to keep the expensive stuff for me and let the kids use the normal stuff?

[2kidsintow]

There are few things in life that are reserved for me alone.

However, I buy the DDs the normal bog standard chocolate spread for their weekend breakfast pancake treat and keep the lovely Cadbury stuff for me alone, on a high shelf.

We dont do seperate food items for us and DS, why on earth would you. We dont all like the same items so have different meals but its a choice of the person.

DS loves nice chocolate and cakes whereas DH prefers cadburys. Cant imagine hiding food.

so baking you do buy stuff just for you, you just hide the fact that you do it?

Why? Why do people feel guilty about this stuff?

I have a new Iphone. My 10 year old ds2 has a £9.99 phone from argos.
Am i supposed to feel guilty about that? Buy him an iphone in case he feels there is a "distinction" between us?

I have a new Iphone. My 10 year old ds2 has a £9.99 phone from argos.
Am i supposed to feel guilty about that? Buy him an iphone in case he feels there is a "distinction" between us?

your poor son bless him and his rubbish phone hang your head in shame

You start doing it early so that by the time they are the toddlers age they know whats yours and whats theirs.

Its only me and him who live here. If he asks for my chocolate I say no its mummy's get your's or I will just say no you don't like that one.

If.Im eating it when he asks I will give him a bit.

He gets the treats he asks for when we go shopping so he knows that they are his. Just like he knows the fizzy drinks are mine but he can have a bit now and again.

He did ask for an Iphone mrsjay

I laughed. and then went to argos

yip sp and by the time they get to my 2s ages they know not to even dare touch it

I laughed. and then went to argos

bet you skipped in and said yeah ok son an iphone

I think there are levels to this.

I dated a boy as a teenager who would every day without fail (him and his siblings) have fried chips, sausage, egg, hash brown, bacon and beans for dinner with a loaf of white bread and butter. Every day, for the year I knew him.

The parents would have a variety of meals, steak, fish, pasta, rice an veg... It was 'too good' for the kids to have.

That's too far IMO.

Keeping a chocolate bar hidden so I don't have to share it with the kids on the other hand is fine!

My mum was the same. We weren't allowed her walnut whips, ruffles or lemonade (as that was for the archers)

I still don't have those at my mums. She did offer me a ruffle once. I didn't trust it

I survived.

My dad would share his mini French bottles of lager with me though he just didn't know it

at posion ruffle bars

I growl if my dds come near my mint match makers at Christmas

Yanbu.

I have my chocolate. Which is mine. The kids have other stuff which is cheaper but they love it.

I do not feel guilty.

Also brazil nut toffee from Thornton's. I used to nick it! She never found out!

Also used to nick vodka and fill it up with water. She found that out

Sometimes it nice to say 'no its mine, all mine and you cant have any' then do an evil cackle

Only on mumsnet would you hear the implication that you are cruel and neglectful towards your children because you have have given them a cheaper brand of chocolate spread!

Yanbu, do what you like.

Sadly, I am programmed differently....i give tge best stuff to the kids. I feel naughty drinking nice fruit juice, but happily give it to the kids.

Mind boggles at Cadburry being a nice option for anyone though, to me it is nasty cheap stuff.

My DSis is due home for a visit from San Fran. She has strict orders to bring me peanut butter oreos, peanut butter M&Ms and loads of crunchy Cheetos.

DH and DS will get NONE of the above. I feel no remorse about this!

I think it is fine to have your own chocolate for example.

But I disagree that decent food is wasted on kids. That is how kids develop a taste for good food.

angry why would you feel bad for having nice things yourself?
But yet you give it to your DCs?

I honestly don't get it.
Do you not feel like you are worth it as well?

I can't imagine why anyone would think that just because they have children, it makes them less deserving of a nice fruit juice? Surely you a still a person as well as a parent?

I don't get it either TAB i am bemused at nice fruit juice and chocolate spread

I couldn't do it.

I would much rather buy 1 large decent bar of choclate to last the week between us that cheap chocolate every day.
Cheap chocolate if full of crap fillers and hardly any cocoa.

I wouldn't feed my children cheaper options of anything as would want them to have the best we can afford. If we can afford organic manuka honey we would all have, if we couldn't all have we would all have the next level down.

But I disagree that decent food is wasted on kids. That is how kids develop a taste for good food.

Great point Grennie.

I love cheap chocolate! You know the coins and balls in the nets? Gorgeous!

Oh I just remembered last Christmas I told my ds that the Turkish delight had alcohol in so they were not allowed to have it! It was mine all MINE and I will be using the above excuse again this year! they might also think Ribena is alcohol to

I must have a very simplistic view of things. If something is in the house then anyone can eat it (unless it is something specifically given to someone as a present then you ask/wait to be offered)

i couldn't be doing with different foods for the children or anything like that. Now if people have different preferences to things thats different but telling people they can't have a certain food based only on the fact they are a child seems wrong and unneeded to me.