to not make her a seperate meal?

[fairy1303]

DSD lives here full time.

She is currently having a massive meltdown because I have told her we are having... shock horror... CASSEROLE for dinner.

We have this about once a month, it's cheap, easy, healthy.
I know she doesn't like it.

I have said that is what we are having, no I won't make a seperate meal.
She is telling me not to serve her any. She doesn't want it. She is crying because she 'isn't allowed any dinner'. She has phoned MIL to tell her. She is about to phone my mum to tell her too. She has phoned daddy at work to tell him.

Now, I'm pretty strict. I'm also aware of the wsm stuff.

AIBU to say: that is what we are having. There will be nothing else?

Or am I being too hard on her?

She's 8

Any my Mum was strict.

She had 7 mouths to feed on one wage...yet she would never put me through the trauma (because that's what it would have been) of forcing me to eat liver or kidney.

I would have had cereal or a boiled egg and toast.

*And

I wouldn't make an alternative.

I don't think one cheap boring meal a month when you're not the one cooking it or paying for it constitutes child cruelty.

YABU. Agree with beans on toast or something instead.

You cannot compare offal with casserole.

Is that all you do? A veg casserole?
Is there anything to go with it?
Yorkshire puds, jackets?

I don't run a restaurant. The choice is simple, take it or leave it. I would do potatoes and veg separate, so she would just have to fill up on that. She won't starve!

I grew up in a house where I had to sit at the table until I at least ate a bit of something I didn't like.

It didn't do me any damage but then I was very thin and feeble looking so I think that's why mum did it - I wasn't a good eater in general :)

DD is generally a very good eater so I won't fuss as much as all that.

I'd give her beans or whatever but I'd also have a bit of a chat about all that phoning up to tell tales on you! Not good enough behaviour!

I don't like moussaka much.

I despise tripe.

The gap between my reaction to these two foodstuffs is wider than the ocean.

She's 8, she can hardly buy her own food.

What a ridiculous comment.

squoosh I often make two meals each night, usually similar but one as a non meat variation. It rally takes very little extra planning. I did this because I don't eat meat as I do not like it. I know there are some foods I eat (quorn for example) tht DH and and DD are far less keen on and that they prefer meat. Therefore I cook an alternatuve meal.

Likewise, if cooking for guests, I take into account their known likes/dislikes. I would not seem myself as a good host if I delibertaely served something I knew they didn't like I wouldnt do this for anyone, child or adult. I would chose a meal that accomdates us all, or do two variations of the same kind of thing.

Both - she doesn't like it, but she normally eats it.

Are you putting poison in the casserole? Waste products? Dead mice?

If not then YANBU.

If she actually hates it and you know this then YABU.

If it's simply not one of her favourites and she doesn't fancy it then tough titty. She can have a slice of bread and butter.

If they're hungry, they'll eat. If not they know where the toaster is

Actually, I'm taking that bit of my sentence back. They've never done that yet. As I don't give them the choice.
They eat the bloody dinner or go hungry. If I farted about making different dinners for each one of them, and then us, I'd be forever cooking.
Those who do about eleventy billion different dinners are soft mugs There's always a full fruit bowl that they can help themselves to!
Or, you know, their actual, hot, nutritious, lovingly made DINNER?!

Cooking for guests and catering for their tastes is completely different to cooking day to day meals for a member of the household.

You cannot compare offal with casserole.

Why not?

But sometimes in a family who haven't got an unlimited budget, dinner is something cheap that the children aren't keen on. That's just ordinary life, isn't it?

Well I've been on a very limited budget and still managed to feed my 3 children with things they don't hate.

There are so many things you can cook, I don't understand why anyone would go back to the thing that a family member doesn't like.

OP I misread the OP as being chicken casserole, probably because I associate the two.

So you have cooked vegetable casserole? I wouldn't fancy that either.

I certainly don't go serving beans on toast when I have produced a meal!

I'm pretty strict on mealtimes, but if one of my kids really don't like a meal, I would offer something else. It's a bit mean otherwise. For instance, I loathe and detest mushrooms, and would be most put out if I was served a plateful by someone who knew I didn't like them.

I think to point her in the direction of the fruit bowl if she won't eat it is reasonable.

Because they are vegetables which she does eat, she just doesn't like the casserole context. Most people eat vegetables, most people don't eat offal.

That is why.

Mean.
You knew she didn't like it but still made it?
Would you do the same for your DH?
There are lots of meals I might choose to cook if I wasn't taking account of the preferences DH or DCs. I prefer to compromise and try to please everybody. I never deliberately cook something if I know someone doesn't like it, that doesn't mean there are some things that aren't favourites. This means for example that we only have fish when DS2 is not home for dinner.

You cannot compare offal with casserole

Spectacularly missing my point there

My point is, I absolutely could not have eaten it, even to be polite.

Unlike the OP who said that she would always eat something to be polite...and would expect her DH to do it too.

Fruit is the only thing that I would point them towards.