to not make her a seperate meal?

[fairy1303]

DSD lives here full time.

She is currently having a massive meltdown because I have told her we are having... shock horror... CASSEROLE for dinner.

We have this about once a month, it's cheap, easy, healthy.
I know she doesn't like it.

I have said that is what we are having, no I won't make a seperate meal.
She is telling me not to serve her any. She doesn't want it. She is crying because she 'isn't allowed any dinner'. She has phoned MIL to tell her. She is about to phone my mum to tell her too. She has phoned daddy at work to tell him.

Now, I'm pretty strict. I'm also aware of the wsm stuff.

AIBU to say: that is what we are having. There will be nothing else?

Or am I being too hard on her?

She's 8

Generally because it is a good thing, LEM!
There are a lot of doormats here who appear to have the time and money to cook different meals, depending on moods.
I told mine when they were older and cooked it they could choose. Now they do just that and it is lovely and DH and I eat what we are given. Since they are adventurous with cooking, know what is a healthy meal and like most things, it is no problem.
It strikes me that there are far too many fussy eaters on here,who must be a nightmare to cook for- and they are adults!

Where on earth did OP say that her meal was 'any old utilitarian slop'? I would eat at her house any day.

Soup-my ds hates wet food too, casserole to him is just vile! He's tried it umpteen times and loathes it,I just bung a chicken thigh in the oven for him to have instead along with the veggies we have.

The whole thread is hilarious MN at it's collective best! Someone has an everyday problem and solves it easily and happily and it rumbles on and on and on- taking in the whole subject of step parenting and making 'strict' a dirty word!

Toys why do you insist on being so offensive? I hope your children's manners are better than your own.

Op didn't say, but that is what that "casserole" is. I would eat it (but not particularly enjoy it), but would never make it myself.

It is why I find MN so addictive, in RL everyone I know would have found OP quite reasonable and problem solved! MN opinions are much more entertaining?

At no point did she call it 'utilitarian slop'!

I would imagine strict is just a fact - not good or bad. I have a sister in law who is v soft. We said she was TOO soft and the kids would grow up spoilt. They are really the loveliest kids (now 20 and 22) you could ever meet. My point being that she wasn't TOO soft but she was soft. It was just a description of a parenting style. Surely strict isn't a bad thing? Who can be the judge?

You really think that sounds like a yummy meal? I wonder why anyone goes to cookery school as bunging things together works every time?

Yes, but why on earth the aibu, if the issue is so obvious? Maybe it isn't.. I think the op is NBU to not cook an alternative meal, but she us BU on the ignoring and cooking a nicer casserole - less is often more in cooking.

i know this thread is nearly done now
but i would just like to add that you are the one that has shown your DSD that is is ok to have to meals cooking at same time
as surely you don't eat meat when your DH cooks it

and as you have veg sausage in casserole why could you have not cooked them separately?

Their posts have revealed them to be nothing more than hysterical shrews.

Beautifully put

Okay, maybe I'm missing the point here, but OP I've seen your other posts about your MIL.

Aren't you concerned her instant reaction to not getting her way was to call granny? AND her other granny? AND daddy? (Seriously hope he backed you up!!)

IMO, that's not about food, that's just her being a drama queen. Those phone calls need to be nipped in the bud. Does she do them often?

NOt cooking, that is, of course..

DSD's reaction seems to sense she knows there is a power imbalance between you and MIL, don't let her play that up.

Btw, calling someone a hysterical shrew is rude and misogynist.

Irrespective of mil issues etc I can nit understand why you would deliberately cook someone in your family food that they don't like.

Fact that she ate it in end is irrelevant. You clearly showed her how little you think of her.

I wish I could spend my morning being so easily entertained,but I must go to work! Love it II31!

Wow. What a kerfuffle.

And turns out you were right all along! Tee hee

Next time trust your gut eh?

:)

For what it's worth fairy I think you were absolutely right and in your position I would have done exactly the same thing.

All this hand-wringing over children having to eat stuff they don't like is just so much drama. There are two possible situations here: 1) the child is just trying it on for the sake of exercising control or 2) the child genuinely hates the food. It seems pretty clear that you knew it was situation 1) and the fact that DSD ate the food shows you were right.

It's unfortunate she got to moan to granny on the phone though- that says to me that she knows there is leverage there and she's trying to play you off against your batshit MIL. But I think you know that anyway. Hope it doesn't cause further bother for you.

Thank goodness for people like LaQueenOTD, sometimes I think I must be in a parallel universe!

Well done fairy....I have one question though - has your MIL been around yet to complain that you're not feeding your DSD and that she and only she is to cook for her from now on and in order to do that she will need a key to your house???

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