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Partner doing recreational cocaine whilst I'm pregnant

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bunglesmum12 · 11/11/2013 04:54

I am 9 weeks pregnant. My partner proposed to me last weekend. I was thrilled! The only thing is, he's is still doing cocaine recreationally.

He said he would stop once I became pregnant and he hasn't. He has stopped smoking weed every day (thank fully!) he stopped about two weeks ago.

But I just found out on Saturday that he had done coke the night before. I then also found out that he did it two weeks ago at a friends birthday. I don't know what to do!

He isn't some down and out Jeremy Kyle type, he is a successful lawyer and runs his own firm. It's not like he's doing coke every day, it's just once a week, but I know it could potentially end up being more frequent as time goes on.

He is having a "lads night" this Saturday. His mates all do coke, smoke weed and do pills. I know he will end up doing something.

Am I being unreasonable asking him to stop taking drugs? It's stressing me out and I can't sleep at night.

He thinks I'm being unreasonable. He thinks I'm being over emotional about it and making a big deal over nothing.

Should I stand up for myself, refuse to back down on the drug taking and risk losing everything? Or should I just keep quiet about it and accept it?

Comments greatly appreciated

OP posts:
Bunbaker · 28/11/2013 07:59

"I don't think that either of you is being unreasonable - in my opinion recreational drugs are ok in moderation "

I am horrified that you think this. First of all I think you should drop the word "recreational" and replace it with illegal. It is not OK at all to take illegal drugs in my opinion.

I must admit if I had known that my partner was planning an illegal drugs binge in the house while I was away I would have been tempted to notify the police.

But all that is academic.

How is everything bungle?

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