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AIBU?

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to feel there is nothing inappropriate about this and to become increasingly irate about peoples reactions.

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ouna · 08/12/2013 11:02

DSis23 and DBro20 have started to rent a house together and four times in recent days I have had people who I had previously regarded as sensible have asked me whether I think it’s odd and have insinuated something far more sinister and I’m starting to get quite annoyed. The only possible strange thing about it is that Dsis is paying a greater proportion of rent/bills but she is much better paid and the place they’ve got would be far too expensive for him if they split 50/50. Even DP said that it is unusual but I think its sensible as they are close and surely the fact you are close and know your housemate is critically important.

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scurryfunge · 08/12/2013 11:22

It would only be odd if they still had bunk beds

Fraggle3112 · 08/12/2013 11:22

How bizarre that anyone would even think to suggest there may be more to it. Like another poster said the only reason I may think it odd is that If me and Dbro shared a house one of us wouldn't survive it he wouldn't survive it because I always win

If anyone else comments in an inappropriate way I would act horrified at the thought that they would ever insinuate such a thing. Might force them to drag the mind out of the gutter

maryannmarie · 08/12/2013 11:22

I'd call people out on what they're insinuating and embarrass them.

WooWooOwl · 08/12/2013 11:23

Not strange at all! I know lots of people that do this, often because their parents help them with the deposit, or have bought somewhere for them to share.

CrispyFB · 08/12/2013 11:26

My brother and sister shared for a year or so a while back. There's 13 years in age between them (my sister is older) At the time my brother was in his early 20s. Never occurred to me, or anyone else, to see it as odd!

They didn't half whinge to me individually though about each others' shortcomings when sharing I guess without mum or dad there to arbitrate on a daily basis it was a little different! But unlike when sharing with friends, because you're siblings, any damage done by bickering is unlikely to last long or be permanent.

HECTheHeraldAngelsSing · 08/12/2013 11:32

Some people have got very sick minds.

I'd challenge them. Make them explain exactly why they have said what they said and what they mean by odd.

Lj8893 · 08/12/2013 11:32

That's disgusting what people are insinuating!!

When my mum moved in with her partner, I stayed living in her house (took over the rent, bills etc) and my db continued staying there in uni holidays, weekends etc. wasent weird at all, we had great fun living together (although I did breath a sigh of relief every time he went back to uni and I had a clean house again!)

Xmas2013MN7256 · 08/12/2013 11:49

Jeez, how sad that suspicion is the first thing these people jump to. FFS.

If my DCs (a boy and a girl, 2 years apart) grow up to get on well enough to want to live together, I'll be very happy and proud.

I wish I had a sibling to be that close to!

Tikkamasala · 08/12/2013 11:51

I would be at any comments saying this is weird, it isn't weird!

I know quite a few sisters who are flatmates with each other, and some brothers who live together... No one bats an eye lid. So why is it any different or stranger for 2 siblings of the opposite sex to be living together I think it's completely fine (obviously to any reasonable person) and its nice that they get on!

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ouna · 08/12/2013 11:54

I'm glad everyone arees with me, I was starting to think I'd gone mad.

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3boys3dogshelp · 08/12/2013 11:55

I'd be proud of my parenting if my children grew up to be adults who were such good friends that they would choose to live together. I have to say its not looking likely at the moment!

bragmatic · 08/12/2013 11:58

It took a few seconds for the penny to drop as to why someone might think it odd. People really think that????

NurseRoscoe · 08/12/2013 12:01

I don't think it's unusual, my partner lived with his sister before we got our own place, I moved in there for a few months too. It's the same as two friends sharing a house.

Some people watch too much TV I think!

madmomma · 08/12/2013 12:10

How minging that anyone would think this was inappropriate. I hope my kids are as close as adults.

frogspoon · 08/12/2013 12:12

Nothing inappropriate about the situation at all.

Your friends are the inappropriate ones.

The only thing I would question, as you said, is that one pays a greater proportion than the other, which seems a bit unfair as presumably both are saving with the aim of eventually being able to buy their own place.

brettgirl2 · 08/12/2013 12:14

I think you need to reassess the people you mix with. YANBU

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ouna · 08/12/2013 12:15

frogspoon- Dsis is paying more because she earns at least twice as much, she's been to uni and got a graduate job in PR whilst DBro is currently hopping from agency job to agency job at the moment.

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Rooners · 08/12/2013 12:16

Tbh I don't get the fuss anyway.

Does anyone remember that Brookside storyline years ago? It was so crap.

Can't remember what it is called now when people do this. But it doesn't worry me anyway - each to their own.

I'd happily share a house with my sister....I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with her but house share, yay.

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