To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

[moogy1a]

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

Immaturity from the OP. saying Asda smart price cottage pie for her mindees.

1. Making out ASPCP is shite and beneath her.
2. Throwing her toys out of her pram by saying this is what she will do.

Seems to think it was her food to try.
Appears to think she is an amazing childcare giver.

If I was still in child care and came across her I wouldn't be seeing her again.

Of course CMs decide how to discipline the children in their care (just as nurseries and schools do) - who else would decide?

I dunno, I thought CMs would discuss disciplinary strategies with parents and have an agreed method.

And potentially have a different discipline scheme for each child? Don't see how that would work.

Childcare providers tend to have a behaviour policy. If a parent doesn't like a particular provider's policies then they choose a different one which better suits them. Obviously Ofsted registered providers are limited in that they cannot use physical punishments or fear/humiliation.

I thought the same as Skyler that discipline is discussed and agreed between CM and parents, mainly because each child responds differently.

Well, you would discuss it when you first go to visit a provider. If the parent says "Johnny must never be told No, it damages his creativity", the provider will probably let the parent know they are not the right place for them. If the provider says their behaviour policy is time-outs/naughty step and the parent strongly disagrees with this approach, they would probably look elsewhere.

A childcare provider can't use different discipline approaches for different children, how would that be fair

Child a and b are hurting child c. Child a is told it's not nice, child b is put on time out. Fair?

I feed my ds2 jars of baby food, he absolutely loves hipp sweet squash and chicken and plum baby pea and parsnip. Often afterwards he will have a soya yogurt for pudding. He is 18 months old and still loves puréed food (does eat chopped up home cooked food too)

Sometimes it's just easier when I am in a rush or tired to spoon his food in quick and then he's eaten and is happy.

I'd hate to think if I sent him to a childminder that my parenting choices would be criticised in the way the op has done.

Nothing wrong with jars at all.

Of course you gossiped about them!

How can you not think that?

Of course CM's decide how to discipline children. The same as schools do. Parents are told at the initial meeting what my behaviour / discipline policy is and they get a copy.
How else do you think it would work

The OP would hate me...I took my three to visit my uncle - he's a farmer - and I was chatting away to him when I looked over and saw my one year old son eating slurry!!!

Haha...we had a good laugh at that! His sister used to eat spiders so at least he wasn't doing that!

Back to the thread, the title says it all really, that the OP was judging PARENTS and not the actual baby food. Despite what she says!

"Seems to think it was her food to try"

This attitude has baffled me on this thread. I don't see anything "grabby" or sinister about smelling and tasting a little of an unfamiliar foodstuff they are about to feed a LO. It just seems like an instinctive, protective thing to do.

I don't think "the hired help" (as one poster put it) was enviously coveting the LO's food.

Was also shocked to see the phrase "above your station" pop up here.

I blame Downton Abbey.

Mum I didnt mean that, I meant that for example child 1 will push and push so you use 1st warning, second warning, time out. Whereas child 2 will respond to 1st warning. So basically the same method but you adapt it to the child as needed.

Parents are told at the initial meeting what my behaviour / discipline policy is and they get a copy.

So, to recap.

You "tell" parents about your disciplinary policy. You slag off your clients on the internet. You will not be disagreed with under any terms.

How exactly have you managed to maintain any kind of client base?! Presumably these are all parents who have no experience of child care settings because as a mother of 6 I can tell you that you would make it through the first five minutes of your interview before being told "thank you for your time".

What's wrong with telling parents what your behaviour policy is? How else would they know?

Of course CM's decide how to discipline children. The same as schools do

No no no.

You are not a school. I rather think that your previous career has given you ideas above your station. The agreement between school and parent is totally different. By using the state school system (or paying for private schooling) the parent is accepting the rules of that system. By paying you they are the ones in control and if they want a different method to be used for discipline then they can do that. Either you accept and adapt or you lose the custom, them who pays the piper calls the tune.

Nurseries also have behaviour policies and decide how to discipline children, even though the parent is paying. If a parent wants total control of their childcare provider they need to employ someone, rather than use a service.

Can I be smug now about being a SAHM?? No way would I leave my children with someone like the OP..

If I was OP an alternative thread could be, 'To wonder how people can leave their precious children with me, day in, day out'!

Was also shocked to see the phrase "above your station" pop up here

Yes. A lot of the responses have been considerably more "vile" than they allege the OP was.

Hettienne How about "I prefer to use the time out/naughty step/beat them about the head with a chair method of discipline. How would he deal with that? Shall we see how it goes and discuss it over the next couple of weeks?" rather than "This is what I do. End of"

I am self employed and I do sometimes get above my station!

I was brought up short (very nicely!) by a client who pointed out that just because I knew how my other clients hang their work doesnt mean that I know how she should hang hers.

It has nothing to do with some Downton-esque view of staff, but everything to do with the fact that we dont all know everything and some of us (me included) sometimes need reminding of that.

Bogeyface - if a setting has a behaviour policy that works, why wouldn't they tell parents what it is and expect their support? If the parent's approach to discipline is incompatible with a particular setting then they can either choose someone else or employ someone themselves. When you use a group care setting you have to accept that it's not all about you, and your DC have to fit in to an extent.

Hettienne In the nurseries I have used the disciplinary protocols are not set in stone. Yes they used time out, but they tailored it to the child concerned. DC1 needed time out, straight away. He is SN and needed to be kept under firm control. DC2-5 all were ok with 2 strikes and youre out. DC6 is very verbal for her age and again needs to be kept under control, so there is 1 warning only. The system is the same but is adapted.