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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to feel there is nothing inappropriate about this and to become increasingly irate about peoples reactions.

43 replies

ouna · 08/12/2013 11:02

DSis23 and DBro20 have started to rent a house together and four times in recent days I have had people who I had previously regarded as sensible have asked me whether I think it’s odd and have insinuated something far more sinister and I’m starting to get quite annoyed. The only possible strange thing about it is that Dsis is paying a greater proportion of rent/bills but she is much better paid and the place they’ve got would be far too expensive for him if they split 50/50. Even DP said that it is unusual but I think its sensible as they are close and surely the fact you are close and know your housemate is critically important.

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MissMooMoo · 08/12/2013 11:05

I don't find it strange at all! I would have no problem renting a place with my dbro. I'm assuming they aren't sharing a bed so whats the problem? They are just flatmates.

cleofatra · 08/12/2013 11:05

That is truly weird. Whats unusual about a brother and sister renting a house? YANBU.

and btw, I rented with my sister once and I paid 2/3 and she paid 1/3 the rent as I earned more (and am 15 years older)

AnnieOats · 08/12/2013 11:06

People are odd. I think it's great that 2 siblings get on so well together that they are sharing a house. My 2 DCs (9 and 11) keep saying that they're going to get a house together when they grow up, although I think they'll change their minds when they realise there isn't a housework fairy.

Casmama · 08/12/2013 11:07

Flat mates that you have already lived with so know what to expect.

I think I would respond by saying "what on earth are you insinuating, I think that says more about you than it does them!"

lackingimagination · 08/12/2013 11:07

YANBU. The only reason I would think it weird is that if I lived with my brother I would have strangled him within a few days!

Wolfiefan · 08/12/2013 11:08

Yuk! Not that they share a house but at the reactions of people. I think sharing with a relation is a great idea. Trustworthy, you know them well and will be safe.

VanitasVanitatum · 08/12/2013 11:08

I'm guessing these people don't have good relationships with thier siblings?! That's very odd of the people commenting, and a but Ryde frankly!

catgirl1976 · 08/12/2013 11:08

YANBU

I would happily share a house with my DBRO or DSIS.

How odd that people would infer anything into that

VanitasVanitatum · 08/12/2013 11:09

*bit rude...

AngelsLieToKeepControl · 08/12/2013 11:09

I rented a house with my brother in my teens, everyone I knew thought it was great as there is only 18 months between us and we had loads of friends in common.

How bizarre that people are having that reaction, it says more about them than anything else.

Hemlet · 08/12/2013 11:10

Is there any more to this? Just seems very odd that so many people you know think that a brother and sister moving into a place together means they're having an incestuous relationship...

scratchandsniff · 08/12/2013 11:10

Why on earth would anybody find it odd. I think they're wierdos for insinuating anything, in fact it's downright bloody disgusting to suggest that.

Living with a sibling that you know well and are comfortable being around and able to be honest with sounds far more preferable to going into a house share with stranger's.

MelanieRavenswood · 08/12/2013 11:12

Actually, I think it is unusual for siblings of that age to get along so well that they want to live in the same house - in my experience, anyway. How lovely that they do. How strange that anyone would read anything else into it.

Aeroaddict · 08/12/2013 11:13

YANBU, you must know some very odd people! I shared a flat with my sister when I first moved out of home. It felt like far less of a leap, living with someone I was already used to living with, rather than a stranger. I couldn't have afforded to rent on my own.

bumbumsmummy · 08/12/2013 11:13

It's not strange at all what's strange is the sicko world we live in makes us all think that there is

MadAsFish · 08/12/2013 11:13

Honi soit qui mal y pense... their minds are evidently in the gutter if this is their first or even last thought.

Finola1step · 08/12/2013 11:13

Not strange at all. Says much more about them than it does your db and dsis.

In previous generations, it was very common for unmarried brothers and sisters to remain living together as a family unit. I expect that as it gets harder and harder for young people to get a foot on the property ladder, we will see a return to multi generational households and siblings sharing homes as being quite the norm.

I'd be more than happy for my dd and ds to share a flat or house when they are older. I wonder if people's reactions would be the same if it was two brothers or two sisters. Very odd and inappropriate indeed.

LizzieVereker · 08/12/2013 11:14

How ridiculous, people are so weird. I know two pairs of siblings who do this and I think it's a great idea, for all the reasons already mentioned. Plus DS2 (7) is adamant that he and DS1 (14) are going to live in a hotel together when they are grown up. Specifically, a Premier Inn , so can't wait to find out what the "public" make of that!

Finola1step · 08/12/2013 11:16

Of course I meant other people's reactions are very odd and inappropriate not the siblings house sharing.

Bettercallsaul1 · 08/12/2013 11:16

No, there is nothing strange about this - I know of a brother and sister, also in their early twenties, who share just because it was the most convenient thing to do at the time. ( both in a new city, nice flats difficult to come by etc)

I also know of more than one set of parents who bought a flat for their children to live in - to save on rent - but made it a condition that both children had to live there. As long as both siblings have their own, separate social life and are not too dependent on each other, how could there be a problem?

trikken · 08/12/2013 11:19

My dsis's live together. Its fine imo. At leastthey have each other for support.

NuggetofPurestGreen · 08/12/2013 11:20

How odd. I've rented with my sister a couple of times, wonder did anyone think that was inappropriate??

DuchessFanny · 08/12/2013 11:20

Also finding it really odd that people would immediately jump to a 'it's weird' conclusion. Not remotely weird. I agree it says more about them as people than anything else. I say this as a woman who is very close to my DBs and used to have one live with me ( and DH to be fair )

chocoluvva · 08/12/2013 11:20

It is a bit unusual - but that doesn't make it strange.

Mia4 · 08/12/2013 11:21

Hmmm odd indeed. I would be a bit concerned with siblings sharing if it was my own siblings or those I know purely because I can see the massive fallout if they have disagrements. Your siblings may be very different, much as I love my sibs and they love me I'm happy to no longer be living with them :)

Could they mean it from that POV? I know when i moved in with my close friends there were a lot of people concerned what would happen if we fell out. Could they be concerned over that with your siblings and not a kinky skeeve?

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