just take a cute photo of them in their costume at home?

Ds's school usually video the performances themselves so that they can make sure that the children who cannot be photographed (in foster care) are not in shot. Its also a fundraiser for them as they sell copies

The thing with the not taking photos of certain kids is totally pointless though. It was probably harder to find pictures of kids when everyone was posting thousands of nativity photos than it is now.

I don't put photos of my children on Facebook etc so think it's a good thing this is banned.

I would be annoyed if she ended up being in a picture and it was put online.

"YANBU I don't give a crap about children in care or children running away from an abusive someone. I care about my kids and my family being able to have photos to put on the wall and videos to show the grandparents. ...."

So it doesn't matter if a child is put in actual danger, as long as you have photos on your wall and videos to show, randomquicknamechange? I don't think I have ever seen anything more selfish and unpleasant posted on MN!

I'm guessing that random is joking.

DS's school said the camera flashes can distract the children. We were allowed to take pictures at the end, but not upload them to any social media.

If there's been a change for this year then I would imagine there is a child for whom online photos would be a serious risk.

Or there might have been so many complaints about people jumping up and down with cameras that they've decided to put a stop to it.

I saw pretty much none of DS's first nativity play as, despite a request at the beginning for everyone to stay seated and not hold cameras above their heads, we were standing in the back corner (not enough seats) a couple of rows behind a woman who not only kept standing up and bobbing about, but held a camera above her head to film the whole thing, so that none of us at the back could see. We had to ask her to sit down eventually, which was clearly the most outrageous thing she'd ever been asked, given her reaction!