To refuse to host Xmas dinner for 16 when I will be 40wks pregnant?

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I discovered today that all the in-laws were planning to come to us for Xmas dinner. DH is horrified that I said no. I had invited my dad, sister and her boyfriend (a chef!) as we will need someone to look after DCs if the baby is born that day but I don't think I'll be up to entertaining a huge crowd. Am I just being hormonal or is this not a good idea when I'll either have a newborn or be due to give birth? I do like hosting big Christmas dinners normally. Any other year...

Goodness me I didn't want to see one person when I was 40 wks. The thought of Christmas and then cooking dinner would have tipped me over the hormonal edge.

Tell your dh to jog on op. What if baby comes Christmas Eve?

Tanbu its a ridiculous idea.

You are not being hormonal. No way will you be able to cater for 6, let alone 16.

Yanbu. No way should you agree to this. It is absolutely fine that you want a quiet christmas with your family.

YANBU

The OP's dad, sister and boyfriend are invited to look after the other dc if she goes into labour.

YANBU! YANBU AT ALL. Good god, are they all on glue?!

i knew a lady whose husband invited his family round for a 3 course dinner the day after she came out of hospital after giving birth. She was expected to do the cooking, hosting and washing up. She did. Luckily she came to her senses and divorced him some years later.

OP - tell your husband he is totally in charge this year while you will be resting. Think he might change his mind.

I will be 40 weeks on 20th December. Tell them all to fuck right off. Unless they are coming as a work party to cook, clean and pander to your every need. And realise you will be receiving visitors by appointment only from your boudoir.

Get yourself a little bell for the day for the side of your bed.

OP, I assume you've discussed this further with dh by now. What on earth is his justification for being "horrified"?

Your dh is being a knob and the inlaws should know better.

YANBU

YADNBU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If your dh wants to prepare everything and cook so that his family can come along then I suppose he could.

My due date is Christmas Day as well.

I can't believe what's being expected of you!

We've managed to find a couple willing to be on "stand by" to come and stay with DD (2) but I don't think 16 people would be necessary!

16 guests at Christmas would be unnecessary to me though even if I wasn't due to give birth

Even if still preg and feeling good at 40 weeks, you could of course go into labour at any time and ruin 16 people's xmas lunch!

If it got as far as the 16 people actually coming over for xmas I'd make it my business to ruin their lunch!

Please tell us that you are joking, and if you are not- leave your ungrateful ass of a husband and move in with me and my family!

We will take care of you and your children and never ask you to host anything whilst pregnant!

Absolutely agree with Fuckwittery - I'm 37 weeks PG currently and don't do anything I can avoid right now!

Can't believe your DH would even suggest such a thing, and also can't believe that ILs think it's a good plan either. Idiots, the lot of them!

I was due on Xmas day 2 years ago, although DD was 2 weeks late. It was a big deal to even invite my parents over to stay, and they did pretty much everything. I was exhausted, grumpy, and antisocial, and 16 people would have been my idea of hell, even if I didn't have to lift a finger. Are your family in denial that you are pregnant? It's an insane idea and I feel really sorry for you.

Please show your DH this thread OP! #commonsense #themumsnethavespoken

dyslexicdespot can I come too?! Our who-to-call-first list for babysitting if I go into labour is a bit sparse! I can amend it to:

Dad

Cousin

Stranger from the internet

The dog

Satan himself

In-laws

Oh and congratulations

OK..

Get the 3 most sensible people to bring you Gold and some smelly stuff for the house (LOTS OF GOLD THOUGH). Frankincense is good with orange essence for a Christmassy smell.

Get the kids dressed up as angels.

Put tea towels on various people's heads and send them to the kitchen to do the work. They are not allowed to serve lamb unless the meal has full trimmings and a turkey with full trimmings.

Make the angels go and sing non-stop in the kitchen.

Wear a blue dressing gown and sit serenely. I've never seen a nativity where the mother is doing anything else.

Did I mention that they need to bring you gold? Your DH really needs to pay attention to that bit. Put a teatowel on his head too.

YANBU.

When I was pg with DS I was 41+2 on Christmas Day.
I got myself dressed.
I considered this an achievement
YADNBU tell them all to feck off

Last Christmas day, at 39+6 I went into labour! YADNBU!

Yes piano- you are welcome to come as well. Lets spend New Year's Eve sticking pins into a voodoo doll that looks like the OP's husband! What a poopstain!

YAD, completely, utterly and irrefutably NBU.