My pfb will be 12 weeks old by xmas. Me and my partner alternate years with our parents and this year is my mum n dads turn. its been no big deal at all and until today everyone has been happy with this scenario.
Due to having a very big family theres likely to be 15 ppl at my parents, there will be a few aunties and older cousins who adore dd and will no doubt want cuddles and will shower her with love n gifts like they have since we've had her. Dp has now said that he doesnt want us to go and thinks its cruel to expose dd to that many people as she might catch something. Hes really going down the route of he only wants whats best for her. Ive suggested we take hert and ask people not to handle her too much but he thinks this would be awkward. He's not suggesting we go to his parents but that we visit both for about 30 mins then have xmas at home.
I really dont want to go to the effort of cooking us a special dinner with a small baby but also think it would be sad to sit at home and not celebrate xmas properly (im used to big family xmas lunches)
Am I being unreasonable and not putting dd first??? Or is dp being over cautious?
How do I tell my mum we're not coming or how do i persuade dp that she'll be fine???
Fyi - I cant really tell my mum to uninvite aunties, cousins etc and just have an immediate family dinner as it's likely to be my nans last xmas so everyone wants to apend it to her and the only way this can happen is 1 big get together.