To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

[moogy1a]

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

I agree with you harold it's a bloody silly reason to judge people.

"f I came across anyone in any profession involved with the care of my children with the unpleasant, abusive, unprofessional attitude the OP has - I'd be going right up the complaints ladder to ofsted etc. You simply do NOT talk about parents and how they behave like that - even if they're behaving in a way that you don't agree with - you just don't do it - and you definitely don't fucking do it over the internet."

I agree. It's very hard to understand why someone would risk their job in this way.

If 'the Mumsnet jury' had their way, nobody would become professional at anything ;)

I can't imagine the sort of outrage that might happen if someone posted an OP that was genuinely "vile" and "upsetting"

Maybe they should change the title to warn others of the potentially disturbing nature of a thread about baby food?!

All seems a bit much!

The OP was judgy about people feeding their baby jars all the time, but she hasn't named any child or parent, and didn't say anything THAT bad or aggressive did she?

Strikes me that the OP is not the judgy one on this thread.

It's very odd for people to take such offense at an anonymous posts. Besides, teachers do talk about their students on here in general terms, and there are hundreds of posts from parents saying much worse things about teachers, doctors, childminders, etc. as well as plenty more from childminders.

So non of you form opinions about people based on the things they do then? You only take BIG and IMPORTANT issues into account when making judgements about people.

If 'the Mumsnet jury' had their way, nobody would become professional at anything ;)

I'm assuming you're making that connection because of the flaming you got yourself on another thread then.

I can't envisage paying someone to raise my child their way. Some of the things you've said make you sound like you're acting way above your station, OP.

If ever there was an advert for nurseries and for being a stay at home mother, this is it.

Nice one.

Why do non of us believe the marketing then?

I assume you aren't going to answer my question then?

I think, in fairness, the OP shouldn't be taken as representative of childminders, nurseries, or even child carers in general.

I'm a single working mum and my son has (unsurprisingly) been in different childcare settings. I've never come across anything like the carry-on above and have nothing but praise for the people who've looked after him.

With commercially prepared baby food being scrutinized (and rightly so)I think it would be interesting to compare it against a study of the average 'home cooked meal' ...

Age/shelf life of the basic ingredients before they were used, how well they've been stored, hygiene standards, length of cooking time, inclusion of any seasonings herbs and spices (and their nutritional quality), weather any 'fortified' foods were included in the ingredients, any storage and reheating methods post cooking ... all these things would contribute to the quality of a babies 'home cooked meal'.

I don't believe there is any such thing as an average home cooked meal!

A home cooked meal for a baby could range anywhere from some slightly past it's best unwashed boiled to buggery carrot with a sprinkle of salt (chucked in by a well meaning adult thinking they were making it palletable) - to a wonderfully balanced steamed meal of organic fish and light vegetables, devoid of any additives, and served fresh.

Plus - the chances are food which IS suitable for a baby will taste a bit nasty to our adult pallets. The taste factor isn't a good yard stick IMO.

I think, in fairness, the OP shouldn't be taken as representative of childminders, nurseries, or even child carers in general.

Of course not. Theres plenty of great child minders out there.

It was a surprise to me at my NCT class when we were advised to check the labels on jars. Frankly, I assumed all would have no sugar, salt etc ie they'd be regulated. And to be fair a lot of brands don't have added sugar etc.

Actually in some cases jars are healthier than homemade food. Many nutrients are lost in boiling, freezing and then re heating. Microwaving previously cooked food can also deplete nutrients. If you read the ingredients on a jar of baby food there is nothing but the veg etc. and added vitamins. They are also prepared in sterile environments where contamination is much more likely to occur at home.

I used a combo of jars and homemade food and think both are fine. Certainly would trust a jar more than food prepared in someone elses kitchen without knowing what's in it. The OP is well out of order.

My first post on aibu and well no doubt get flamed..!

I think suggesting that there is not a market for childminders who do not agree with jarred baby food is incorrect. Lots of parents don't want their kids to eat jarred food, it's great that there are childminders to cater for that (and vice versa) it takes all sorts (as does most professions)

I don't think the 'home cooked food' aspect is what people are taking issue with, it's the gossiping about a mindee on the internet and criticising their parents.

Mumsnet is so awful when an OP rouses the mob.

gossiping about a mindee FFS, no I didn't.

moogy , yes you did. You raised this with specific reference to one of the parents and one child- "the poor bugger" as you called the child in your second post.

If you wanted a debate about the merits of home made food versus bought you could have framed the thread in moderate and objective language.

What exactly was the point of your post?

little one wolfed it down and was obviously used to the taste

then claiming it was a one off

it is gossip as it is based on assumpion and no facts to back it up. did the mum saywhy she wanted that jar on that one day?

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.

poor bugger was obviously used to it

So yes, you were gossiping about a mindee and its parents. So yes, very unprofessional.

And for the record "Am I Being Unreasonable" is a question, therefore you must accept that people may answer "Yes, you are" and not kick off having tantrums when they do. And before you say that you didnt have a tantrum I refer you to....

You know, why the fuck do I bother. You're right. Asda smart price cottage pie it is for tomorrow. I'll get myself down there and stock up.

I would like to know if it's customary for CMs to decide how they're going to discipline mindees, or how mindees should speak, as the OP claims she does. I was at that. Is it normal?

Another CM started a thread about how she wasnt allowed to use time out as a disciplinary method for a charge who was violent and very disruptive, how the mother basically refused to allow any discipline at all so the CM gave them notice. Based on that alone I would say no, it isnt normal.