To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

[moogy1a]

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

Hetti

I think my issue isnt with that as such, its the fact that the OP has set herself up as the last expert in everything. So she tells her parents what she will do (not ask or discuss) and then slags them off on MN for their food preferences. She will absolutely not accept any criticism whatsoever, and that I have a huge issue with, after all that is how we learn!

Why on earth do you think any childcare provider wouldn't adapt discipline to individual children? That is still the provider choosing their approach to discipline.

I didnt think that they wouldnt adapt, until the OP made it clear that she tells rather than discusses.

You objected to the OP saying she chooses how to discipline children in her care. Of course she does - all settings have a behaviour policy and choose how to discipline children in line with that.

No, I objected to her telling the parents her disciplinary policy. There is a difference.

I would not leave my child with anyone who believed that I had no say in their discipline between the hours of 9 & 5 (say).

I don't mind the OP setting out what her policy is on discipline; that seems reasonable. I don't mind her setting out what her policy is on what food she will provide, as long as she takes account of dietary requirements. If her methods don't suit then the client can go elsewhere. I agree if you want one to one tailored arrangements then you need to employ a nanny.

That does not however excuse her rude post on here.

Bizarre to object to a setting telling you what their policies are

I would love to feed my DS home made food, but as a single mum who works full time, with a 4 hour daily commute I don't have time to cook even for myself. He has Ella's pouches and loves them. My childminder doesn't provide food, and I'd be really upset if she judged me for my food choices for my son. I would love to be able to provide him fresh home cooked food everyday, just as I'd love to be able to be at home caring for him myself every day - but sadly life isn't perfect! And I would actually eat them myself as I think they taste fine (although I couldn't comment on Heinz as I've never tried them).

I dont object!

I object to rudeness and the lack of understanding that clients may need a little flexibility!

If I told my clients I knew better than them I would lose them overnight!

Basically, I don't think she comes across as a terribly nice person, so for that reason I don't think I'd want to leave children with her, no matter how brilliant her cooking might be.

I can't believe the amount of people who are acting all embarrassed that they fed their children jars....you fed them, didn't you? And kept them safe, healthy and well?

So why be a doormat to the likes of the OP??

She's an idiot.

I also object to the unprofessionalism of the OP who still, despite over 700 posts disagreeing with her, still thinks its ok to slag off her clients on a public forum!

Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off"

Then....

No. poor bugger was obviously used to it

I have 4 children, if I found out my childminder called any of my children a "poor bugger" I would be extremely angry. Regardless of the situation. you have no right to be making your feelings known about the "poor bugger" on a very popular and public forum.

It's that I find unacceptable

I'm pretty sure the organic ranges of pouched or jarred baby food is superior to a lot of people's home made food.
I use a combination of pouches and home made, for convenience, but although I use organic meat, I don't buy organic fruit and veg generally.

"Ideas above her station" = presents herself as someone who has the rights and responsibilities of the parent, not as someone who is pad by the parent to do as the parent requests with the parent's child.

I have never watched Downtown Abbey so have no real idea what you're talking about HeadsDown.

I cant be arsed.

Can someone else do this one please?

I'm crying into a bag of peas here, I just can't. I really can't.

Anyone else?

The reason I am criticising her is her lack of manners. It has nothing to do with her opinion of commercial baby food.

As an aside, OP thanks for your advice upthread. I'll try that tip.

On the topic, well perhaps the OP has been tactless and thoughtless in posting, but she's entitled to think it. Jars and pouches are ok, but they are ultra heat treated for safety, which does impair the taste and destroy some vitamins.

OP I wonder if the parent in question was worried your food might not be organic. Some parents are really fussy about that. Maybe she felt an organic jar was better than a non organic fresh meal. Unless you specify organic food provided she would assume it wasn't.

The reason I am criticising her is her lack of manners. It has nothing to do with her opinion of commercial baby food

I think the original AIBU was asking for opinions on the food or at least the feeding of it every day.

quefonda is just answering the OP's question.

Quefonda

The op has been given a hard time because of her attitude (not because of baby jars)

She may be right in what she is saying, she may be wrong. It doesn't matter because they way in which her point was put across was not done in a very good way. Had the post (and subsequent posts) been in a different tone she perhaps wouldn't have gotten such a hard time.

There is a world of difference in having a bit of an opinion on baby food and calling your mindees poor buggers.

I'm glad your CM doesn't make you weep, it's not really a selling point is it.