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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think DH shouldn't unlock the bathroom door from the outside and come in when I am on the toilet?

94 replies

Bloob · 09/11/2013 20:01

I was on the toilet - had been for about 2 minutes. I wasn't taking an age or anything!

DH had just taken out the food recycling and declared he needed to wash his hands (from the outside) I said I wasn't feeling awfully well but would be out in a second (upset stomach) so could he please use the upstairs bathroom or the kitchen sink. He said no he needed to wash his hands and after a minute arguing back and forth unlocked the door from the outside, barged his way in and washed his hands. Then left without saying a word.

I'm actually fucking speechless. AIBU?

OP posts:
liquidstate · 09/11/2013 20:16

He is being an arse. Cattle prod sounds like a good idea.

kelper · 09/11/2013 20:16

Pmsl froubylou!
Dh just wanders in the bathroom when ever, as does ds. If we had a lock ds would lock himself in and flood the place :-/

sheldor · 09/11/2013 20:20

I still don't understand why he couldn't wash his hands anywhere else it's very disrespectful bodering on controlling.Hope you feel better soon op

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 09/11/2013 20:22

So rude. What a tosser.

Original poster
Bloob · 09/11/2013 20:22

He has just come down from putting dd to bed.

I said "I hope you're going to apologise"
He said "let's not have this fight I have work to do"

I am absolutely Angry

OP posts:
TidyDancer · 09/11/2013 20:22

That would infuriate me. It's wrong for many reasons.

OutragedFromLeeds · 09/11/2013 20:23

YANBU

You either need to LTB or get him to see a doctor because that is so far from normal or reasonable or acceptable that he must have some sort of disorder.

TidyDancer · 09/11/2013 20:23

I am actually really quite angry on your behalf. Do not let him turn this around on you. It is his problem and he must apologise.

ravenAnyKucker · 09/11/2013 20:25

Next time he's on the bog, charge in with silly string & let fly?

Arrange to have your mum, a couple of your mates & a random neighbour PTSL behind you.

Seriously, I'd be bloody livid. Grrrr on your behalf.

CrapBag · 09/11/2013 20:25

Wow!!!!! YADNBU!!!

I would be FUMING if my DH did this. Luckily he never would. He really was trying to make some sort of point wasn't he, when there was 2 other sinks he could of used. Horrible and disgusting behaviour. Then his total dismissal of you wanting an apology!!!! I would tell him that he isn't working and he does owe you an apology right now!!

Then I would do it to him next time, just so he can see how it feels.

What a prick!

greenfolder · 09/11/2013 20:27

Buy a door wedge. What a tosser

MotherOfDragon · 09/11/2013 20:28

My abusive XH would do things like this to me, this story has actually dredged up old memories and makes me feel so sad for you Hmm

lottieandmia · 09/11/2013 20:28

Oh I absolutely hate this! It is such a blatant lack of repsect. YANBU!

Whocansay · 09/11/2013 20:29

So, he actually went out of his way to invade your privacy, when there were other two other options available?

I imagine there is a huge backstory here.

He's a controlling bastard isn't he? And I bet the fucker would have lots to say if he didn't have something else to do...

I would stand my corner on this one OP and not leave it until I had an apology.

IslaValargeone · 09/11/2013 20:31

I'm sorry, he got car keys to unlock it?
There's something Waaaaay wrong here.

dovaffanculo · 09/11/2013 20:32

I don't know if he has form for it. Not really.

What does this mean? Surely you know if he has done this sort of thing before? How long have you lived with him?

TheHeadlessLadyofCannock · 09/11/2013 20:33

I actually can't imagine anyone I know, least of all my DP, doing this.

Going out of his way to get keys just to make his point? I'm Shock

There is more to this, isn't there, OP?

Flibbertyjibbet · 09/11/2013 20:33

Oh dear. I think the toilet thing is the teeny tip of a huge iceberg.

lardydahdydah · 09/11/2013 20:33

If he did that to me... I'd pay a handyperson to come and take all the doors off everywhere (and store then in the shed)

Then act all innocent and say 'It's alright, we didntneed then anyway, it's only privacy...nothing important.... I left the front door and back door on for safety...

Better still feel I could remove tdm myself I would!

FiveExclamations · 09/11/2013 20:35

Just checked with my husband, he'd never do this and we're fairly relaxed about personal space and bodily functions (I wouldn't either).

"What's his fucking problem?" was the summation of his thoughts on the subject, said in with a baffled expression and tone.

hugoagogo · 09/11/2013 20:36

I could not live with someone who did this. What a bastard. Sad

Ursula8 · 09/11/2013 20:36

LTB.

Seriously.

enriquetheringbearinglizard · 09/11/2013 20:37

Raven's idea of a posse of neighbours and silly string is genius, but I'm afraid if my DH tried anything like this he'd wake up to a breakfast of devilled bollocks on toast - and be forced to eat it.

He's been utterly disrespectful and totally out of order and even then some.

slothlike · 09/11/2013 20:38

Is he normally so petty and controlling? I would be extremely pissed off. YANBU.

Topseyt · 09/11/2013 20:38

I don't like his dismissal of you when you asked for an apology. It sounds as though he doesn't see anything wrong with this behaviour.

There just must be more to this. Is this the tip of an iceberg?