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To think a 5 year old girl shouldn't be wearing nail varnish....

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allnewstuff · 05/10/2013 14:36

DP's girls are 5&2.

They routinely wear coloured nail varnish. He doesn't like this and thinks they are too young for nail varnish and make up but his exw says its 'girls bonding' for them to all do make up and nails together and she really enjoys it as an activity for them to do.

I have said that he can voice his opinion as their father but ultimately while they're in exw house it's up to her what goes on. However I think it's entirely reasonable for him to say 'no nail varnish and make up' when they are with him. His ex is doing the whole " mummy lets you but daddy and allnew won't, they're so mean" with them. She tells him we are being far too over the top and because I don't have DDs I don't understand that little girls want to do nails and make up.

AIBU to not allow nail varnish and make up when they're in our home?

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ringaringarosy · 08/10/2013 12:43

mine have had nail varnish on since about 2,and that includes the boys.its just like painting.id say yabu.

Birdsgottafly · 08/10/2013 18:41

"SHE doesn't understand what's make up is in the adult world, it's just pretty, glittery colours to her to dress up in"

I don't apper to understand what make should be about "in the adult world" to me and my 28 & 18 year old it is glittery colours and part of the enjoyment of putting together an outfit (my 16 year old is a Goth with blue hair, so body adornment is used to be part of that sub culture).

If the youngest is only 2, then has their Dad moved into your house, with you and your children? The focus should be on making the girls feel welcomed and accepted when they come to stay.

Their Dad should be getting to know them as individuals and if then he thinks any interests don't come from a "good place", he should be trying to correct that, slowly.

They will change throughout growing up and he should respect them developing as young women and not reading into what isn't there, applying colour to any part if the body for many, is just fun and nothing more.

Personally I don't get the connection between using something which is a cultural norm and in every shop, or removing body hair (another topic on this board) as being connected to Morals or Self Esteem, necessarliy.

It's good that you are asking on here, it helps to remove preconceived opinions and realise that we all think differently.

Birdsgottafly · 08/10/2013 18:43

"Personally I don't get the connection between using something which is a cultural norm and in every shop, or removing body hair (another topic on this board) as being connected to Morals or Self Esteem, necessarliy. "

I meant to add, and certainly not connected to sexual behaviour.

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