aibu to think my dh should apologise for cheating on me

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In a dream last night?

Horrible dream, I woke up feeling sad and insecure. I told him and he gave me a big kiss and cuddle and ruffled my hair in a 'aren't you a daftie' kind of way.

But I think he should apologise but he doesn't think he should.

Aibu?

What would he be apologising for though? He did nothing. Your imagination was the one that painted him in a bad light. Shouldn't you apologise to him for your brain coming up with that scenario in the first place?

I have asked my husband to apologise for stuff he has done in my dreams purely because it makes me feel better and allows me to resolve the weird, impotent emotions I am left with when I wake up. Fortunately, he understands that it's hard to get over a very vivid dream and will help in whatever way he can, although I do know that he occasionally feels aggrieved that dream-him can be such as tosser!

YADNBU!!!!!

Who did he dream cheat on you with?

Yabu. Unless it was Mr.Tumble, then he should apologise and provide much brain bleach.

Can I ask - are people joking or being serious when they say they too expect an apology? I sometimes do find it difficult to tell over the net when people are joking but is anyone saying that they want, expect or need "I am sorry that I cheated on you in your dream" rather than "oh, poor you, I am sorry you had such an awful dream, no wonder you are feeling rotten this morning"

How ridiculous. If my OH asked me to apologise for something that existed in his imagination I would think he was a weird, controlling freak.

My ex did used to ask me to apologise for things he thought I had done, in his drunken haze imagination. It was part of his control.

Eh?
You want him to apologise for something that only happened in your imagination?

I'm not going on at him.

He did say 'im sorry you're a nutter'

Yabbloodyu op. He gave you a cuddle and tried reassuring. Your mind had him cheating- not his, not him and no choice of his. If anything shouldn't you apologise? Your imagination made dream him cheat.

What will you do if he dies or kills you in a dream? Those dreams can happen- I've had some horrors with zombie dp and dexter dp- will you feel he should apologise then for that too?

My dh gets really arsy if I'm horrid to him in dreams, apparently my neighbour gets like that with her dh too. I just laugh.

You're Phoebe Buffay, aren't you?

Cheer up. I had a dream I was going to a Core Science GCSE class, and at the class a woman stood up and ranted aggressively about immigrants for ten minutes.

Then the alarm went off and I woke up.

I blame Mumsnet.

Is this a joke?! Lol

I punched my husband once in my sleep after I'd dreamed that he cheated on me. He saw the funny side luckily!

YANBU, the dirty lying dream cheater.

YABU.

It is hard though. I once dreamed my father tried to murder my mother, brother and me with a huge kitchen knife. He'd never even lifted a finger at me. I couldn't look at him for a week.

I've also dreamed that DP had an admirer. I woke up and just felt very relieved that he was still all mine

O just think people should take some responsibility for their actions in dreams.

I just think people should take some responsibility for their actions in dreams How exactly should they manage this?

By saying sorry!

But it wasn't his action - it was your imagination.

Oh of course! Silly me...

Ooo can I be the first to say LTB?

It's an option!

Oh pinky, relax!