It's another nativity thread, sorry. DD is year 2 and has one of the "main" parts in the nativity this year. The school organises it with the year 2s taking the main parts and any leftover year 2s in the choir, a select number of the year 1s having a minor part and the majority in the choir, and the reception children split into angels and shepherds. DD was told today that she has been demoted to choir, because another mother has complained her daughter (year 2) is upset at not having a part. Dd was one of the year 1 chosen for a minor part last year and her teacher "knew she wouldn't mind". Had DD been told that from the start I wouldn't have a problem with it, but it seems cruel to pull her part this late in the day. We've had a few other incidents this term in which this teacher doesn't seem to have treated DD completely fairly and DD is now convinced her teacher doesn't like her. AIBU to think this is a bit mean?
AIBU?
To think it's not on for DD's teacher to pull her part in the nativity to make room for another child?
KarenOfArc64 · 04/12/2013 19:32
Teacher sounds like an idiot. Other mum sounds like a whining, entitled little bitch. I would make it my business to piss on their chips...who does that to a wee child? 
I haven't replied to the other mother yet- was too speechless!
The start of the complaint email. I don't normally make a fuss, honest 
I would like to make a complaint about the way parts in this year's nativity have been handled by Mrs X, as well as other issues dd has had in her class this term. When parts were allocated a couple of weeks ago, dd was told she was playing Angel Gabriel. Since then she has been rehearsing this part and excited about playing it in the nativity. Her aunt is visiting from Australia for Christmas and dd has been looking forward to her aunt seeing her perform. I understand that yesterday dd was told she would no longer have a part and would be in the choir instead. When my husband collected her after school yesterday Mrs X told him dd was "a bit upset" about this and assured him she had not done anything wrong, but that another parent had complained their child felt excluded as they did not have a part, and she had chosen to give her dd's part as she had a minor role in last year's nativity.
Predictably, dd is very upset about this. While I appreciate perhaps it isn't fair for her to have a speaking part two years in a row when other children haven't had one at all, I do not think it is fair on dd to take away her part at this late stage. When I spoke to Mrs X this afternoon I was told the child now playing her par would be upset if her part was taken away. I suggested one of the girls play the part in each of the performances and was told there will be one performance for the junior school only and one for the parents only, so this would inevitably lead to a dispute as to whose child played the part at which performance.
A couple of weeks ago there was another incident in which I feel dd was treated unfairly by Mrs X on the year 2 trip. I understand from dd that the class were told by Mrs X she would pair them up with a partner to sit next to on the coach there and swap these on the way back. Due to an odd number dd was left without a partner on the way there and assumed she would be given one on the way back. On the way back a new list was read out of partners, still with dd sat by herself, which she was very upset by. I have never been made aware of any issues with dd's behaviour which could explain this decision. Obviously I only have dd's version of events; I emailed Mrs X at the time asking for clarification this was what had happened but received no reply.
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