Children should be seen and not heard?

[Pinkpinot]

Is this just an old fashioned outdated sentiment
My mil has just said it to my ds
Really fucked me off

Context?

I think it's outdated.

Awful. Haven't heard that said in years. How old is MIL? Has to be 70+ and even then ...

Why would someone day that to a kid?

yeah context

I would ordinarily say it's outdated but the way DS1 (12) just spoke to me I'm inclined to agree!! I'd like to be joking but he was such a shit I tipped his dinner in the bin before he ate it. I have never reacted so strongly and thrown away someone's meal before. Tbf I did say a few mins later that he could make himself more. Ahhhhh

Ordinarily though OP I would agree with you!

I wouldn't say it to a child.

Hiya Pink.I bet she wasn't joking either.Is DH home yet?When's MIL going home?

well if you are church and the couple are saying your vows then yes shut up kids

if you are gambolling in golden hued leaf litter then go ahead, kids

if adults are trying to talk and the child persists in butting in, hmm grey area

so yeah, context is all

Actually I'll give you the context
She constantly interrupts and talks over ds who is nearly 6
I'm trying to teach him not to interrupt, to say excuse me, to wait
He's finally getting it
He's told her a couple if times that's she's interrupted him, nicely enough, but I think he's losing his patience
He said today that she was a bit rude as he was talking and that's when she came out with that pearler!

It is just a saying.

Dear oh dear.

I think she's modelling bad behaviour and I would pull her up on it - she's basically saying 'you are a child and therefore I can interrupt you any time I want.' A terrible example, made worse by the work you have been doing to teach your DS proper conversational etiquette - where no-one gets interrupted.

I don't blame him for losing his patience, you need to back him up.

Teachers will talk over him school. Could be quite amusing if be puts them in their place!

"Children should be seen and not heard"

Am I the only one thinking "I wish!" ?

I wish

ah now, I feel your pain

My mother does this, ever so rude

Teach your kid the interrupting cow joke, you know, knock knock/who's there? The interrupting cow. The interrupt/moo!

Lol snap.

Those were the days mt friends....
[nearly 70]

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My dad thinks this. I think its awful.

at 4 oclock this morning I would have disagreed with her and said children should neither be seen nor heard ( ds1!!)

but it sounds like she was making a pathetic dig because a child corrected her on her bad manners. nasty woman.

She was completely wrong. They will never learn not to interrupt if adults do it to them.

Would be fine if it was said in a jokey way in a different context perhaps.

My FIL sometimes interrupts dd (and others)but only because he is deaf!

The same could be said for some MILs.