To wonder how people feed babies this revolting stuff day in day out

[moogy1a]

Had to give a mindee a jar of food today ( mum particularly wanted her to have it).
it smelt rank and I couldn't bring myself to try it.
Little one wolfed it down though so obviously used to the taste and it wasn't "off".
AIBU to think that except in emergencies babies should be fed food you would be happy to eat yourself ( or is Heinz food particularly revolting?)

flippinada????

Because you are sharing personal details about your mindees on the internet!

"You know what. When I read posts I don't then look up what the OP has previously written and trawl through looking for identifying remarks.
I find it odd that some of you do

its meant to be bad form, so if you see this report them OP

what word begins with a "b" and ends with a "y"......

No I'm not.
I'm sharing my opinion on baby food.
Explain how that puts my mindees in danger

And if you think your mindee's mum would agree with you then please feel free to forward this thread on to her.

No see, but if i were about to charge someone with the care of my child, i may well do a brief google search, looking for reviews etc. This thread would then come up, I would read it and look for another CM!

Or you could look her up and think, 'Oh good, she feeds her mindees proper homecooked food.'

How exactly am I putting the mindees in danger Flippin?

Does this thread come up when you google your real name OP?

I don't know. the first few results are usually the scientific papers I co authored.

People post stuff about their childminders all the time.

Most people read and comment on a thread. They don't trawl a posters history like the weirdos on this one.

oooh, ive co authored a couple of papers too - they weren't on nutrition though, were yours?

flippin??

No LEM they were on novel drugs for cancer

moogy??

I'm waiting for the explanation as to how I'm putting my mindees in danger when my details are given out by myself/ the council/ OFSTED

How does remembering something somebody has previously posted make me a bully? It doesn't, does it, and it is a bit different to 'trawling through posts'!

The point here is that for example I am a teacher. If I had posted my real name elsewhere on the site and then posted about one of my students, being critical - no matter how mildly so - of his parents, it's not hard to understand that it would be seen as hugely unprofessional, and that's in a big secondary school. This is the same sort of thing.

If you absolutely HAD to post about it, the name change is helpful - and you could have posted in a way that didn't criticise openly - "AIBU to think it's silly to give babies jars and pouches" would have been fine, in my eyes anyway.

I actually agree with you. I am pregnant, I hope any jars or pouches will be rare - but whatever I do, I know some people will disagree with it, and I just hope the people I pay to look after her won't sneer about it on the most public forum for parents there is, through which I am identifiable as well as them.

You surprise me moogy - because surely you should know better than most that quoting links from the "news" is not always going to be reliable, you could have easily linked to peer reviewed research - why didn't you?

Ok. danger is perhaps over-egging the pudding, and hands up, that was a unfair and I apologise - but do you genuinely not see how putting personal details about a mindee on the internet is completely inappropriate?

Yes your details are given out but not details about your mindees and it's the fact you are discussing a mindee that I object to.

You have put me off using a childminder.

I am going to say this veeeerrrrrryyyyy sloowwwwwllllyyyy.

It is not about what you feed them.

It is about your attitude.

It is about your judgement of ANYONE who might give their babies jars.

It is about your disregard for any sort of client confidentiality by plastering your judgement all over the internet.

It is not your bloody choice what PARENTS feed their children. It is your job to support those parents and care for THEIR children in the way that they ask you to.

But thanks, OP, because I was struggling to decide between CM and nursery. Nursery it is!

paris it is not a requirement to judge people.

Going round tesco, and thinking "oh that terrible woman buying loads of jars, her poor baby" is not something that people just do

People judge in order to feel superior. They look at something and say "I am so much better than her because I would never be so lazy to buy jars. I cook all my child's food"

IMVHO people only need to feel superior to total strangers in this way if they are insecure.
I can honestly say that I have never noticed what is in someone's shopping trolley, or what they are feeding their child because I don't need to. I know I am not perfect but it doesn't matter because I do my best. That's good enough for my family.
I don't need to look at people and think I am better than them, so I can feel better about myself.
I know that people make different choices based on their circumstances and it is none of my business.
It doesn't mean because someone makes a different choice, that I am somehow better than them.
It just means we are all different people in different situations.

Again, what personal details have I put about the mindee.
I didn't post " little johnny smith from 22 acacia avenue appeared with a jar of food"

Excellent fairy instead you can have the young girls who work at nurseries take the piss out of how you dress and that your hair looks crap. oh yes, surprisingly nursery workers do judge. These are both things I've heard nursery workers laughing about

It is not your bloody choice what PARENTS feed their children
no, but it's my choice when they're with me

Fairy - are you lumping all CM's together then? Nice. Doesn't surprise me it frequently happens on this site. Surprised it took this long to be a CM v.s a nursery debate. (Or maybe I missed a few hundred threads and already happened).