to think that you should not lie your baby down on her changing mat and change her nappy on the floor in the middle of a crowded exhibition hall?

[Mintyy]

I expect I'll get some yanbus as I've seen people attempting to justify changing nappies in restaurants and libraries before now.

But, it's just really not on, is it?

Once again this comes down to consideration for others and not thinking the world revolves around your own children

Exactly as timidviper said.

It doesnt matter if you dont mind changing your baby in public. It isnt about you.

I wonder how Environmental Health would have dealt with a report of a pooey nappy being changed in the middle of a coffee shop.

Wow people get worked up by some random shit

When I was a new mum I was so stressed, exhausted and anxious I'm sure that the simple things, such as find a private place to change a nappy, became extremely complicated as in, 'I've had 2 hours of sleep, I've fed the baby 15 times, changed her nappy 17 times, tried to clean the house, failed miserably at all the above, now I've had to travel an hour on public transport to put on a brave face in front of my friends because I need to get out of the house and feel like a normal human being again and I've now got to change this nappy for the 18th time and it's busy and crowded and like a high percentage of venues they are very child/baby unfriendly and I just want to sort my baby out before she starts screaming again.'

I'd shrug this off rather than judge...

I changed all mine on my lap, in the house or when out on my lap in a loo. Never needed specialist changing table at home so didnt really bother with it anywhere else. I do think some parents think having a baby/child is a free pass to not considering others around them.

I don't think I'd have done it, but I certainly wouldn't be bothered by someone else doing it.

Yes, I am at the 'desensitised to pooey nappies' stage of parenting.

For goodness sake, too precious to put a changing mat on the floor so everyone else has to be subjected to baby poo

I was going to post similar!" Can I ask people on this thread...my mate persistently changes her 4 year old DD in front of whoever is around OR puts her on the potty for a poo in front of others...she does it in her own home and while visiting.

The DD has SN so isn't potty trained yet....I always think it's so crude and disrespectful to the DD to be told to poo when others are around.

Same here ruby but I always went out of sight of others to do so, such as sat on a normal toilet (with the lid down) to do so.

No one, and I mean no one, wants to see a shitty bum being changed and frankly they don't need changing that instant, you can take a short time to find somewhere adequate to complete the task.

Urgh. In a corner, fine. But in any place where people are eating OR in the way of someone OR in the middle of an exhibition, not nice.

Changing a nappy where people are eating is disgusting. Pretty certain environmental health wouldnt be best pleased either. I would have taken my child and found facilities. Id have consideration for others. You dont do that where people eat.

Icame, at 4 :O that's very, very unfair to the poor child, SN or not. I'm disgusted with your friend for subjecting her daughter to that!

I'm loving the suggestion of putting a changing mat down on the floor of a public toilet. Seriously people??

Gingingin - I do that with ds (changing mat on toilet floor), why is it a no no?

Maybe it was performance art?

Still better than on the table of a packed M+S cafe (loads of baby changing facilities) while chatting to another mum.

I am shuddering at this thread. God, I've 3 children and managed to always change their nappies with discretion.

And its not just that its vile to change poo filled nappies in public places, but I also think its pretty horrid for the baby too. I tried to treat my children with dignity so their genitals weren't exposed to everyone.

But I appreciate I may be a bit odd about such things.

But mintyy you were so not unreasonable.

I did see a toddler using a travel potty at a bus stop next to a starbucks, costa, yogland and two independent cafes, plus a waterstones which has a loo.

Am loving it as performance art.

YANBU. DH used to change rookiebabies nappy in public places all the time. I think it was so people could see him and give him the medal he so richly deserved for MAN CHANGING BABY.

I remember I was at baby massage class when DS did a spectacularly stinky poo. Instructor was like oh don't worry about going to the changing room, just change it here, but I didn't want to, it smelt fould and I would rather not expose people to that if possible.

Shouldn'thavesaid I know it's so weird as my mate seems to have a blind spot about it. She's intelligent, kind...decent...all the things that matter but because her DD is "younger" than most of her age, my friend seems to think she's still a baby...which of course she's not. She's very little still yes, but she's too big to be pooing in front of visitors.

Pobble - did you then continue your meal at the coffee shop without washing your hands after changing the diarrhea nappy? And you called some people on here idiots

Not sure if this has been said but poo particularly runny poo carries E Coli which if gets into the food chain, meat especially carries a real danger of making someone particular children, elderly, those at risk with immune issues extremely ill or hospitalised. Even death with some strains of e coli.

This is why changing a nappy in an eating facility is extremely inconsiderate and disgusting.

Not to mention al the other bugs in poo

Mothers baulk at bf in the loo, it's that SAME thing!

Unless there is no other option, it's not on. Find a toilet or if there is no toilet find somewhere private if you can. At the very least try to get as far away from others as you can. It's Just polite. I mean there are times in the country on walks etc DH and I have to pee behind a bush but you try to get out of view not around others.

My DS has the shits he has always had the shits (allergies/medical it's slowly being sorted) I wouldn't do it in a restaurant but anywhere else I would that didn't have a facility because his nappies are like water and leak everywhere he has been absolutely covered trousers soaked right through within about 10 seconds of him finishing a poo so for me yabu you don't really know the circumstances! In a restaurant is wrong though they pretty much always have a toilet

I'm mystified by the people who won't change their children in the toilets because they think toilets are too 'yucky' so decide to share their child's piss and shit with rest of the world in cafes etc. Do you genuinely believe that your child's faeces and urine are somehow different from everyone else's?

As for not using the facilities because it's a bit of a trek or there's a queue, isn't that always the case? I hate it when guys just piss in the streets etc but it was easier than traipsing to the toilets - why is it any better when parents use the same excuse?

I can't get too bothered about a nappy that's just wet. But it amuses me that the same mothers who use anti-bacterial spray like the Black Death is in town will change a poo-ey nappy with nowhere to wash their hands, then touch their DC. Poo is mainly bacteria and alco-gel is not effective if you're coated with turd.