Just need a few other opinions on teachers' comment to boy...

[LadyOfTheFlowers]

DS2 has long hair. About 3 inches below his collar, shorter towards front - can tuck behind his ears.
For PE it was requested he had a sweatband. I bought 2 he lost them, I forgot about it over summer.
PE has resumed and the PE teacher got mad, telling him 'If you don't have a sweatband next lesson I will cut your hair off!'
Now the boy is 7 and truly believes his mad PE teacher might chop his hair off.
It is my fault he doesn't have a sweatband. Why didn't he shout at me? I see him around school enough.
I am annoyed. DH is seething.
AIBU to want to complain? How do I address this?
Apart from get the sweatbands this weekend obviously.

ilovemyself

Yes, I realise when I read it back that it sounds contradictory. Shouldn't be trying to reply whilst I should be getting boys to bed!!

I think what I was trying to say, not very well, is that I don't adhere to "typical" gender stereotypes eg boys must play football and girls can only play netball etc etc, you know the type of thing.

I encourage my boys to take part in whatever they like. For a while, they were going to gymnastics and there was a period of time when they were the only boys there. Ds1 did remark on it and said he didn't really want to go because if was just girls there. I told him not to be daft and to look at the gymnasts at the Olympics.

If either of them wanted to do ballet, I'd be absolutely fine with that. And if I had a girl who wanted to play football, well I would take her to football training etc but not early on a Saturday morning as I need a long lie

I do think boys should have boyish hair, not down to their shoulders etc My nephew, whom I adore, is 10 and has quite long hair now. I utterly hate it. But I would never say anything to him. Or my brother, his dad. Not my business.

I'm not sure if I can explain myself properly without sounding as if I'm really sexist. I just hate long hair on boys. But I don't expect all boys to do only "boys' things". Ditto girls. They can all do whatever they like, but I still think long hair looks stupid on boys. Just my opinion and I realise that I might not have expressed it very well.

Ok- boys can cry, play with dolls, become nurses, wear pink, whatever. Just don't do any of it with long hair haha!!!! ( that's meant to be lighthearted!)

I can't believe this has turned unto a slanging match about boys with ling hair - ridiculous!

Op asked about the teacher. I wish parents would take some bloody responsibility for their kids (and I'm impressed that some posters are behind school policies) but too many expect rules not to apply to their offspring. Teachers keeping special bobbles for little johnny / writing letters home... Really?

Put yourself in the position of the teacher - child falls and injures himself because his/her hair is in their eyes. Teacher blamed. Head teacher does an observation

leave hairbands with teacher.

Why should the teacher be responsible for a seven year old's hair? It should be tied up in the morning by his PARENT before he leaves for school if he can't manage it himself.

Sorry.
Head does an observation walkthrough - teacher is graded a 4 for failing to ensure H&S / uniform policy is adhered to... Unfair because a parent isn't prepared.

P.S. I discourage my DS from fighting, dummy-fighting, play-wrestling etc.

DS1 (6) will start talking about who is the toughest in his class and who is the best at fighting. I tell him swiftly and firmly that I don't want to hear if and I don't want him talking like that. He never spoke like that till he went to school!!! Though he's always been able to stand up for himself perfectly well.

My 5 year old loves loves loves his teddies. He's very cuddly and affectionate and would glue himself to me if he possibly could!

Teacher wouldn't have to say anything if the child had the correct and proper dress for gym. I could argue this all day. Parents responsibility. Parents fault. Teacher is there to teach, not provide bobbles.

OP quite clearly states that the teacher could very easily have had a word with her and that she is sorting out the hair back situation this weekend.

There really was no need for the teacher to behave like that at all.

Really? You expect him to go search out the mother to ask her to conform to uniform policy which she already knows about? I despair!

It is very poor practise. Totally agree with Kim. And the OP says she sees the teacher around school so it's not as if he would have had to search her out.

Paper clips

I heartily agree with you.

We did gym in knickers - I'm not damaged by it.

Parents have 1/2/3 etc children to sort out P.E teachers have 100+. Searching out a parent over a bobbles won't be a priority.

Thanks
if the bloody parent is in school so much why can't she have popped in with a bloody bobble???

my 7 year old thinks that child was silly to be scared. They should have known teacher was exaggerating.

so, some 7 year olds "get" exaggeration.... and some don't.

If it's not difficult then the parent should have sorted it. I can repeat this in many formats.

And if several children in each class had forgotten their hair bands/elastics?? Is the teacher to stand and write a note in every reading book??

Do you have any idea how long that would take?? And what are the other children doing while the teacher is doing this??? What are they learning as they stand/sit around while the teacher writes little notes to parents who should know better??

Parent is sorting it. Probably already has. There was still no need for the teacher to behave as he did.

I can't get worked up over it - i genuinely think it was said in jest.

This is why i have daily battles with teenagers turning up to classes without a pen - they expect me to provide. I've had no stationery provided this year because of cuts - i take 4 long classes per day - should i buy enough pens for all of them? Type reminders in their i phones?

Take some responsibility and teach your kids to too please

Teenagers are a whole lot different to a 7 year old.