My married lover is renting me a flat and l am devastated.

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l know l will be shot down in flames. Please don't judge me too harshly. l have been seeing a man for just over a year. We are both trapped in marriages with zero sex and we met and made a semi formal agreement involving exclusive sex and no more. The trouble is that in the last few months we have both fallen in love with each other. One moment he wants to leave his wife and be with me, the next moment he is ending it with me. Now he has rented me a flat. l am confused and fairly devastated as this signals to me that that will be all he will commit to longer term. Should l walk away? We have both been in unhappy marriages for nearly 8 years now. Does he want the best of both his wife and me? Is this it?

Patterns= partners

Dammit, there's always a typo with iPads.

You are both being dishonest and unfaithful.

Because if a man wants a free housekeeper for 30 years, from 16 to 46, he can't then turn around and say those contributions to the family lifestyle are worthless. Domestic labour does not cease to be counted as work because it isn't paid - if you're married, anyway.

I couldn't have put it better i was struggling to reply with the right words but yes legally a woman is entitled to 50% by law if she is married and done all of the above

Yes, and even if she hasn't. My mum was a SAHP and after 25 years my parents got divorced (dad had an affair).

I remember being with her at the solicitors when she was reading some clutching-at-straw statement from dad where he'd mentioned about the kitchen floor not always being clean.

How we laughed

As much as I love the guy, I was embarrassed for him lol!

I believe a divorcing partner of 30 years will get 50% even if they contributed fuck-all to the marriage, no need for them to have done the housekeeping.

Cite the relevant legislation please.

That gives a lot to think over, thank you all for your messages. l knew not all would be kind but that comes with the situation. l don't know exactly what l am going to do but l am going to try to get legal advice. They l will know my financial options.