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Original poster

To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

1002 replies

moogy1a · 17/10/2013 18:51

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

OP posts:
fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:09

no, but it's my choice when they're with me

I'm afraid it isn't, no.

Perhaps we have just got to the crux of the issue, there.

Do you have your own children, Moogy?

Do you understand what it is like to have PND that makes you too anxious to leave your house for fear of the judgement of others? because I do.

can you understand moving through that, going back to work, leaving your baby with someone you think you can trust, only to have them plaster all over the internet that your baby 'lapped up the jar' so 'must be used to it' and 'how can anyone feed their child that crap'

nice. really nice.

you sound like an absolute delight.

stinkingbishop · 19/10/2013 11:09

It is not your bloody choice what PARENTS feed their children
no, but it's my choice when they're with me

Er, no it's not!!!

NotYoMomma · 19/10/2013 11:11

oh the irony. OP lumped nurseries together saying they all serve nuggets as standard faire and hire all young girls (why thats automatically bad anyway? ageism?)

and you are moaning that a poster has been put off cms by hearing sneery posts about parental choices

fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:11

No, I'm not lumping all CM's together.

I'm sure there are many, many great CM's.

I'm in a profession where we are all lumped together and judged too,

what I don't do is add fuel to that fire by acting like a complete twat and posting my judgemental bollocks all over the internet.

NotYoMomma · 19/10/2013 11:13

if you are so sneery about nurseries what are your actual thpughts on working parents btw?

Original poster
moogy1a · 19/10/2013 11:15

no, but it's my choice when they're with me
Yes it is. By law I have to provide nutritious food.
The mindees eat what I provide.
I'm confused as to why you think it wouldn't be up to me what I provide in my setting.
Would you tell a school or nursery what to provide? or a hospital? or anywhere else where food is provided?

OP posts:
thebody · 19/10/2013 11:16

Gosh this has got nasty.

when I was a cm if I was doing the food I provided the best home cooked nutritious meals that mindees enjoyed.

if parents provided the food I fed the m

Original poster
moogy1a · 19/10/2013 11:16

I'm not sneery about nurseries. I was telling Fairy that nursery workers also have opinions

OP posts:
fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:17

so by law you have to provide nutritious food, and yet, you 'harmed' that poor child by giving her a jar of food that her mother asked you to provide.

So, by your own logic and argument, you are breaking the law then are you?

can't have it both ways, OP

MaryPoppinsBag · 19/10/2013 11:19

I'm not moaning I'm asking a question.

Original poster
moogy1a · 19/10/2013 11:20

As I said, it was a one off. I would see it as not meeting the nutrition requirements if I fed them that day in day out.
as a small part of their food intake of that day, no I didn'tbreak the law

OP posts:
thebody · 19/10/2013 11:21

bugger too soon.

if parents provided the food I fed them that.

what's to judge? not my business to judge unless I felt it was a child protection issue which jars of baby food arnt!! Grin

the only thing that pissed me off was non/late payment of fees and continuous late pick ups but that inky happened with one parent and I got rid.

I would have hated to think parents were judging my standards behind my back just as I didn't judge theirs.

each to own.

fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:21

Sorry Mary I can understand that my post was a bit unfair - I didn't mean to lump all CM's together, no.

But I stand by the fact that the OP's completely unprofessional and disgusting attitude has got my back up and gives CM a bad name.

Original poster
moogy1a · 19/10/2013 11:22

Parents always judge our standards. That's why I make sure I keep mine high.

OP posts:
fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:23

It might have been a one off but I thought she was 'clearly used to it' as she 'lapped it up'??

Original poster
moogy1a · 19/10/2013 11:24

Not in my setting Fairy.
It was a one off in my setting.

OP posts:
fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:24

slagging off your parents standards on the internet is not having high standards, OP.

Anyway. I'm backing away from this thread now. It's bringing out the worst in me.

Original poster
moogy1a · 19/10/2013 11:25

yes, Fairy, it is

OP posts:
fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:28

It is a shame you don't have such insight with regards to yourself, Moogy.

filee777 · 19/10/2013 11:31

Surely everyone is allowed a bit of a rant? She hasn't named anyone, I think everyone is being a bit harsh to be honest...

nevergoogle · 19/10/2013 11:32

YANBU, You're hired.

fairy1303 · 19/10/2013 11:34

Yes, everyone is allowed a rant. of course.

It is this that got me
"Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste"

and then going on to be so defensive and have absolutely no understanding as to why it would offend some people.

She could have said 'sorry, I understand why what I said would have upset some of you, I'm still not keen on jars tbh and it looked rank to me so had a bit of a rant, but maybe I was out of line in my further points about how they are the food of the devil and all of you who use them are devil parents' (paraphrasing)

filee777 · 19/10/2013 11:36

Maybe she's not as eloquent as you? Maybe she didn't think it was such a 'big deal' maybe she was just having a rant?

It doesn't make her a shit person, or a shit childminder or any of the other things that people on this forum leap too when someone has a difference of opinion.

Feminine · 19/10/2013 11:41

One petty question op because( for me) all the posts from you rest on it.

Are you saying that the Mother regularly gives her baby jars?

or was it a one off?

You have contradicted yourself on the thread, and possibly that has made some posters see red? :)

daisychain01 · 19/10/2013 12:02

This thread is AIBU at its very worst - totally unconstructive illogical arguments, extrapolating 2 plus 2 and making 5, taking things as a personal affront (did it really make someone cry? - come on the OP isnt slating the whole of womankind, but hey lets all jump on the AIBU bandwagon and have a flame, for a bit of light entertainment) and prodding at someone - excessively and unnecessarily - for expressing a point of view, in a reasoned and responsive way.

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