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To be really sad and upset. RIP Nelson Mandela :-(

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LittlePeaPod · 05/12/2013 22:35

I know I am not but wanted to share the sad news. Loss of a grat man and inspirational leader.

news.sky.com/story/1178430/nelson-mandela-dies-president-confirms

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HereIsMee · 05/12/2013 23:17

It's very sad news. Not so much because of his death as he was ill and frail and it is inevitable that he could not live for eternity, but because of his life and sheer determination in an impossible situation.

thenicknameiwantedisgone · 05/12/2013 23:18

Cross posted with many. But you asked IYWBU to be really sad and upset, so in my optician yes YABU as you didn't personally know him.

That doesn't take away my massive respect for the man and his achievements.

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LittlePeaPod · 05/12/2013 23:19

Mardy it will be awful it does go tits up. It's an opportunity for anyone to post something about Nelson Mandela but they can't be stopped in expressing argument views too. But if they choose too, then so be it. Personally I won't respond to them. It's not why I posted this.

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Daddypigsgusset · 05/12/2013 23:20

Got to give it to him. It's not every day a terrorist dies of old age is it?

DirtyDancingCleanLiving · 05/12/2013 23:20

I find all the 'I can't believe it' and 'I'm so in shock' facebook-type posts really attention seeking and disrespectful.

You are really 'shocked' that a very seriously ill 95 year old man has died? You seriously weren't expecting it? OK.

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LittlePeaPod · 05/12/2013 23:21

Mardy thanks for sharing other link. I have left a message there too.

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softlysoftly · 05/12/2013 23:22

What Mardy et al said.

Don't ruin his passing and overshadow his great work with the hysterical breastbeating and grief vulture wailings our falsified media demands.

He was a great and dignified man whose time had come. Remember him that way.

NorthernLebkuchen · 05/12/2013 23:24

Nobody is arguing that Mandela was a great leader and a good man. What is being argued with is the need to be 'sad and upset'.

anonacfr · 05/12/2013 23:27

Sad and upset not just for his loss but also for the fact that a page of history is turning.
There aren't many great inspirational figures left in this world.

Caitlin17 · 05/12/2013 23:28

Sorry but I don't feel sad or upset at all. He was 95 and had been in poor health.

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LittlePeaPod · 05/12/2013 23:28

I have requested the thread be deleted. I didn't set it up so people could start arguing. Everyone's thoughts and feelings on his passing are personal and I certainly won't challenge those feelings and thoughts.

I don't want this thread to focus on arguing why I or others may feel sad about his passing. People may not agree with how I feel but you know what, I don't care.

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LaundryLegoLunch · 05/12/2013 23:29

Ah so many voices of reason on this thread. I hate this hysterical, over the top grieving for strangers. I will avoid the news for the next few days whilst every Tom, Dick and Harry give their tedious tributes.

Mandela achieved lots and was admirable in many ways. But a 95 yr old dying is never shocking.

softlysoftly · 05/12/2013 23:33

Oh ffs that is equally as dramatic Hmm

Laundry ditto.

TreaterAnita · 05/12/2013 23:36

It is always sad when someone who has garnered such respect and lived such an incredible life dies, and although he lived to 95 let's not forget that he spent 27 years of that as a political prisoner. It would be odd not to be moved by his death I think.

But I agree that the stories of his failing health over the past couple of years have been quite heartbreaking and I'm glad that his suffering is finally over.

MardyBra · 05/12/2013 23:37

"It would be odd not to be moved by his death I think."

I totally agree. It's important to reflect on the legacy of a great man.

Asamumnonsense · 05/12/2013 23:38

Super sad news.. shed my little tear.. RIP Mandela :-(

TreaterAnita · 05/12/2013 23:39

With the greatest of respect LittlePeaPod perhaps AIBU was not the best place to post?

Serendipity30 · 05/12/2013 23:40

If you dont like the thread, dont let the door hit you on the way out. He had a massive impact on a lot of people, a lot of people died through apatheid, so many uneducated people here it is very sad.

badtime · 05/12/2013 23:41

LittlePeaPod, why did you post this in AIBU if you were only interested in posts from people who agree with you?

You must have realised that some people would think you are unreasonable to be 'really sad and upset' about the death of a very ill 95 year old man you didn't know.

thecatfromjapan · 05/12/2013 23:41

A life that was an amazing contribution to humanity. I can't help but feel something in me glow, and not be sad, when I think of him.

Arkina · 05/12/2013 23:41

I cant get overly emotional about the death of anyone at 95 years of age.

Not when much younger people in the prime of their life die daily and in tragic circumstances. Like those who died in Glasgow this week aged in their 30s 40s and 50s all with so much life ahead of them

that said he was an amazing man may he RIP

creighton · 05/12/2013 23:41

I don't think anyone is being hysterical. a few words of tribute is not hysteria. people acknowledge the fact that he helped to move SA from apartheid to a more humane system of government without bloodshed. this is a big thing. I am old enough to remember people saying that the Whites would burn the country down if they were forced out of power in the 70s early 80s that the change has been achieved in the way it has is to be admired.

there has been such terrible news over the last few weeks that this is sad, but it is about a man who tried to contribute to the building of a fair and decent country.

ShoeSmacking · 05/12/2013 23:43

He's not a stranger. For every South Africa he's like a father or grandfather. Intellectually we may agree that it's a relief for him, but we are sad and emotional because , irrationally, we wanted him to live forever. He touched people in South Africa in way that is almost impossible to explain. South Africans all over the world will be genuinely mourning for a man who personally changed out lives

Every South African has a Madiba story - the day they met him, or waves at him, or saw him. He was real to us in a way regular politicians/ royalty/ celebrity just aren't.

MardyBra · 05/12/2013 23:44

Thanks for sharing that post Shoe.

BackforGood · 05/12/2013 23:48

So why have you put it in AIBU ??? Confused

Personally, I don't think there is anything to be sad about.
A truly remarkable man, has passed away peacefully, at 95 years of age, surrounded by his family, and having had chance to prepare for his own passing, after some months of illness.
May he rest in peace, and may he continue to influence the decision makers in S.Africa for decades to come.

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