To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

[moogy1a]

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

As long as people aren't blending up happy meals I don't see the issue tbh

Jars are aimed at babies, made for babies, as others have said they aren't poison

I'm with files on this, stating that MH issues are a reason for deleting this thread is totally insulting.

The OP comes across as a horrible, judgemental person.

The language of the post is loaded;"rank", what a vile word.And , to be honest, a word I tend to think of as being used by those with a poor vocabulary.

In her second post she refers to the child as "poor wee bugger"- charming.

I'm not interested in debating bought or homemade; like many who have posted I used a mixture of jars, rusks, powders and home made.

I'm not convinced the OP even wanted a debate, it came across as nothing more than a rant at the parent and an opportunity to show off the OP's superiority.

I would mention that her intemperate, rude and aggressive language makes her come across to me as someone I'd rather not have looking after my children.

By the way file - having a go at someone has has openly stated here they are distressed and struggling with PND - not on.

People talking about MH issues has become relevant as a response to the many sneery how hard is it to purée a carrot bollocks posts.

People who really lack the imagination to see any reason why people need to use short cuts and haven't got the time to cook.

Anyone who is sending OP messages of support, I really just don't understand why to be honest.

Yeah sneer at other mums you go girl! Good for you!

FFS.

Isabelle the same goes for you. What a nasty comment.

Making someone feel bad because of your (unrelated) mental health issues is TOTALLY insulting to those of us who don't use our mental health issues in that way.

It's a dreadful thing to do, PND or no.

Bandy them around like a get out if jail free card. What a very unpleasant post.

Making people feel like shit over their parenting choices is fine though, no?

I haven't made anyone feel like shit over their parenting choices!

I am wholly appalled by the grouping together of 'people with mental health issues' and connecting it to an inability to cook for your child. Its insulting and its generalising.

I have mental health issues and I certainly dont need someone speaking on my behalf.

Poster one: I don't understand how people can't cook for their babies

Poster two: I had PND and I needed to use them I was struggling.

Where is the issue?

That's not what was said.

Ds refused to eat anything home cooked so I gave up and he lived in Hipp jars for months. Didn't do him any harm at all. It would have been worse to have carried on feeding him food he wouldn't eat and for him to continue losing weight. Weirdly that was what the health care professionals recommended. Also weirdly it didn't stop ds eating a range of food when he was ready to do so.

Really glad we didn't have to put up with a CM like the OP.

No-one is speaking on your behalf. Several posters have mentioned that they have PND and find it a struggle to cook because of that - that doesn't equate to saying people with mental health issues are all the same and can't cook.

'This upsets people with mental health problems' 'I'm not lazy I just have mental health problems' etc etc.

Does that mean working mothers are 'lazy' because they don't have time to cook?

No, there are lots of reasons why people don't want/can't cook and lots of people with mental health problems who DO find time to cook.

It was a horrible generalisation both ways.

Working mothers don't cook - you what?

Just to put what I said about MH issues into context.

I have suffered PND and for me it meant a total inability to cook. Some days, getting out of bed was the biggest hurdle I could tackle that day. So excuse me for not being able to cook and mash a carrot. I wish everything was that black and white.

I'm not the only one who has stated on this thread that I used jars because of my PND, far from it.

I have not bullied the OP. I am not the one who started a thread designed to denigrate those who don't cook every meal from an Annabel Karmel cookbook.

I never 'bandy my PND about like a get out of jail free card'. Did you mean to be so rude? And I recognise that everyone with MH issues tackles them in different ways. When I referred to 'those with MH issues' I was referring to this thread only, not in general. And I don't believe for a second that the OP feels remotely bothered about upsetting people.

Amazing that people have come on here (and still are) and are essentially saying that it's a case of suck it up and get on with it. I sincerely wish it had been that easy for me when my dc were little!

That's not saying everyone with MH can't cook. People have been recounting their own personal circumstances in response to the posts from people who are expressing such surprise that its so hard to cook for a baby.

It IS offensive to say people with MH can't cook.

This thread HAS upset a couple of posters with MH issues, wether you agree with that or not, not all people, but a few.

Of course working mothers cook! I am talking about NOT generalising people (quite clearly) particularly those who happen to have mental health issues (it's not some sort of bloody club)!

Some people cook
Some people use jars

There are no defined 'groups' and the op was insulting by suggesting there are.

Ah, ok I misunderstood - apologies.

You're right that we shouldn't generalise but I don't think anyone was saying all people with MH issues can't cook, were they?

It's not a stretch, surely, to imagine that having PND means you may struggle with things like cooking.

But people with MH issues and working full time mums are not the only ones who use jars. They are probably the minority of those using jars. They are not designed for those struggling with health or disability alone are they?

Plenty of people use them who just have no interest in cooking for their babies, don't really care what baby eats to that degree, and haven't even considered or aware that the jars are less nutritious than homemade food. Maybe the links and discussion on this thread will will make a few think. It should stay.

As for judging, yes, I would judge you as lazy if said you only feed your baby jars. If you said I feed my baby jars when time is short, but not all the time I would judge you less. If you said I feed my baby jars because I can't get out of bed because I am depressed I wouldn't judge at all. I might even offer to help cook your baby some food if you were a friend. We all judge, nobody lives their lives in their own bubble where they don't, if we didn't judge we wouldn't be able to make decisions or form opinions.

She wasn't and in case any confusion was caused shed also come back and explained her position.

I didn't take it that way anyway.

Seems lots of people find this thread upsetting or annoying for different reasons.

Isabelle, your post does not excuse the aggressive, loaded and judgemental language used by the OP.

Possibly the OP is a brilliant cook but she is singularly lacking in good manners.

I judge people who don't feed their kids, who hit them, ignore them and are cruel to them.

I find it astonishing that people judge people this harshly for using jars.

Isabelle I use pre made baby food, as well as cooking and sharing my own food.

Sometimes because I'm not eating something appropriate
Sometimes as I'm so busy doing self employed work I haven't had a chance to eat myself let alone cook
Sometimes if I am out of the house for a long time and they are portable
Sometimes when I just feel like it.

So you just judge me "a little bit"

How ridiculous is that?