To refuse my SIL access to DS until she can respect my wishes?

[Bunraku]

My SIL often asks to take my DS out for the day with her son. Probably twice a month. She often brings a good friend of hers who is pregnant and likes to "practice" l

I made a simple request of her. As my ds has recently come out of hospital after serious pneumonia I asked if they could please not go to the filthy soft play that is near my MIL's house.

beastofburden he wouldn't sit there anyway! Ds still considers MIL a stranger as he barely gets a look in!

MIL only really ever considers her other GS and everything she does is to make sure he is happy and having fun. He's a lovely lovely little boy but the different ways in which they are treated would cause arguments when they were older as it's so blatant.

Thank you all for reassuring me that I'm not the one behaving strangely, and for not throwing biscuits at me :)

Congratulations, both of you. I think you've handled the situation perfectly. It's lovely to see a thread where the parents can present a united front against selfish prats in the family!

Here's wishing your poor little boy gets well from Hand, Foot and Mouth disease soon. Sad to say, but I think that MIL's Foot-in-Brain condition may take longer for her to recover from- it's commonly lifelong!

at foot-in-brain

Good on your DH for standing up to your MIL on the phone, bunraku

And your DS's mouth probably does hurt. I caught HF&M when it was going round the boys' nursery (so surprised I'd not had it as a child!) and my mouth was one very painful mass of ulcers. I couldn't eat anything hot, rough or acidic because it hurt so much. Even more undignified, I couldn't stop drooling!

What a nightmare Op.. I think you and your DH handled the whole situation very well. My doorbell would be Brocken to if I was you....

You and your dh have handled this perfectly. Your MIL sounds an utter bitch if she can really treat your son with less affection than your nephew because he's adopted. That's just appalling.

Hope your ds feels better soon x

thebigjessie

So glad your DH has set your MIL straight! Hope DSis feeling better very soon.

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