Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 ··· 23 24 25 ··· 40 41

Original poster

To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

1002 replies

moogy1a · 17/10/2013 18:51

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

OP posts:

womblesofwestminster · 19/10/2013 12:07

"No one on this thread, or anywhere on this site has the right or the authority to judge people on what they feed their children."

What on earth does this mean? I thought we lived in a free country in which we were capable of unconstrained thought?

BrianTheMole · 19/10/2013 12:08

for expressing a point of view, in a reasoned and responsive way.

The whole point is that her point of view hasn't been expressed in a reasoned way. Its been delivered in a judgey sneery way. Which annoys people.

NotYoMomma · 19/10/2013 12:15

why anyone would need to 'rant' about a supposed 'one off is beyond me'

and how she then equated this one off with a thread title of 'day in day out' is laughable

she has lumped nurseries all in as providing nuggets as standard and hirong young girls, implying that they provide worse care.

she has posted stuff along the lines of 'how will they ever learn about nutritious food?'

the has changed her stance from Heinz to all baby food etc

its not the FOOD people take issue with

daisychain01 · 19/10/2013 12:29

Brian, I beg to differ, I have read all 17 pages and I think her frustration at people homing in and picking holes in everything she is saying, may be misread as being judgey. I just cannot understand why people are taking it so personally (i believe they are)

I am not swooping in here trying to "rescue", just mentioning that I see it from a different angle. Getting into the minutiae of each point the OP is making has lost the original intent.

I bet the OP never expected this reaction in a million years! Such is the joy of MN AIBU! . I have no vested interest either way.

daisychain01 · 19/10/2013 12:32

Notyo, I dont think it was actually a rant originally. I suspect the OP just posted this thread and was only thinking about the smell of the food.

One thing I have learned about AIBU ... Choose your words very very carefully, or risk not coming away alive and in one piece

filee777 · 19/10/2013 12:39

Exactly, how that has been turned into telling someone they are a crap childminder who shouldn't be around children etc etc etc is beyond me.

This forum is just absurd sometimes!

Wannabestepfordwife · 19/10/2013 12:44

Op if I was going to use a cm I would prefer one that did provide home cooked food and I would agree that baby food doesn't smell great but neither does puréed food, puréed carrots made me gag.

What I don't like about this thread is that a few of my friends especially those who had pnd really struggled with going back to work and handing over the care of their dc to someone else, if one of them was to read a thread with judgements being made of them by their cm it would devestate them.

I really think that you should ask for this thread to be deleted. I'm not sure what area your in but where I am the cm market is becoming fairly saturated and you could be doing your business harm by leaving it to stand.

I also think you should have it deleted out of respect for the other parents and mindees I would not be comftable with details of my dcs routine being on the internet when you yourself has said its easy to get your address.

BrianTheMole · 19/10/2013 12:47

Exactly, how that has been turned into telling someone they are a crap childminder who shouldn't be around children etc etc etc is beyond me.

Did anyone actually say those words here Filee?

flippinada · 19/10/2013 12:48

I can understand perfectly why people are taking it personally.

If you are handing over your child to someone who is looking after them, there's a bond if trust there.

The thought that person, the person you trust to look after your child, might be criticising and judging some aspect of your parenting is incredibly upsetting.

BrianTheMole · 19/10/2013 12:49

You should get it deleted. You have posted so much identifying info on mn that its not hard to work out who you are in rl.

filee777 · 19/10/2013 12:55

Yes people have said that! You can read as well as I can brian

BrianTheMole · 19/10/2013 12:59

Maybe they did. I can't remember reading people saying that, but I can't be arsed to go back and re-read it all either.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 19/10/2013 13:01

oh I think the op had a fair idea what the reaction would be...

flippinada · 19/10/2013 13:02

I think people have made their own judgements based on what the OP has posted.

I don't believe anyone, however easy going out laid back they might be, would like their parenting decisions posted on the internet by a third party for others to comment on.

flippinada · 19/10/2013 13:03

easy going or laid back, I mean to say.

filee777 · 19/10/2013 13:03

That's only relevant if mentioned by name.

If we didn't discuss other people's/our own parenting sites like this just wouldn't exist.

HaroldLloyd · 19/10/2013 13:05

Moogy your being very disingenuous here. You said he was a poor bugger who was obviously used to the taste.

You were not just talking about Heinz. You were not talking about a one off and you were slagging off that mum.

Just admit it.

pianodoodle · 19/10/2013 13:07

No one on this thread, or anywhere on this site has the right or the authority to judge people on what they feed their children

Of course they do! Everyone judges whether they admit it or not.

HaroldLloyd · 19/10/2013 13:07

It's clearly a breach of professional trust. I'd get this deleted and not post about your mindees any more if I were you.

If you wanted to discuss the merits or otherwise of jarred food there was no need to provide that example.

BrianTheMole · 19/10/2013 13:08

Not really filee. The op is very identifiable. It is incredibly unprofessional of her as a child care professional to post about one of her mindees in this way.

filee777 · 19/10/2013 13:16

I disagree, this website and those similar are used by literally thousands of people.

flippinada · 19/10/2013 13:16

That's not the point file. It's about the context, and discussing a client is disparaging terms.

If, for example, you went on FB, and slagged off your employer publicly and they found out about it - you would be disciplined or at worst you might lose your job. It's the same sort if thing.

Realistically, people make judgements all the time, we know this - some things really are better off kept to yourself. Or if you absolutely must share, do so privately with someone you trust.

filee777 · 19/10/2013 13:16

Sorry, millions

Madasabox · 19/10/2013 13:17

I haven't read the whole thread so sorry if this has been mentioned elsewhere, but wasn't there a story on the BBC recently that researchers at the University of Glasgow had tested hundreds of jars of all brands of food including the organic ones and discovered that they were much less nutritious than home prepared food, but more importantly they were sweetened (even with natural ingredients) which naturally appeals to babies, but gives them a sweeter palate and does not set them up correctly for the future.

Frankly even when I worked 70 hours plus a week I still found time to batch prepare mush for my kids and home cook for them now, so I don't understand those who can't. BUT it is a choice and I wouldn't say bad things about those parents who use jars for whatever reason. Equally, however, I think they should not be so mean to people who do cook home food and would never use jars like me.

Having said all that I think the OP should have been much more discreet about her mindee as it is not appropriate to comment on a public forum in a way that can be identified.

BrianTheMole · 19/10/2013 13:20

I disagree, this website and those similar are used by literally thousands of people.

No Filee. It would take no more than 5 mins to figure out who she is in rl.

Flip

1 2 ··· 23 24 25 ··· 40 41

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is not accepting new messages.