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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 15/10/2013 17:05

I shared the Mumsnet post on fb about how being a mum is a full time job. It was a picture of a CV detailing all the stuff a mum does unpaid. I thought it was a bit of harmless tongue-in-cheek humour.

A lady of my aquaintance, whom I previously thought was a nice educated lady, has made the comment 'why not get a proper job?' Hmm

AIBU to feel a bit pissed off with that attitude? I don't know why it bothers me so much. First world problem and all that but fuck I feel riled.

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DevonFolk · 15/10/2013 17:07

Are you sure she wasn't joking?

FrenchRuby · 15/10/2013 17:08

Is that that 'I'm a nurse, photographer, chef...' etc status because that's really annoying. You can't really compare putting a plaster on someone's knee to the hard work and training that a nurse does. Or home made cooking to the extreme pressure and hard work that goes into being a chef.

The 'proper job' comment would annoy me though.

Chippednailvarnish · 15/10/2013 17:12

Maybe she was pissed off with what she perceived as your attitude?
The sort of posts your refering to always sound like martyrs to be...

Rotterwallah · 15/10/2013 17:12

Thing is that mum stuff. Well we all do it. Some people also work out of the home as well as doing the mum stuff

WorraLiberty · 15/10/2013 17:13

Sorry but I think it's funny, especially in reply to that martyr mummy gushy gunk post on FB Grin

CoffeeTea103 · 15/10/2013 17:14

Maybe she was being funny as well. There are lots of women who do the mum job as well as work outside the home.

JumpingJackSprat · 15/10/2013 17:15

so do mums who work have two jobs then? or is being a mum a lifestyle choice and not a job?

UsedToBeNDP · 15/10/2013 17:16

Amen to chipped, rotter and worra.

The role of a mother is valuable but twee shite like that round robin email is barfworthy.

Laquitar · 15/10/2013 17:17

Oh if i was a .nurse i would get pissed with those 'cv's',

Boardingblues · 15/10/2013 17:18

As a mother with a full-time job, I find those FB posts annoying. YOBU

AngelsLieToKeepControl · 15/10/2013 17:18

I think its funny too. You put a status up saying I'm a nurse, taxi driver, therapist, cook.....I work 24/7 with no holidays and I don't get paid. She tells you to get a proper job then Grin Grin Grin

FrenchRuby · 15/10/2013 17:18

Im studying to be a photographer and these things annoy me... oh you're a photographer are you? On your iPhone? ok then....

Mojavewonderer · 15/10/2013 17:21

I totally agree with rotter.
People go on about how hard it is to be a mum well try being a mum and something else, surely that's even more difficult.

manicinsomniac · 15/10/2013 17:24

Her comment was rude and unreasonable but not as unreasonable as that photo/list thingy imo. I've seen at and had really itchy fingers trying not to type a rude response.

It's this one, right?
Yes....I AM A MOM!!! That makes me an alarm clock, cook, maid, waitress, teacher, nurse, handyman, security officer, photographer, counselor, chauffeur, event planner, personal assistant, ATM, & I scare away the boogie man. I don't get Holidays, Sick pay or Days off!! I work through the DAY n NIGHT!!! I am on call 24/7 for the rest of my life. And that's just my First JOB.....Being A MOM!!!! I may not be anything to you but I am EVERYTHING to someone........ Repost if you are a PROUD MOM!!!!"

It's nauseating. Being a mum does not make anybody all that special. They still do only one job, not all the jobs combined as that seems to suggest. And most of us are a mum as well as our full time jobs. It's a ridiculous sentiment.

UsedToBeNDP · 15/10/2013 17:26

Nauseating

UsedToBeNDP · 15/10/2013 17:27

sorry, nauseating is spot on

LEMisdisappointed · 15/10/2013 17:27

YABU for the simple reason that is says mom!

The whole motherhood is a job is a bit boring though - it not a job, its bloody tough and challenging,rewarding etc etc.

What about Dads, is it their job too? or only a mum's job?

BenNJerry · 15/10/2013 17:28

I hate that sort of thing. I also hate when people put "full time mum" under their "work" on Facebook. Being a mum is not a job, it's a lifestyle choice. And regardless of whether you have a job or are a SAHM, we're ALL "full time mums".

Can't be doing with people who go on about how much hard work it is. These are just daily tasks that all parents do ffs.

Hunfriend · 15/10/2013 17:35

Oh god those posts are so martyrish and irritating Hmm and as for those" My DS is my boss" ...
There is a reason Im not on FB !

Boardingblues · 15/10/2013 17:36

Aggghhh! FTMs who register on LinkedIn and then want to connect, they get my goat! It is not a profession and LI is not FB.

Teeb · 15/10/2013 17:37

Yabu to post those God awful fb updates.

DontPanicMrMannering · 15/10/2013 17:42

The mumsnet one wasn't exactly like that, it was more a job advert. Can't remember it exactly but it was something more twisted (as usual), like.

Team - prone to tantrums and kicking

Pay - £37 per week

Holiday - possibly 2 days not guaranteed.

So not so nauseating as the usual!

Her response was still quite funny though sorry!

missmargot · 15/10/2013 17:43

I really hate those sanctimummy type posts, there's another going around proudly describing how they put their child first, don't buy new clothes, don't get hair cuts etc because their child is more important. Completely vomit inducing.

Delayingtactic · 15/10/2013 17:45

I think her comment was pretty witty tbh. I hate those posts because you're not any of those things not any more so than any other person with dc. We all do those things but I wouldn't dream of trying to elevate the stuff I do at home to the level of professionals.

janey68 · 15/10/2013 18:04

I can't stand those twee smug offerings which seek to elevate a woman (never a man!) to some sort of superhuman status simply because she's had sex and had a baby. We all do those things when we run a home and become parents. Most parents also work outside the home alongside that list of things. Seems to me the friends comment was in keeping with the ridiculousness of the FB post

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