aibu to think my dh should apologise for cheating on me

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In a dream last night?

Horrible dream, I woke up feeling sad and insecure. I told him and he gave me a big kiss and cuddle and ruffled my hair in a 'aren't you a daftie' kind of way.

But I think he should apologise but he doesn't think he should.

Aibu?

seriously?

Hahaha!!!!

Seriously? Yes you're being unreasonable.
It was a dream, he didn't do anything and needing an apology for something your own brain invented is weird and insecure

My husband recently gave me a good kick whilst sleeping - turns out he was scoring a goal for Arsenal (he says). (And he's only 64.)

He did apologise - but then again, it was his dream.

Yeah ok

Yabu

You want him to apologise for his part in your dream?

I think I'd apologise if dream me hurt him...

Your imagination, your problem.

I have been in the same situation as you, I actually woke him up to tell him, he was unimpressed and didn't apologise either but he does tell everyone about it

I did feel really insecure and upset about it and he just laughed at me!

It usually takes an hour for me to feel cheerful again after those dreams. I get very emotionally invested in my dreams!

He has apologised in the past when they've been real enough that I've woken up in tears, which was so ridiculous it cheered me up. Not his fault his dream-self is a bastard!

If anything you should apologise for the lack if faith in him. Your dreams are not under his control.

YABU. VeryU.

I wouldn't have even told him. Why would he need to know that you are dreaming of him cheating on you? Your subconscious mind, your problem to cope with.

Are you actually serious?

Of course YABU and completely wierd.

my dh tried to hug me in his sleep the other night and when I moved his arm (I was pregnant and hot) he smacked my leg!!!

he was asleep and was half apologetic and half disbelieving in the morning.

its usually my who does crazy stuff in my sleep. ive elbowed him in the face once

AAARRRGGGGHHHH

weird

Why would I not tell him?

I am serious, as in this is what's happened. I'm not in the huff with him or anything, just a wee sorry would make me feel better!

Shouldn't you apologise. It's your imagination that thought he was a cheat.

Haha! I have had a similar dream a few times (weird pregnancy dreams!!) would never expect him to apologise in real life though.

My dp has got into a habit of smacking my bum in his sleep.....sleep sex pest!!

Why should he apologise?! You were dreaming and he did absolutely nothing wrong. Why would a half-arsed, forced apology make you feel better, anyway? It wouldn't be like he meant it because he has nothing to apoloigse for

YABU He's got nothing to apologise for. You're the one who has dream trust issues.

The most ridiculous thing I've heard today.

So you woke up feeling sad and insecure after a dream... instead of apologising for something which wasn't true and he had no part in, he gave you a big cuddle and a kiss, which I think is far more likely to cheer you up and make you feel secure than a pro forma apology for matters beyond his control! What are you going to do, go on and on at him until you force the words "I'm sorry" out of him??

YADNBU

I always expect an apology for dream-infidelity, and DP expects the same of me. You're allowed to kick him a little, too (gently), and sulk at least till lunchtime.

You should apologise to him. It was your subconscious that dreamed it up. your unconscious mind called him a cheat and I think it owes him an apology

What do you want him to say?

I am sorry that you had a dream that upset you? (not unreasonable, he's sympathising that you have been upset by something, but it's in no way his fault or anything he's remotely responsible for! )

I am sorry that I cheated on you in your dream (barking mad)

I'm sorry you feel insecure, you know I'd never cheat on you (needy of you but reassuring )