To be slightly freaked out by this 'new friend'?

[Sticklebug]

My DD has recently started secondary school and today went round to a new friends house for the first time. I arrived to collect her at 6.30pm as agreed and the mum invited me in. She offered me a cup of tea and said ' it is always lovely to make new friends'. We had a nice chat, although she was a bit intense and asked loads of questions about DD's after school activities and we seemed to get on well.

All good....

Then, another mum arrived to collect her son (younger bro of DD's friend) and I was introduced as 'this is sticklebug, my new friend'. Cue me looking slightly uncomfortable and cheesy smiling (my stock response for awkward conversations).

Other mum sits down and DD friends mum then sits and tells this new mum how much she likes me and how we are going to be such 'close friends'....all this time i am sat at the table feeling really quite awkward.

Just got home and had text asking if I am free this weekend anytime for some 'girly shopping time in town'!

She was nice, but I am now slightly freaked out. AIBU?

That would freak me out too.

Too much, too soon.

In one way I think aww she wants to be your friend. she's possibly lonely, another bit of me thinks maybe she is trying to befriend you for her DD to remain friends with yours, then the other bit of me thinks 'blimey that's a bit OTT.

Run, and keep running

I would give a massive berth, far too intense and full on for such early days in a friendship - gulp!

IME people that are 'too much too soon' are to be avoided.

Oi! Stop being meanpants. This new friend may be amazing, and you don't get many chances to meet new friends as your DC get older. It's still a bit odd though

Run like the wind my friend !

Yeah, I'd be freaked out too. She must be very lonely - or struggles with social skills maybe? Did you like her though?

I know someone just like this. She 'collects' friends and tries to get very close to them extremely quickly.

They are dropped just as speedily if she finds they aren't useful or attentive enough. I've never known anyone quite so needy.

Of course, your new friend may not be like this but personally I'd keep her at arms length.

I think she was trying to make you feel welcome

I'm confused. Who is the mum?

Who is the other woman?

Does your DD's friend's little brother have a different mum? Which one was being the crazy friendopath?

I've generally found people who are very quick to intense friendships are usually equally quick to drop you like a hot brick when someone new comes along.

They like the novelty and finding all about you. Then it just isn't exciting any more, once they know everything.

I tend to do sitting in car and ringing DS1 from my mobile to get his ass out of his mate's house and avoid the cup of tea malarkey.

Arghh......run for the hills

She's a 'Klingon' and you will have to work hard to get rid of her.

Don't encourage her and act all busy and flustered when you see her. Tell her your schedule is really full on and you simply don't have time to do stuff.

It doesn't matter how nice she seems......Klingons are always nice until they snare you, then they turn into emotionally draining drama lamas who suck all your energy from you and leave you feeling wrung out and drained.

The worst type are possessive Wendys who will get rid of all your friends for you so that you can spend all your time together

You will end up spending your time hiding behind the sofa, trying to lose your mobile and jumping every time your landline rings. Your mental health will suffer, you will become paranoid, your finger nails will be all bitten and sore and you will jump at every sound.

You have been warned

Your response should be 'I don't actually like shopping. I'm a [whatever the opposite to what she likes is] type and I'm out with friends this weekend'.

You know now her DD will now be enrolled at all those activities you told her your DD does, don't you?

I would give her a chance but I'm a big softie ??

Ha ha this reminds me of when I was in secondary school.

A newish friend of mine convinced me that it would be a great idea for our mums to become friends. I went along with it although I did have doubts that it was a good idea.

She turned up one Friday night at our house with her mum and some wine and we left the mums in the front room to get to know each other!

My poor mother, she probably wanted to kill me.

Yes I think your new 'friend' is a bit too much too soon.

Are you free for some girly shopping in town OP?

I think it's really nice but you could just say no if you don't want to go.

There are so many posts on Mumsnet about people being unfriendly and about how hard it is to make friends. This woman sounds like a breath of fresh air but maybe I'm a bit odd too

Could you have a word with the other mum who turned up? She might be able to shed some light or is she from a different school?

Run like the wind!

I am really trying to be nice ever, I am struggling slightly though.