It's another nativity thread, sorry. DD is year 2 and has one of the "main" parts in the nativity this year. The school organises it with the year 2s taking the main parts and any leftover year 2s in the choir, a select number of the year 1s having a minor part and the majority in the choir, and the reception children split into angels and shepherds. DD was told today that she has been demoted to choir, because another mother has complained her daughter (year 2) is upset at not having a part. Dd was one of the year 1 chosen for a minor part last year and her teacher "knew she wouldn't mind". Had DD been told that from the start I wouldn't have a problem with it, but it seems cruel to pull her part this late in the day. We've had a few other incidents this term in which this teacher doesn't seem to have treated DD completely fairly and DD is now convinced her teacher doesn't like her. AIBU to think this is a bit mean?
AIBU?
To think it's not on for DD's teacher to pull her part in the nativity to make room for another child?
KarenOfArc64 · 04/12/2013 19:32
The HT sounds like the wettest one I have ever heard of.
So class teacher does a stupid thing - reassigns role half way through rehearsals, leaving HT in a difficult position, which she decides to resolve by asking the girls themselves to decide it - cause clearly at the age of 6 they are mature enough to handle that 
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One girl is then off sick for most of the vital week preceeding the show - thus giving the HT a get out of jail card - as she has missed key rehearsals, makes more sense for OPs DD to take the part. But noinstead she still can't make a decision on this , has to wait until other girl comes back ask her opinion and then still has to sleep on it.
As far as I was aware HT is a highly responsible position with loads of important things to decide on a daily basis - what on earth does she do when faced with budgets, if she can't even sort out a simple christmas play logistics problem.I'd be highly worried about your DD attending this school given the HTs inability to sort out the most basic matter in a timely and fair fashion.
Does make you wonder if something else is going on with this other girls family as someone has posted earlier, it's the only explanation ( other than sheer stupidity) that makes any sense in the circumstances.
OP please whatever you do, do not lend your DDs costume - this has gone way beyond the point of being polite to the other mum, she has a sheer brass neck to ask for the thing.
Good news- the class teacher's decision to have the other girl do the part anyway has been overruled by the HT on the basis that the performance is on Tuesday and she has practiced once, while DD is prepared :) Thanks so much everyone for the support on this thread. The other mother is livid and had a good rant about it to me at pick up (but she doesn't blame me apparently! 
) but DD is happy. I'm not going to let the other issues drop though, just wonder if I might wait until after Tuesday to raise them!
We'll go for #teamminikaren shall we Minnie? 
This is going to be the most highly anticipated nativity ever, all the trouble it's caused!
Oh that is brilliant news, so happy for your DD :) such a shame she had to go through all the upset first but this was the best outcome!
I would speak to the HT after the performance about the other issues.
Merry Christmas to you and #miniangelKaren 
Oh, thank goodness. 
Hurrah for common sense and look forward to hearing how MiniKaren gets on!
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